Fist Fights
@katcarneo (1433)
Philippines
October 18, 2011 6:40pm CST
Last night a friend came over and started watching, on YouTube, video clips of actual physical fights of real people, men and women. It occured to me that that is not something I have experienced in my 26 years of experience.
I asked my boyfriend: "Have you ever punched anybody?" The answer was no. We both have never gotten into any physical fight and we sure hope that doesn't happen in the future.
Who here have experienced punching, slapping, kicking, or pulling someone's hair? How did it happen? Who has gotten into fights more than ones? Who hasn't, like me?
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Embarrassingly, I had my share of fights that fortunately didn't reach to the point were blood actually stained clothes or the environment where the fight happened.
The fights that I got into usually were due to misunderstanding, pride, arrogance, unfair treatment that reached boiling points and so one with things that could have been settled with clear and open communication.
There was this time that I was just rough housing, pretending to throw punches with a classmate of mine and accidentally gave him a hook to the jaw. It stung him badly and really had that part when he wanted to get back at me, other classmates intervened to my rescue (^_^")
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Good you didn't get seriously injured, nor did you seriously injure anybody. I guess for boys fist fighting is something that many go through so I was quite surprised my boyfriend had never punched anyone in his life. Perhaps I should ask him if he had been punched.
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@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Yes, I agree, no fighting!
My boyfriend is the kind of guy who stands in the middle of friends who are arguing and sorts out the problem before the said friends start being physical.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Perhaps your boyfriend was just fortunate enough to have never gone through any situation that made him throw a punch. Perhaps avoiding conflicts like that before they happen?
The Greatest Battles are those that are Never Fought, as the saying goes ('_^ )
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
19 Oct 11
Well, I've never punched, slapped, kicked or pulled anybody's hair, nor have I really ever fought back at all, but I have been punched, slapped, kicked, and have had my hair pulled, all in what some might still consider fights. I'm never physically fight back, because I'm well aware that I'll never be able to do so much as enough damage to get away, I'm way too weak, and don't know anything about pressure points. But I will get into fights with people which some might consider as simply getting beaten up, but I am still technically fighting back. I just prefer to fight in psychological and emotional ways, using word to bring the person to tears. As a side note, I'm never the one to start the fight. People will just try to beat me up, and I'll stay in the area, blocking their attacks while using words to make them upset and hurt enough that they stop trying to beat me up.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Ouch! You took in all those attacks, and some say not fighting back shows more bravery. I'm sorry you had to endure pain and I do hope such things never happen again. It's good to know you don't start fights. However, I am quite curious about the beginning of the fights you experienced. You may choose not to answer if you feel this question is intrusive, I will understand. Why were you attacked?
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
I appreciate you sharing all of that since it seems very personal. I'm sorry to hear you went through that, and I am really wondering about how you managed to pull it off. Convince people and doctors you have Aspergers? You really are good. But as a result people do not know who you really are, and even if you act normal people will never really forget the things you did before. Especially because you were in a mental institution--people don't forget that kind of thing.
I do hope things get better and they would just stop attacking you.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
like you, i have never been to a fist fight. i saw fights personally, on TV and cinema. they say, there is a rush called adrenalin that causes people to behave in such strong and aggressive manner. well, i do not like violence. that's why i always try to pacify people who are about to get engaged in a fist fight.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
It's good to have people like you who help in breaking up fights, or preventing them. In the videos we watched last night, the crown just gathered around the fighting people and cheered.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Oh better not try to remember then! You were young,it was probably something unimportant. I grew up with aunts who often had such fights. Sometimes they'd beat each other up over such mundane things as, say, buying the brand of shampoo that the other doesn't like. Mind you they still fight until now, they're in their 30's and 40's. So glad to have moved out! I moved out when I was 17 because people fighting around you is stressful!
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
19 Oct 11
Just like you, I have never experienced a physical fight, at my school, everyone are girls and everyone pretty much tolerates with each other. I find fist fights really immature, like what is it going to solve anyway? You'll just get all bloody and bruised up! A friend I know has seen a fight in her school in which two girls were literally dragging each other down and pulling each other's hair. So I have no idea what a fight actually feels like, I guess when in the action, you just can't stop yourself. Guys tend to fight more because I guess they don't want to appear weak when another guy teases or bullies them. I don't think I would ever want to get into a fight. 
I don't want to get hurt and end up in the hospital.
I don't want to get hurt and end up in the hospital. @katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Yeah, I feel the same way. What would fighting do? But when I was in high school people who had disagreements would settle it by a scheduled fight. One of my friends had a fight with a girl from another class and they scheduled a fight one day after school in the grassland past the school and they just beat each other up. My friend won and the other girl was absent from school for a week. So their problem was solved, as they say, and ignored each other since then. It's really weird what some kids do. As for me, I wouldn't want to fight with somebody. I don't even answer back when someone hauls insults. I'm pretty calm. And yes, I'm afraid to be beaten. :-)
