She would rather let the foods rot than to share them.The most selfish person I ever knew...

thats a sad story. often behaviour like that is caused by things that happened long ago in childhood. maybe she thought she was the least favourite child, or something like that, and became resentful, or possibly she was the favourite and didn't like sharing, it may be rooted in sibling rivalry that is still being fought out, in her mind, all those years later, some people are like that. if i were you and i wanted to solve the problem i might go and see her and take her a very small present, and then sit there and listen to all the long long stories about when she was a child and find out what the issues are, which are bound to be revealed at some point. but then its an awful lot of effort and might well be impossible to resolve, i think you may just have to accept her failings.

I totally can relate. My aunt is also like that. She had lots of fruits at home and we asked her if we can have a piece of banana. She refused. After a couple of days, we saw that the fruits were already rotten. She let it rot than to give it to us. Also one time, she had a party at home, there were lots of foods. She told us not to eat too much and not to eat like a pig. After a day, the foods were spoiled and were wasted. I don't know why there are people like that. What were they thinking? Don't they feel guilty wasting food than giving it to others?

hi ferbjohn second time. some people are born selfish and never change. its a shame she could have given a l ot of mangoes to her neighbors and still had some for herself. could be she is also a mental case.I feel sorry for people that selfish as I bet they make no friends as they cannot share things with anyone. I wonder what makes people act like that. I know of a few but they sure are not my friends.Perhaps they had selfish parents too. who knows. they are pitiful people for su re.

I also know someone who is greed like your aunt. People who prefer to have their foods given to pets or in trash bin than giving it to other people, not even to their relatives. I wonder what kind of people are those ones. Have a good day

Unbelievable! That's really a bad attitude.. I can understand a little if she's going to sell it or giving it to another people so she wasn't willing to give one.. But instead, she just let it rotten.. :( By the way, maybe it is because your younger brother had some problems with your auntie before? If that's why, then he should make an apologize.. But if it not.. well.. I wish your auntie can change her attitude soon. Maybe you can start to help her changing by talking to her? :)

I have encountered a lot of people who are just like your aunt. They are indeed selfish. If you have abundant supply (especially that of perishable goods), you are meant to share it with your loved ones. She is probably thinking of selling the mangoes. I used to have a boss who received boxes of foods from our company's client. She won't distribute them to us because she wants to see if she could sell them first. It turned out that there was no buyer and the food expired. She gave those packed goods anyway and many were angry because the food was already beyond the best before date. Although many would say foods beyond the best before date are still safe to eat, but the fact that she gave them to us very late insulted my coworkers' feelings.

Yeah. Some people have that attitude. I had a colleague with that mentality. During lunch hours we used to share our dishes. And this person receives all dishes from us but never shares his. But, your aunt's attitude may be "if we encourage this today, they will continue. So this should not be allowed.". There are some people with the same attitude.

Hi John! She is really like someone I know. They don't like to share it with others and will rather let the foods get expired or rotten and it has happened many times. Because of it we know that we can't asked and rely on them because they are kind of stingy people. They should know that is is good deed to share things with others.When they are happy we will feel the same too. Perhaps she just don't get it..(^^)

well people are sometimes selfish and would not want to share with other people what they have. These kind of people do not know the happiness derived from sharing and would only know it dire consequences when they will have to ask or beg from others and then be refused. The works of bad karma, I supposed!

I know people who are like that. She refused to give some to have something for her refrigerator to keep. Sometimes, it is a result of poverty during her younger years, maybe she had experienced hunger which lead to that attitude. I hope someone who is very close to her could open her mind and tell her straight that we she is doing is wrong.

Now a days peoples are so much selfish towards themselves. They are only caring only for themselves and do harmful things for others to safe them for living. As so only joint family are separated into small family with only father mother and childrens. Relations always play for their sake.

That is so sad. You know what, people like her will not blessings.

It is not the question on beign selfish. It is the question of authority. By refusing , she establishes a stern superior air . Also they let it rot because they think that if they let you have it , you will ask for more and hence they have cut you off right there. These people are those freaks who want to control the whole world around them! They are also dissatisfied with their life always and think that spreading joy has no meaning for they never got any! Instead of teaching such people any lessons , they are best avoided . Also since she is your aunt , your retaliation would just get interpreted as disobeying and bad parenting! Consider her a sick person and move on!

well its too bad on the part of your aunt. she is not serving the right cause.it would have been better if she would have opted to give away to others rather then getting it rotted and unappetizing for anybody else.

maybe she doesn't want him to get sick from the rotten mango's.

My husband's father's like that. He's a hoarder, actually, and keeps everything he can get his hands on. That's including meats that he buys so much of and it builds up in his freezer so that he doesn't have room for them. Some meats are 2 years old and my husband's mother ends up throwing them out because of freezer burn. Sometimes she's able to rescue some and give it to us before it goes bad. But if he ever finds out she gave us the meats or even threw it out even though it got spoiled he'd have a fit. I think it is selfishness that people don't want to share. People like your aunt and my husband's father need help.

I have a relative that is like that. He left the food in the table after he feels full. He does not think of giving it to the neighbor but rather take it back in the refrigerator then re heat it again till it becomes rotten then he throws it away. I told him several times that if he has some excess be it of food or anything he must learn to share it. His mother was the most giving person I know but he does not take after her.

Hi! I also knew somebody who has this kind of attitude. This Kind of person loves to do hoarding and they are afraid of losing these things that's why they keep it for themselves. Although this is not a good attitude, let us just pray that God will be able to change them.

It's actually not surprising cos there r selfish pp everywhere. It's sad tho' when it's one's own relative or family.

That's bad.Why did she let it rot instead giving ti to her nephew,in the first place he is her relative.People should not practice attitude like that.We share what we have to people who are in need.Its better to give than to receive.