To trust friend whole-heartedly or not?

This happened to me before way back in college. Me and a friend went to buy something for our project but I had my phone with me always. When we returned, I saw our bags on the hallways and the person who was supposed to be watching our things went ahead without telling us. He said that he was reprimanded by our discipline officer so he left. I did have a talk with him and I sounded real angry. He could've texted us or something or brought our bags with him. Anyway, in my opinion, yes you do have the right to be angry. Have your friend be in your position and he finds out that his bag was neglected while you go somewhere. I think he'll react the same way you do. But don't blow a fuse yet. Try talking to them and point out your view. If they are indeed your friend, they'll listen to you and next time, just bring your things with you rather than leaving it with them.

We are supposed to trust but I learned with time that we HAVE TO HAVE A REASON TO TRUST and not just trust because we knkow this person for years. The secret is to know a person's heart. A good hearted person just CAN'T stab you in the back, it's just not possible for them. They could be tempted by your boyfriend/husband, they could be tempted to dish about you in a gossip group or just be willing to put it out there because you and her had a fight or something, you know like talking about problems not in a way of gossip, well a real friend would if needed to, talk about you with her husband, with her sister, someone that she really trusts because she is really needing to put it out but she would consider to whom she would talk to about you. Good hearted people usually have morals, even if they didn't have they begin to build it with time.

I would like to say you shouldn't change at all but I would be not helping you if I did. I don't like not trusting people but sometimes you have to. I used to trust all my friends because they were my friends and they wouldn't hurt me or rip me off. Right! Not...I went out from work with 3 girlfriends and 2 guys I was friends with. We went to the bar for a few drinks and we all ended up staying later than we originally thought and were still there when the dancing started. So I was dancing most of the night but there was always one girl left at the table to watch the purses. At the end of the evening we all got our own way home and I took a cab home. I opened my wallet from my purse to find all my money gone. I had over $400 because I had money with me to pay my babysitter and I only spent about $40 at the bar so I should have had about $370 or so left. One of my good friends had to have stolen my money because there was one of us left at the table at all times to watch our purses. I asked the girls and guys the next monday, it was a friday and we didn't work on the weekends, and they had no idea how the money could have dissappeared as my purse was never left alone. And the funny thing was that no one else had money missing. One of the girls quit her job, we all worked together for about 5 years at the time, suddenly. I am sure it wasn't because of me but it just seemed funny how not even a week later she just phoned in and quit. I think she knew she was going to quit so she ripped me off before she did because the opportunity arose. And after she quit her job she wouldn't take my phone calls. So I knew something was up. I have been taken advantage of a few times...simular to this story...so now I don't trust anyone and I don't like living that way but I have no choice. I never carry any money on me anymore...not that much anyways. After that I paid my babysitter with a check instead of cash. Good luck and happy mylotting my friend, Chris

I used to loan money to my friends whenever they asked me to, but then I had some problems with a friend of mine who promised to pay me some money and then just didn't bother to do so and that made me lose trust in my friends and I decided at that point that I would never loan money to them again because it just wasn't worth the trouble that it was causing for me during the course of my life. The only person I ever trust completely is myself, and I do think that it is a very good way in which to live your life.

You got to tell them how you felt when they left your bag unattended. If the same situation happens, learn from that experience. You may trust them in some matters but when it comes to your belongings, you may take extra care of whom to entrust with. What you had is a learning experience of what they are. They may have forgotten about it but if it happens again and again, then it is a habit. Habits are hard to break. If they really are your friends, then you got to accept them for what they are and tell them what they need to know. They may heed your advise or not. But a true friend would acknowledge and would not get angry when a friend told them the truth. It is hard to trust and be trusted. Usually, trust is earned. The same goes with friendship. Deeper relationship takes time to make it ripe. Trust fully only the Lord. But give trust to those who have earned it. Have a nice day.

It is really good to trust friends and be kind but i personally feel too much of trust in any one for that matter is not a great idea..u never know when any one of them will misuse the trust u have had in them and that will come as a blow to you . so to save yourself from getting hurt is not to trust too much... but if all of us remain trusthworthy of our friends then this place would have been a heaven on earth.

There are friends and there are true friends. There is a fine line between being friendly and taking advantage of you in the disguise of friendship. I do help friends when they are in real need but if I got the feeling that I am taken advantage of I get out of the friendship..since my concept of friendship is never being in a relationship where you feel a victim.

There are friends and there are true friends. There is a fine line between being friendly and taking advantage of you in the disguise of friendship. I do help friends when they are in real need but if I got the feeling that I am taken advantage of I get out of the friendship..since my concept of friendship is never being in a relationship where you feel a victim.

well I think you should distinguish which friend that can be trusted, you can count on, and the one you can't. sure I think you are nice not to demand too much from your friends. but still, I think you should start learning which friend you can count on and not.