Is it true? Some people always try to demote to others work not check themselves

Oh yes my dear friend this does happen in life. Sad but true and not a good thing to do. We should not criticize anyone and look within ourselves to find our own errors. I can understand if a friend and or caring person pointed out my errors with the hopes that I can improve, but if it were done with the intent to appear as if they were better then me then I would be hurt over it. I do not mind constructive criticism, and actually would appreciate it. But am not one to intentionally hurt anyone as to cover my own faults.

You are right, some people like to find fault with others, and look for their mistakes all the time. If they take care to do their own best job, they will not have time to criticize the work of others.

Nice point. In this regard I invite reference to an incident given in mahabharatha. Krishna asked Duryodhana to go out and find out how many good people are there. He returned and said the whole world consists of rogues and all are bad people only. Similarly Krishna asked Dharma to go out and find out how many good people are there. Dharma returned and said that all the people in the world are good. Not even one person is a bad man. this incident reveals about perception. Some people always find fault with others and some others always encourage others. Rest you can learn and understand.

Hello Surekha, It is true there are some people who always try to demotivate us though they do the same mistakes themselves. But it hardely demotivates me because i never listen to anyone's advice till i analyse myself and find out yes i did that mistake.If i start demotivaitng with what people find in me i think i won't be able to do anything and make my life messy so i don't mind what people say unless and untill i feel that i have done a mistake. Because its the easiest thing in the world to find mistake in someone's work so people do that and if asked do the same work may be they will do it with more mistakes you had done so never be serious what people say and don't make your life miserable by thinking why people said that.

unfortunatly we people are very jealous and most of us like to feel better because of the other people's bad stuff not good things of our own.

It always happen to my husband's work. He is is Qatar in Construction and he is dealing with other fellow nations and I don't want to detailed it but some workers there are quite hard headed at work.

I am experiencing this with a colleague just now. She is just finding fault with others and does not realize that she too makes a lot of mistakes too. If everyone would check their own faults first I think they would improve themselves.

hi surekharahi I suppose there are some peole like that but I find the majority of peo ple I meet do not put others down to push themselves u p. Maybe I just know good people but we tend to always think the worst of people instead of the best. That is just not true that a lot of people do this, its true that a few may do this.,Even in a bushel of apples you often find one or two rotten apples.I look at people with a positive view point wanting to believe most are kind good decent people .I do not think that many people do this and I do look at the wo rld as being good as i am a good person and do not discriminate or demote others works. I think we may be be a positive good if we do expect most all to be good also.Sure in real life there are always a few stinkers but most of us are good kind helpful people.

I must agree with you on this one for sure. It is true that many of us tend to put other people down while thinking we are better than everyone else. Sometimes our actions are actually because we really do not think highly of ourselves (although that sounds backwards).. we put others down so we can feel better... it is much better to think about helping ourselves improve isn't it though?

dear sis, That's human natural behavior, judging others without looking at themselves. Ignore those kind of people since we cannot avoid them. They're always around trying to put down other people. Keep away from them and try not to be close with them,that's the way my dear. have a good day

It is human nature. They are so smart enough to pinpoint other's mistakes and even so cunning to hide their mistakes. In most cases, people won't feel so big in their mistakes as they consider it as so silly.

Hi sis!! A really good topic sis. Criticism is what we always do without we ever realized it.Today we find other people mistakes and critic them and tomorrow others will critic us back for the same or different things. When we do things correctly we always think that we are correct and look down on others and here we go with giving all the critics and comments to others and when we do the same mistakes we tend to forget that we did correct others about it at the past. That is why we say that we are all not perfect. There are pros and cons for it. With it we will likely feel the life miserable when all people around think they are good while at the same time, if there is no critics we will never see and changes and turning point. We can't help it. For example the critics and comments I got today maybe were the same things that I have given to others the other day. It's like what goes around comes around..(^^)

Hi SR I guess there are many people like that. They do found mistakes from others and repeat the same one in their life. I have also seen some people who used to advice other and told everybody to follow it and I found that they are not following that advice at all.

I can't say I meet much people who only critisize other peoples work and not their own. Those I know and who do that are also very hard, if not harder, to their own work. It's never good enough what they do. I don't agree with you that seeing or looking for mistakes in work people did is discrimination. It has nothing to do with that. Also some people are payed (or many are) to check the work others did. If that is your job it's not easy to tell what that other person did do wrong. It's not a very popular job either since many people think that if the job is not done well they as a person are not ok either. But these are two difference things. You as a person are not the same as the work you did/delivered. It's hard to do a job very well since you are different as someone else and there are different opinions about what is good or not. But if you work for someone you have to do it their way.

Hi there! I notice that many keeping making complaints. In the process of making complaints people forget that - "if they point one finger of theirs towards other person, three of their own fingers, point towards them." Perhaps some want to prove that they are superior or better than other and they want to score over others. May be finding fault with others, help them feel they they do not have any faults. What about you? Do you make complaints?

I tend to think that the reason that there are a lot of people that try to demote themselves because of the fact that they know that there are problems within themselves and because of that they want to find faults in other people so that they will look better than they do. With that said, I don't look for the faults in other people, instead I look for the positive things about all of the people that I meet in my life.

Yeah, this happens. Mostly if your superior is suspecting you're after his position, he'll most likely sabotage everything you do. In most cases, this becomes the scenario, survival of the fittest and wisest. You'll just have to accept that fact if you wanna be ready for corporate warfare.

I have observed this type of great habit in housewives those who are always chatting with neighbors.

That is the mistake of many people. This is why even in the Bible, it says, He who is innocent cast the first stone. Another written was, Clean first the inside of the bowl. It is because people have this tendency to see the mistakes of the others instead of looking at one's own mistakes. This is also why I see our world to be going down further, because of the self acknowledgement of mistakes to make oneself improve, one just has this tendency to push the mistakes to the others. Improvement therefore becomes more impossible.

People are not good or bad strictly in scientific or psychological terms. People are genetically wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. However, when people are organized in groups and in social life in a civilized manner, norms and rules of behavior emerge so as to maximize the group benefits. A person that breaks the norms and rules is labeled bad and the one that follows those rules are good. The reason some people break rules or norms is because they cannot restrain themselves. They re the people with what may be called criminal genes. However, if you begin finding faults with others you are unwittingly becoming the victim of the very charge you label against the others. So, I recommend when you analyze a person try to see them in totality, I'm sure everyone has something good about them as well as something that may not be to the liking of others. The societies exist because we have learned to accommodate and eventually assimilate.