Times where you wish you would have listened.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
October 18, 2011 1:58pm CST
I think we understand the importance of listening to people. It is extremely important now more than ever before to really open your ears and close your mouth. However, that lesson was not always learned. I think that there were many times where I wished I had listened when I was in my childhood/teenage years. Then again, who really knows if I would have learned the lessons that I would otherwise. Still there are times I think we all should have exercised better listening skills, even if it was in the distant past or perhaps you wish you could develop better listening skills today.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
18 Oct 11
We all know ,but we dont follow or the situations do come in such a way that they do not let us to be good listeners.Our ego or the self respect plays a role here and starts tellign our mouth to make use rather using the ears to hear.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Oct 11
That is extremely true. To some degree, we all know that we should try and listen. Even if the person turns out to be wrong in the end, at least we had the information in the end. However, if they had really have been right, then it would be a disaster in the making. There are a lot of times where pride has been the downfall of many great people. Ego is really a harsh thing and one that will be our downfall. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
19 Oct 11
Yes Ego and Pride can make any person to have a great fall in his or her life.
Rather having that pride and ego or raising for a conflict better we say to our self that may be other dont know what they are telling ,if we feel that others are same as we are then we can sort off many problems.When we feel proud or egoistic we try to create a fight,or try to put down the other person which is not a correct thing.
Self respect is different from being proud and egoistic.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Nov 11
That is just one of the more unfortunate truths. A lot of the time, we are the last people in the world that know we really need help. People are going to try and tell us like in the situation that you said. Then we are going to stubbornly dig our heels right into the ground and refuse to accept the help, refuse to listen, refuse to do anything.
Then there are going to be a rude awakening. If we can go back, we surely wish we could listen. Yet there are just going to be a lot of times where we are going to really be frustrated and wonder why. Yet, it is because we don't listen, that is why. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Oct 11
One essential thing that we forget is to listen not only with our ears and our brain but also with our heart. The heart judges with love, while the brain just judges and the ears can only hear, what the brain allows, until you engage your heart you miss the most important part. Blessings
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
24 Oct 11
Indeed that is all too true. All components that are going to work together as one are going to allow us to think, allow us to really feel, allow us to really get the full scope of things. Listening is far more complex than I think many people really give it credit for. However, it does not make it any less important to do so. Therefore the importance of listening is going to remain true, with all things working together. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
19 Oct 11
I have just had the same discussion with my son last night. I would get at him for some chores he didn't do. But instead of listening to me rant about it, he would also be talking and stating his excuse.
I told him to stop. Stop talking for a bit, and listen to me first. I was hoping that he would re-learn to listen first before he gets all defensive.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
24 Oct 11
This is a common communication breakdown. In fact, in many instances, it can get a person in more trouble. They are already really mounting a defense before they hear everything that they get accused from. Which in reality, depending on the situation, that could incriminate someone even more than they need to be. That is where the lack of listening really does come in. Some people just tend to get all angry before things are hashed out. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@genesisgroldan (214)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
One of the qualities of a matured person is being able to listen more and talk less. Well, for me, that was also one of my problems before. I tend to talk a lot and listen less. The result? I did not learn so much until I decided to change that habit. Well, there's nothing wrong with being talkative, it just needs to be balanced well. Some people just don't give a credit for your experience or does not just care about what you would have to say. If you would choose to listen more, I can say that you can learn a lot. It is even stated in the Bible that your tounge should be tamed.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
24 Oct 11
Finding a balance is in fact key. There are a lot of times where you might as well be talking too much. However, isn't there always times where you might not be talking enough. There comes a time where people do have to speak up and say, "hey wait a minute, now." Still it is a balance that many people do struggle to figure out and it is hard to do so. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@benwang (93)
• China
19 Oct 11
To my understanding, a good listener was inborn characteritics to some degree coz it's more related to one's personality.One who pursues for inner peace most probably be a good listener. For the ones who are more active and energetic, they could turn to be a good listener after they become calm down.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Oct 11
Indeed some rather learn good listening skills later on. Of course, it is long after there poor listening skills rather get them into trouble. But better late than never in any number of ways. Listening can really move us forward in life and it can make our lives so much more easier. A good listener can grow for sure. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
