what can i do when anger comes with out control

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques. Some simple steps you can try: Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.Nonstrenuous, exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.

Be silent for some time and try get out of the place immediately

I think there are far to many problems in this world because of people who don't know how to control their anger. Simply learning how to do some deep breathing can be incredibly helpful to those who have anger issues, because it gives them something else to think about other than whatever happens to be making them angry at the time. I had a lot of issues with my anger in the past, however my friends have helped me to get through that now, and I have stopped being so angry and feel as though I am much more in control of my life because of that.

We have an old saying suggesting when we feel our anger is about to come out of control, we count to 10 before we do something stupid. Take a deep breath and try to get ahold of yourself. Going to a quiet place where you can clear your head will do the job, too. In case anger outbreaks become more frequent, many people see therapist for anger management. Classic music also helps.

Hai friend i think you are very new to mylot.. Your question must be as descriptive as you can.. coming to our discussion try meditation to calm down your anger.Try to have patience when you are in anger..

What i do when in really angry and i feel like i might explode any moment,i go to my room or a closed room and stay quiet for a moment,need not to talk to anybody or she/he will receive all my anger..when anger is boiling down ill go get myself a hot cup of coffee and never talk till i cool down...

Just go and find a place to be alone so that you don't shout at anybody! After some time you will cool down and then mingle with people.

you need to know what is directing your anger. Is it a thing or a person or a combination? I know when I was angry with my ex and trying to solve problems, I would take us to a public place like Mc Donalds and we had some pretty good decent conversations instead of having a yelling match at home for the children to hear. We knew we could not raise our voice in a public place so I think its when we listened to each other the most. If I need to regroup my anger I either talk it out with a friend or get out of the house and just change my scenery can assist in helping me with coping with being able to forget the problems for a bit. When you do that then you sometimes realize the problem and anger was not as blown up as at the minute you were angered. If you have a recurring problem with anger which my oldest son and my husband's middle son have, then maybe some counseling would help. But the problems with counseliing is they give you suggestions and ideas to turn your life around. But you have to be willing to want to do it for you not anyone else. It did not work for either one of these sons. My son is working off a 4 year probation and my husbands son is working off a 10 year probation. Check yourself write down a list of pros and cons of your anger and what you can learn to deal with. Sometimes seeing a list on paper is the most valuble source we can use to learn to help ourselves. Good Luck! Oh I see you are new, WELCOME TO MYLOT!

You are right my new friend anger is not solution but everyone get anger onbody can live without anger and nobody can say I am not angry person because it may be some angry person are danger like my sweet husband not anger frequently but when anger then annoyed and other angry person like me every time anger but no value of anger

Take it easy. Don't depress your real feelings. Remember that angry is just a type of energey, let it come and let it go. I do hope this words can help you. Sometimes I was very angry too but couldn't find out effective way, just be angry and wait it disappear. Good luck!

Hi Deviji, I try to control anger by reminding myself that I could be at fault. I try to se he situation from the other persons point of view and try to find my faults. By doing this a few minutes will have passed and the impulse to shout back or retort will fade away. I also try to be alone and listen to music.

there is no problem to me if i am full of anger, because i have installed a wooden dummy and a punching bag here on my house...

Anger makes anger the loop must be broken and as suggested by others. If its your anger we are talking about the yes remove yourself to somewhere quiet and you will calm down. If its children's anger then remove them to somewhere quiet to calm down and when calm ask why the anger arose and point out another way of reacting to the problem.