when someone tells you they know something about your loved one...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
October 19, 2011 4:41am CST
But they won't tell you what it is... And they just keep on bothering you, calling you and sending you sms telling you that your loved one, or partner is just lying to you... etc etc... If you ask them they have no answer, they tell you ask him/ask her about it and it is not for me to say...
Is this person just trying to destroy your trust? Do you think this person has basis.. but why can't they tell you if the intention is to inform you?
How can someone really do this and say things that are not really true just to destroy a relationship? Do you think this kind of person really knows something or is the one fishing and hoping to destroy your spirit and bother your mind?
Your thoughts please, have you experienced anything like this, someone telling you things about your partner that you do not think is true... ?
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11 responses
@couchPotato100 (94)
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19 Oct 11
If you have trust and confident in your partner and his love for you then you should not worry. You should just ignore this person who is boring you and trying to mess with your mind.
But if you're feeling insecure then confront your partner and tell him about the person that bothering you. See what he has to say about the whole thing.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
I have already found out the truth and it is devastating. I have been fooled indeed and well. I am hurt and sorry it has to be this way. I am just not able to understand why this is happening to me. =(
I am almost always crying.... guys... i am on mylot and is trying to unload all these bad feelings. =( i am becoming really unhappy.
@couchPotato100 (94)
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20 Oct 11
I'm sorry that this person had broken your heart.
I know it's hard finding out the truth, and it's painful knowing that the one you love betrayed you.
But you shouldnt sit around crying over what this person did to you.
He does not deserve your tears nor your love.
Just keep in mind that when one door closes another will open, So cry as much as you need to then gather yourself and move on.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
19 Oct 11
I would be very cautious about accepting this information, especially since it is really no information at all. How are you supposed to ask about something if you do not know what the something is you are supposed to ask about?
If a friend really has information about someone lying to you, why would they not tell you what exactly this information is? I would be suspicious and wonder if the person who has the alleged information has other motives for making it such a mystery. I would probably tell the person to either reveal exactly what they think the lie is about, or leave it alone.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
oh, i have told her this. she kept telling me she knows everything, she knows something, etc... and then would tell me to ask the partner... who would of course deny. im like a ball being passed around by these two. =( its become really hurful already. i am burned all the time.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Is it possible that this person who claims to know everything is interested in your partner? Because what you are describing is sounds like a tactical way to break up a relationship. You start by driving a wedge in the existing relationship, then you watch as the gap gets larger. You're kind of caught in the middle. Even if you don't believe the one who says she has information, you have to wonder in the back of your mind is there something you should know about. This can cause you to be a little suspicious of your partner, you'll be looking out for anything that might give you a clue. The partner is probably going to realize this.
I had a similar situation happen to me years ago. A girl was interested in me, but I was not interested in her. However, I did have interest for a friend of her's. So she makes up this story that the other girl can go out but only if she goes with us. Turns out the girl I was interested in and I had a really good time. Apparently too good. The friend had a plan that involved my date being miserable, which she was not. So since that did not work, she told some lie to the parents of the girl I was interested in, and that was the end of that.
Her plan did not work at all though, as I never went out with her. Even if I had been slightly interested, how could I ever trust someone who would betray a friend like that?
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Hi chiyosan!
I think that person is just trying to create trouble. If I were you, I will just ignore that person. Don't listen to that person. Keeping something from you like what that person is doing, shows that he or she has bad intentions. You might as well tell about that to your love one. It's better not to have secrets and it will show your love one that you trust him. 
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Oct 11
Those kind of people are poison. Stay away of them. They just want to get the poison into your head and break your relationship.
It's cheap talking to bother people and keep repeating what your partner did but if you ask how or what, tell them to spit it out, they do as is it's a secret.
People like this I can't take serious. I had this experience too with a "friend". She told me her husband said mine is blabla and ofcourse there was a lot more. She did not tell me what it is althoug I asked her to explain to me how or what. Later I asked her why she believes her husband. Since she married to him and find out later he was already married. Not the kind of guy you can call thrustworthy. She never answered on that, is probably angry with me. Fine with me. I don't like people like that near me. I don't like these so called good advices. I also think it's more envy as being really concerned about my welfare.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
hi there. she is really trying to destroy us. kept on telling me to think and why forgive if i do not know what they were doing.
i am really so low right now i am always having a breakdown. I just needed to get off these silly things in my head so i can focus... i can continue to live my life.
i want to heal and i am always being dragged down to this i don't know what to do anymore.
@airkulet (2700)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Maybe that person could be involved in the third party of that relationship. She/He maybe angry and out of revenge he keeps bugging you. You should investigate also but do not make an advance assumption you need to know the bottom of it, after that you can now plan on what to do!
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Do you doubt your partners love for you???
If yes,maybe they have a basis for their action but that doesn't mean you need to believe them that instant.Tell them you might believe them if they have proof to show you,if they can show you one,don't believe in them instantly,confront your partner first.Your trust should be on your partner and not with these unknown persons.. Remember,pictures or other proofs can be cropted now adays..
But also be alert..You need to gather information yourself but don't be so obvious it might ruin your relationship..
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
19 Oct 11
Dear friend,
As long as one trusts the partner no such gossips or stories or rumours could break their relationships. If I had to face this I would show this to my partner and would be on her side as I would trust my partner than anyone outside. If my partner accepts all those in the sms and admits her fault, may be with open hands I would hug her and also appreciate her trustworthy on it. As long as I love her no such things could do anything to our relationship. But for this I need a partner, may be if God permits I may get one....
@saeedonline (340)
• Saudi Arabia
19 Oct 11
I personally have never experienced something like. If that happens to me and i know the person then i will just ignore that person especially since he is not saying what my partner did. I will rather not give him/her the chance to destroy the trust we have and most just do that because they are jealous. It may be something that had happened in the past that they try to bring up again but the fact is we all have our own pasts, some ugly and some beautiful pasts. Such people are really some bunch of idiots and should just be ignored.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Oct 11
I have not had a situation like this but if so I would put an end to the messaging a right away. A so called friend would not beat around the bush and would get to what ever it is they say they know.
I would also explain to my boyfriend what is being said but not due to mistrust, just so he knows what this so called friend is saying.
Really a friend would not keep the truth from us and I would question the motives of this person, as really what is the friend gaining by doing something like this. She should put herself in your shoes and remember she would not for anyone to keep anything so called like this.
@FarahJane1011 (180)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
I would say there are two reasons why they did that to you.
First: To destroy the trust to your partner. Probably they are just making some issues to screw you up. Or they are jealous of you that is why they want to shaken you or worst, they wanted to break your relationship with your partner.
Second: It could be that the issue is true but they don't have the heart tell you the whole story instead wanted you to break it off directly to your partner and discuss the matter seriously. There are people who doesn't want to involve their self to issues particularly about relationship, all they could do as concerned citizen is start the fire and leave the rest to your decision. But beware also of those people who love to start the fire but when confronted, they resort to denial. All they wanted is to gossip. But mind you my dear, there's no smoke if there's no fire.
In order for you to feel at ease regarding this matter is to open up and take this seriously with your partner. You are the only one who can tell whether the issue is true or just a gossip. Listen to your heart and let everything flows accordingly.
Good luck friend.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
20 Oct 11
well i think its compete stupidity to believe in any such thing.the people who are engaged in such prank calls are nothing but some degree of mentally sick.till now i have never facd any such problem and i hope not to face too.
