I am a different person on line
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
October 18, 2011 12:30am CST
I am sure alot of people are like that here and on other websites. On line I can give advice,act confident,secure,sincere,happy,honest, intelligent,a man hater,an animal lover,understanding,trying to get people to understand me and that I am crazy! I am alot of those things in real life! I am an animal lover. I try to be underdtanding as I can. I'm pretty happy. I don't give out advice in real life. I have a bad habit of trying to get everyone in liofe to understnad me! I am not truly secure because I am sensitive and am on line like here on Mylot! I have struggled with confidence all my life and it has gottan lot better but I still struggle with it! I have realized I can and do sabatoge myself! It takes me ,sometimes,to realize yes it is ok to feel good about something! I am scared,at times,I will become arrogant and so bad I will never come back down to earth! Then there are times I get so stubborn I lose sight of growing my confidence better,I become stupid stubborn! It takes me along time,once in awhile to except things and that holds me back! Like my weight problem! Another thing I have battled all my life! Having lack of confidence doesn't help and getting depressed doesn't help either! So this is the true me! Believe me or not!
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10 responses
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Oct 11
I see you offline as being confident in some ways and not confident in others. I see you as being a bit outspoken because I see you as being honest. You never BS anyone.
I'm still a little shy on-line. I have opened up sometimes but there are still many scars that need to heal.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
28 Oct 11
You nailed it on the head! I could not of discribed myself better! 
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@francesca5 (1344)
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21 Oct 11
i sometimes think i am more reserved online, interestingly. but it depends on what i'm talking about, and who to.
its good that you recognise that you aren't perfect, blue65, but i hope you are not being too hard on yourself, as i suspect the happier and more confident online person is probably the real you. whereas the person who can sometimes be a bit difficult because they lack confidence offline probably, like most people who lack confidence, has a good reason for lacking it, so best to explore the underlying reasons rather than just blaming yourself.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
28 Oct 11
I am hard on myself alot! I know alot of my problems with confidence is not all my fault! I know how it started and I am slowly dealing with it. I am hard on myself for other reasons which is a work in progress!
@francesca5 (1344)
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28 Oct 11
thats good to hear, only don't be hard on yourself for being hard on yourself!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Oct 11
I believe it. And I totally understand. Before a few years ago I was Very similar. Offline I was very shy and I Never tried to voice my opinion. But after getting support from my dear friend I'm almost as open offline as I am here. The main thing is that you are happy. That you get to vent and share here. I'm glad we are friends.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I have learned to be less shy and come out of my shell from friends and just being out in the real world in the past years. Alot of stuff I do here I don't do in real life! Like venting like this! I am pretty happy and I am glad we are friends,too!
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
19 Oct 11
Many are because we have time to think while having a discussion or something, it's like our friendship can be different through e-mail and physically present in front of a friend. There are even people who have an easier time to talk about their feelings when they are on messenger for example, I hear about revealing to a crush one likes him/her because it's easier.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
It is easier being someone less then being totally myself here on line. I got the idea from a Mylot friend for this discusssion. It is empowering in someways being someone on lne then I am in real life! It is alot easier to talk to someone on line then it is in real life! One of the things I like talking on line!
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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19 Oct 11
hi:)
many people are different online, like me I'm also different in real world than here, maybe because here we can think what we will type, and if doesn't look nice we can always edit, unlike in real life we can't edit what we already said and we usually react on some things without even thinking first. i think mostly do:)
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I like knowing I can being different on line! I don't know most of the people I know on line in real life! I don't have to give my name and be anonymous! I don't have to give out infroemation unless I have to! That is really great! It kind of gives me a good feeling!
@airkulet (2700)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
I understand what you feel! A lot of people I guess do the same also, they become what they cannot really do in real life in this virtual world. For me that is all OK and I don't see anything wrong with it. But as a human you should improve yourself because that was the real life, and the real you too.
What's the point of having a lot of fans here in internet when in real life you are just nothing.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I am improving my life in real life. I have been doing this for a quite a few years! I like going on line being someone else! I hope some of this wears off on me in the real world so I can continue to improve myself in real life!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
i think we all are different, depends on who we talk to, on what venue.
We are different with our parents, and families.
We are different with our love ones
We are different with our close friends
We are different with our work mates, and totally different too when we talk or are in contact with our office bosses. :D
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
Very good point Chiyosan! We are all different when we are with different people! I am different when I am at work then when I am with my family! I never eally thought about it until you mentioned it! What you said is so true!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 Oct 11
You sound alot like me. I am who I am, on and offline. I am turly genuine offline and try to be for the most part online too but can play with a little bit on here.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I think a lot of people acts differently online. There is anonymity online so you can pretty much say whatever you like without really thinking about it since it is not that personal.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
There is anonymity on line and I have keep alot of myself to myself. Sometimes I have gone overboard about stuff going on in my life. I do get to personal at times but I know others online do too! Other Mylotters have done that too! I need to remember everyone is human!
@tgvspeaks (75)
• India
18 Oct 11
Anonimity is a Big factor. Also mostly it is written over the spontaneous talking that we have in real life, so we take our time to react.
Another reason is that inspite of having many online friends for years, they are still just virtual entity who would not come back to our life and (mis)quote what we once said!
And since there is no bias mostly with unknown people , the reactions on either side are true and hearfelt, another factor as being able to be totally truthful just makes us really proud of ourselves. And yes , Most of us are different people here :)
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I keep forgetting quite alot of people on line are not the same as they are in real life! I just never thought of it! It is nice there is alot of anonimity here on Mylot and other sites. Sometimes I think I let people know to much of myself but I should not let that get to me! Lots of people do and are really bad! Everyone is different and there is nothing wrong wiith that!
