Why is it that you realize the significance of the person when she/he is gone?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
October 17, 2011 12:03am CST
I am quite flattered with the turn of event in my current organization. My superior ask me to stay since I am about to leave the company in two (2) months time. Yes, they now realized that they need. But I was burn and I made my decisions already. That's one trait that I haven't changed until now. When I made my mind already, I stick to it. Though I want to consider their plea, yet I think that they may change for a short while but in the long run, they may return to what they are used to doing... and that is to pass the blame on me.
With this I realized that even in a relationship, when you lost someone, it is the time to regret that you did not manage to care enough for that person. I noticed this with my sister and my friends' experiences. Why can't people be more thoughtful of others and as a result regret it when that person is gone?
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
When my boss got mad at me because of some reason, she told me to resign with the company and I asked her to give me time because I am a single mom and I needed a job. She keeps on harassing me and then she got tired and stopped. After a few months when I was ready to resign, I filed my resignation. To my surprise, she called me in her office and offered me a much higher salary instead. She told me that the company needed me and they will have hard time looking for a qualified candidate that knows my job well. I considered her offer without having second thought because I have to be practical and set aside my pride for my child. I knew that they saw my worth in the company because after she told me to resign, I did everything to made her realize that I will be a big lose to the company. Now, we have a good working relationship.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Hello junmae.
That is a good thing for you. At least they learned your value and you showed them that you are an asset to the company.
I wish you luck in your career. My advice is keep on growing by having a passion for learning and do not hesitate to accept extra work.
Have a nice day!
@umabharti (3972)
• India
18 Oct 11
You had done a good thing,once decided should go off with that,if not it willbecome ruin for us.
When someone leaves then definetly we fee bad,however if the same person stays back sometimes very rare we dont like that or keep the same feel for it.
In job place if we feel to leave then its good to leave in a frienly way ,as we dont know wht happens in the future.Should see a good job which suits us and then leave this one which we are no more wanting or have desire to be with.
Many will feel bad as we depart,but in less time they get used to things ,Only some will be there who can not handle such departion.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Hi umabharti.
Thanks for your insights. I feel appreciated now by my subordinates and co-employees. I do know that after such separation, they would eventually forget me. Otherwise, I give an effort to keep in touch with them. I cannot expect other people to do that to me. So I guess I have to make an effort of reaching up to them.
Best regards and have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
This is reality and truth about life.
We always realized the value and worth of one thing or a person once we lost it.
It's sad right...but it's a fact.
Somehow it give us a good lesson not to do same mistake again and value things before regretting after we lost it.
have a good day 
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Very right.
Experience is the best teacher for us. But we can learn from the experience of others. However, it's up to us if we would open our eyes to the lessons that life is giving us.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I think it is because we naturally overlook people who are in front of us. We grew tired of their presence one way or another, maybe intentionally or unintentionally. That is why they say that absence or distance makes the heart grow fonder. It is hard to always be into the person that you are with.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
That's a good observation tessa9. I hope this discussion would shed light to some of the people who will be able to read our discussion.
I always change that saying that you mentioned. I tell my friends that, "Absence or distance makes the heart grow fonder... FOR ANOTHER." hahaha...
We need to learn how to enjoy the presence of the people we are with every time we are with them.
Have a nice day!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Sometimes the presence of a person in our life makes us feel too secure and too comfortable we tend to neglect their importance. It's only when they are gone that we start to miss them and think how important their presence is in our life.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Feeling too secure and too comfortable should tell us that we need to care and value the people whom we feel such profound feelings. Thank you for this remark. Now I have gauge of the people whom I should value more. Who are these people whom I feel comfortable and secured.
Best regards to you toniganzon.
@tgvspeaks (75)
• India
17 Oct 11
yes as Vasumathy says ,there are many sayings that convey that you appreciate the thing only upon its loss! So I guess that has been the tendancy all over the world for generations and generations.In fact , we even pray sincerely only in times of difficutly and not always with the same intensity to convey gratitude to God.
I think people take everythign for granted and assume that is the way till they lose it. If we sit back to imagine how life would be without atleast one item (living friend or non-living appliance ) around us everyday , we will surely learn to value it better
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
I guess, when we are young, our tendency to neglect what we have is much stronger. But when we get older and experienced a lot of losses, then we tend to value more the blessings that comes our way.
Thanks for commenting.
@modeofevasion (86)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
That's not always the case, though. I think people just realize it more, when something is gone. That's one of people's flaws. They are so preoccupied in getting what they don't and can't have, that they tend to neglect what they already have. So when that thing is gone, (they don't have it anymore), they want it back.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
You are correct in your evaluation. People tends to be shortsighted in terms of what they have. Some who have less actually are much happier. These are people who are appreciative of all blessings received.
Thanks for commenting.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
17 Oct 11
There is a nice saying in our place " we would realize the importance of a shadow only when we walk through the sunny day !!! " . Like that we will realize the importance of people only when they leave us.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
I hope that would not happen to me. Because of such thoughts, I tend to appreciate my family now and give them all the love I can. I try to treat them right.
Before, when I was younger, I tend not to appreciate my father and my mother. But now that I'm a lot older, I appreciated them more. Thanks to the bad experience I had. That was when I had a fall and broke my foot. I saw them caring for me when my friends, because of their busy work schedules, failed to even give me a visit.
Thanks for your quote. It is a nice one. I will post it on my FB.
