Dealing with Pancreatic Cancer
@michellehughes (30)
United States
October 19, 2011 8:56pm CST
My mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a little over a year ago. At the time of her diagnosis, she was told that even if she took treatment, her life expectancy was only a year. We made it through that year! She has had rounds of radiation and chemotherapy. I have quit my job to stay with her and I am usually with her around the clock. I only go home on the days that my husband doesn't work, and my sister comes and stays with her on those days. Before her illness my mother weighed over 200 pounds and on her last doctor visit she weighed 98. This is such a hard disease to deal with. My emotions run the gauntlet from sorrow to anger! We continue day by day. My mother is a real trooper, and has battled so bravely! She has been courageous and has kept her beautiful spirit about her through out the whole thing. Sometimes I think she handles it better than I do. My husband gets very frustrated with me at times because I wear my brave face while I am with her, so much of my time with him is me letting my emotions run their course! He is very supportive though and has been my rock through this whole ordeal! Apart from my sister who shares the nursing duties, I have another sister and a brother who seem blind to the severity of this disease! They are often the cause of my anger! I just don't know what to do short of telling them to WAKE UP and see things for how they are!! Any suggestions?
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@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I understand is a very difficult situation on one site your marriage,on another your brother and sister, and the other siter and the most important you mom, I think you can organize a meeting in your house where your mom is not going to be present, and tell them the severity of that illness, you may show them pictures of people with that desease or even pictures of your mom when she was more than 200 pounds and now that she is only 98 pounds, maybe they will see the dangerous situation of their mom, and will open their eyes, and compromise themselves to do what they are suppose to do.
I think is a gift take care of the parents, those who took care of us in the past.
Blesses for your mom and she will be in my prays today.
@michellehughes (30)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Thank you for your reply Rosa. You are right, it is difficult. And I don't see it as a sacrifice. I guess my anger at the others comes because they just seem blind to the fact that she needs them now. They are just so wrapped up in themselves. But thank you for your kind words and your prayers!
Have a great day!