Is love is that foolish???
By Jotomy
@Jotomy (6322)
India
October 16, 2011 12:31am CST
I have a friend she has problems with her husband oflate she came to know her husband is with another woman. She explained me everything and felt bad, i told her to better leave him for some days and let him realize your love and come back to you. She cried and cried and ultimately she said i know him what he is, he is good but he has this one bad side for that i can't leave him if he is not perfect with me, i love him anyway because i promised him that i will be with him forever.
Now i feel love really a great one which can forgive any mistakes of our beloved ones whatever may they are, and also love is so great not foolish?
Learn to love people who even hates you that's what i learned, we learn some good things from our surroundings and the people.
Your comments on this friends and share with me.
God bless you all. Have a good day. 
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9 responses
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
17 Oct 11
What is love based on? Its based on trust. If someone breaks that trust, can you actually have a firm relationship? Well my perspective is, if that person doesn't love her and shares himself with someone else, can he actually love her back even if she is ready to forgive? Can she leave her home everyday thinking her husband is not creeping behind her back again? Can she trust him again and live happily? Well but I do appreciate her for her loving heart of forgiveness, its not easy to forgive a cheater. But as she explained, may be he is just bad at that, may be he is a good provider of the family, may be he takes care of her, her children, may be he is a good person, so only she has so much love for a person who does not love her.
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@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
18 Oct 11
That's good for her, she has that immense love for him. But what if he comes back with some STD's when he is back to her? Anyways, coming to Bible, Bible asks to forgive not 7 times, but 7000 times no doubt. But it is also a biblical obligation to forgive or separate from a adulterer, its just as huge a sin as murder.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Oct 11
Ho come on dear, i know your frustration, but what you learn from the bible, forgive the people who do mistakes, right. I do agree dear that no one want to forgive the cheater and they can't also but what about your love, is your love is not true against that person? then think about it, if our love is pure then we are ready to do anything for them, and you know what she says, if he is happy with her, let him be happy i need his happiness, if he is not getting happiness from me then what i can do, just see his happiness and live by seeing his happiness, i feel that is a pure love, i know and can understand whoever are there in this line (woman). Yeah that person is so good, some times i do feel he is quite open and innocent, he doesn't know what he is doing actually, sometimes i feel selfish also, he is looking for his own happiness rather thinking about herself, but he doesn't have any other bad sides. What she says is, he has only this bad attitude, for one mistake i can't leave him, i will wait for him till become good and come back to me. Anyway i hope good days will come. I pray god all should be set right for you too.
Have a good day dear
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
It depends on what a person thinks on the situation of your friend. She really loves her husband so much that he could not leave him. But now a days, this kind of love is very rare already. Most wives can not tolerate their husbands regarding this matter. Your friends is one of these rare specie.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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16 Oct 11
I think that a lot of people are foolish in the name of love, and it is certainly something that people should really be thinking about during the course of their lives. I don't think that I would ever be able to forgive someone for cheating on me, for example, but at the same time I have put up with a lot of things from my partner that a lot of people probably think that they wouldn't put up with if they had been in the same situation as me. But I guess you don't know how you'd react to anything until you're actually put in that position.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
16 Oct 11
It is true that love is almost always the answer to everything and I appreciate the love your friend has for her husband is great enough for her to want to forgive him the indiscretion but I think that is where it should stop because if he was to do it again I would forgive again straight after I moved out!
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 11
Yes. Love is stupid, and making stupid. I also experienced the same thing, to those experienced by your friends. My husband has another woman, but I was still beside her, and trying to be a good wife.
Actually I want to leave my husband, but I was not able to leave my husband.
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@couchPotato100 (94)
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17 Oct 11
Cheating is a No No. Your friend is very strong for being able tolerate her husband cheating and for being able to forgive him. That has to be one of the hardest thing to do.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Oct 11
Hi couchpotato, yeah she knows that he is cheating her, not only once she heard about it, she heard many times about him still she gives respect for him though it is very hard to digest these things still she is tolerating because she loves him so purely. She said she wants his happiness, always she says wherever he may be should be happy thats what her thinking.
Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day/night.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
11 Nov 11
Once a person starts loving a person sincerely, it is difficult to take away that love from them. As far as possible, the mind tries to forgive them and hopes that the bad situation will change one day. After so much waiting and only as a last resort, the mind will compromise for a separation. But the other person should realise this sincere love which is very precious.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
12 Nov 11
Hi sister, how are you? After long gap i saw your response.
Yeah, you are true, he should realise her sincere love towards him, as you said love is so precious should not be loose.
Hope you are doing good. Happy to see you in my discussion.
Have a wonderful day.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
hello sis,
Nice to see you again 
I understand about your friend.
I've been there once.
I was cheated and I've forgiven my ex-hus _th times (I can't remember how many times)
Until one day I woke up and realized it's time to moved one and let go.
I love myself and I need to respect myself before any others.
So,I decided that "enough is enough"
Now,I am happy living alone with kids.
One thing I am sure of, there is a better life after FREEDOM :)
Wish you friend the best of her married life.
Have a great Sunday dear 
I understand about your friend.
I've been there once.
I was cheated and I've forgiven my ex-hus _th times (I can't remember how many times)
Until one day I woke up and realized it's time to moved one and let go.
I love myself and I need to respect myself before any others.
So,I decided that "enough is enough"
Now,I am happy living alone with kids.
One thing I am sure of, there is a better life after FREEDOM :)
Wish you friend the best of her married life.
Have a great Sunday dear @Jotomy (6322)
• India
17 Oct 11
Hi jai, sorry to hear about you? But you are great jai, forgiving your husband. Jai feeling sad, you are such a nice one and got husband like that, hope he will come back to you jai, i don't know i am feeling you and your husband will live together. I pray for you jai.
Have a great day/night jai. Thanks for sharing / open with me.
@writersolutions10 (497)
• India
16 Oct 11
Love is always beautiful and it depends on people how they take them... enjoy life with love...
