I still like the man to pay on a date.

When I go out on a first date, I would also pay for both of us. I would also pay for the dates that we go out. Unless she wants to volunteer that she'll pay for that day then I would think its okay. I wouldn't stop her from paying when she volunteers hehe. Most of all I think I would be the one paying.

To be blunt,I am surprised that your boyfriend paid on first date,because I thought You surely go Dutch.Over here It seems that it is right and proper for men to foot the bill.No need for reticence,what we are doing bears a distinct impress of male chauvinism.

I've had a few dates where I had to pay for my own movie ticket and my share of dinner. I'm not one to free load off people, and it's not that I cant afford to pay for myself, but it's like... if a guy wants to take me out on a date then he should atleast pay for things. This is kind of silly, but it makes me feel like a lady and kinda special when they guy pays for dinner and hold the door.

I think i like the dutch dating better. Because I always feel really uncomfortable when the guy takes out his money and I am just there staring. I really don't know what to do so I jump in to for mine

hmm.. what should i say.. well yes, it's always nice that the guy would have to pay during dates. but i think this does not apply now. since money is hard to earn and it's quite unfair if the girl asks the guy to go on a date with her and have the guy pay for the expenses. (i'm pertaining to boyfriend girlfriend or even friends relationship) what we do with that now is whoever asks the date then he/she would be the one who would pay. i think that's quite fair. with my case my boyfriend pays when he asks me out and when there are times that i feel like going out i pay the bills. at least there is balance and no one is being spoiled.

Even though I'm a guy myself, I still agree. The man should have to pay. It's not very gentleman like to force, or even allow the girl to pay for yourself. It's just one of those things you should do even if the other person wants to do it themselves, like holding doors open for people. It's called people polite and civil. And I don't think it's okay to go cheap either. I say the guy should be willing to go all out, well, within reason.

I feel the same way you do about the man paying going out someplace, my husband always pays when we go out even if I say my treat he says give me the money now and I will pay when we get there unless the credit card is used but most of the time we take turns paying as we work 2 jobs each and we go out to eat a lot of the time

me also i want my bf pay all expensive in our date.. i feel im a princess.. Im looking forward someday one man can pay all my needs.hopely its will come true.

I also prefer the man to pay each time we go for a date. It doesn't mean that I will be turned off if the guy will asks for my share. But, if possible, I would choose a guy that pays for our date. Have a good day

i agree on that too stary. it would be nice if the man still pays for the date. right now me and my boyfriend have the same job and in the same company so i understand how low the pay is. because of this i feel shy if i dont pay for myself when we go out on dates. most of the time we do it dutch. i am happy when sometimes as in once in a blue moon, he pays for everything

This is so funny. I don't like 'dutch-dating' unless it's with a person who you have been with for quite a long time that you have come to terms where you agree that at times this can happen. If it's still the first date, in most cultures, the guy should pay. This gesture could tell the girl that the guy, when the relationship becomes really serious up to the point that wedding bells are heard, he can provide not just for the girl but also for the family. And it's sweet if the guy pays for the girl, the guy is manning up. Haha!

hi:) I'm also like you, when still on the dating stage I like the man pay for the date, but if were already together i think I can also help if I have extra or its especial occasion.

First of all I am dutch and I don't find it normal that man and woman are each paying their own bill. I am also surprised again about that expression: dutch dating. There is not such a thing as dutch dating. Same like the expression: dutch party. We don't know these kind of parties, we never had them. Perhaps now some teenagers give parties like that and we call it an: American party (interesting to know Canadians call it an American party too!). I find it normal a man will ask a girl out and if they date he will pay. If you go out more frequently I have no problem with paying the bill too but not always or my share. Also if I invite someone I pay for that person. Otherwise it's not an invitation. In the past I did met men who let me pay, not once but always it's a typical sign of being greedy and even worser: selfish. These were all men with plenty of money, more as I had but they just liked to spend it only on themselves. A man who is not able to pay for a date should not want a girlfriend/wife.

i believe that its up to the man and woman's mode....If you spend a nice time with him, whats the matter if he pays or not???? From the other hand, whats the matter if he gealously offer to pay and leave a good tip if all the previous night was rude or angry or miserable or told you sth that you didnt like.....I think it conts on the first 2-3 dates and ONLY if this person really suits you !!!

I am used to paying my share only. I am single at the moment, and amny of the men I meet have financial problems. I don't feel it is fair to have the man pay for everything. Sometimes they pay for the drinks, but I pay for my meal. When I was married, it didn't matter who paid, as it was all shared money anyway.. in theory.

I live with my boyfriend for so long now that we really do not find it necessary to say who should pay. He just takes it upon himself to always pay and would not hear of me paying. When I was single and or a lot younger I too felt the same way, then later as I got older I felt it was fair that I at least offer to pay at times. I have not encountered too many expecting me and or accepting me to pay.

Yes, indeed, stary! When we were dating, my husband and I always took care of our bill. Sometimes (rarely), I would offer to pay for it. Good thing we always says no!hahaha!! Now that we're married, he pays for everything all the more!hihihi...

Me too.:) Even tho it's not a common pactice here, I think it wld b great if guys in my country r less sting and more willing to pay on dates.

Me too.:) Even tho it's not a common pactice here, I think it wld b great if guys in my country r less sting and more willing to pay on dates.

I'm married, and this doesn't really matter to me much anymore. But when I was young and dating, it was assumed the guys paid, except on Sadie Hawkins day. Then the girls made a matching dress and shirt for the Sadie Hawkins Dance and usually took the guys somewhere nice for dinner, as well. I know things are changing now. What is important, I think, is that who pays for what is understood by both before the date so there is no awkwardness when the check comes. The new trend may be so that the women do not feel obligated to the man in case he thinks that if he spends his money he expects the woman to "perform." My personal preference, though, is if it's a dating relationship, the man should pay. If, on the other hand, I were going out with a male friend and it was not a romantic relationship -- just two people who wanted to attend the same event and didn't want to go alone, I would expect to go Dutch, just as if I were attending with a woman friend.