various roles of my life

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Once you understand that you are the Enlivening Force to the roles of your life, then. your focus shifts to transforming yourself as the Enlivening Force (the person) than just making role-based changes. There is no way you can become a better husband without becoming a better person. Like spot reduction is not possible in physical fitness, a mere role-oriented change, without changing as a person, isn't possible. Attitudes and character traits cannot be role-dependent. They have to be developed in your core. Improve as a person, and not just as a role. you begin to understand that life is about balancing between the roles and it is not about being a one-role wonder. Either your professional success comes at the cost of your family life, or your passionate involvement to a hobby affects your professional progress, or for that matter any role-based imbalance will affect the over all balance of your life. Few streaks of yellow and orange and blue and black don't make a painting. Only if there is a proper balancing of colours it makes a painting. Life is all about balance. you also realize that you dump the emotions of one role on the other. Most emotional truculences in relationships are a result and effect of having to deal with emotions that don't belong to that relationship. The frustrated professional results in an indifferent husband; a complaining daughter-in-law becomes an agitated mother. Shifting roles without carrying the emotions of one role into another is a learnt trait. It comes with awareness and practice. Never take personal life to work, and never bring the professional home. Consciously learn role adaption. you will be peaceful and those around you will be peaceful. The purpose of certain relationships is to come with you till the end. However, certain relationships will come, serve a purpose, and then leave. Please understand, with the end of a relationship, nothing else ends. Everything else continues. You still have a responsibility towards other relationships. So often we get so disturbed by what has left us, we no more rejoice what we are left with. Focusing too much on a relationship that's lost will not allow you to do justice to relationships that continue. When you are overtly disturbed by what happens in one of the roles of your life, that disturbance spills over disturbing by what happens in one of the roles of your life, that disturbances spills over disturbing all other roles of your life. So remember, even when everything seems lost, you the enlivening force and the rest of your life, still remains. With or without anybody, with or without anything, keep moving... remember, you are the Enlivening Force to the various roles of your life, and it is not the roles which enable you to survive.