Why she didn't pay me?

Well my friend, you have to confront her and insist on her payment. But if i were you, i would email her or if there's YM in your office i would send her a message through it. By YM, you can demand that she answer it. If she still would promise you on some days, you say your piece as well as your observations. And tell her if she won't pay, everybody will know of her "utang" to you. That way, you will avoid quareling with her where everybody can hear it. You have just dealt with a social climber my friend.

Some so called "Friends" just use the connection to take advantage of your generous nature...then make YOU out to be the unreasonable person for wanting to be given back what they promised to return..As You say,it seems She has the money when she can splurge on lunches and expensive coffee bars..and as You're not joining her there,it seems You need the money more than She does..I do hope You get repaid,but lending money is the hard way to find out who your true Friends are..

It's always difficult to ask back the money one lends to someone. My take on this is that there is no reason for you to feel awkward in asking the money back. It's yours in the first place and you only want that someone to stand by her words. Honestly, if anyone should feel ashamed of this situation, it should be her. That's my take on this.

I suggested you go to her and tried to ask for your money by way of friendship. I thought you should give kind of word that can touch her feelings. Think about what kind of sentence you would want to convey to your friend and please do not ever beg for her, because the money you asked for is your money or your right. If she doesn't respond to your asking, try talking to her closet family. Hope you succeed.

junmae This is so not fair to you. You did her a favor and now she can't respect you enough to pay you back and talk to you about it. This is always huyrtful...I am sorry it happened to you. I would confront her again and tell her you are hurt she is disrespecting you. I wish you all the best...

This is one of the drawback whenever you lend money to a friend. I used to have an issue whenever I ask for the money back from a friend. But then, if he/she doesn't seem to give the money back, it's best to approach the person and ask for it yourself. I think it's best if you approach her and ask for the money again, especially that you always see her eating something or going somewhere expensive. Since she's a friend, you can flat out say "Hey, you have Starbucks! Can I have the money I lent you so I can buy one too?" Or something along that line. If you feel awkward getting money from a friend straight-out, you can try the "shy" approach like "I really am short these past few days because of unforeseen expenditures. Will it be ok if I have the money I lent you back? I really am short these past few days" Good luck on getting your money back :)

Ask her when she can pay and take post dated checks so you have some security in hand if she stop talking to you latter.

are you really "friends" with her... or maybe just a plain co-worker? true friends open with each other on how their feel and if something is bothering them. and how come you dont go to lunch together. i think she doesnt see you as a real friend. she was just being nice so she could borrow money from you. im sorry for being blunt coz this happened to me a lot a times coz i was too nice.. but i learned my lesson though. i only lend money to people who are really close to me. who i'd feel comfortable asking for the money incase they fail to pay me back. give it another shot.. talk to her in private and tell her... "remeber you borrowed money on_____ and u said u gonnA pay me back. we all haVE financial problems. i helped you when you had yours. " hope this one helps.

Because you are seeing her to be extravagant, it is just right to ask her to pay you now. You could possibly understand the situation if you are seeing her having a difficult time. Maybe, that should be a lesson to you not to lend anymore to anyone unless it is for emergency reason.

Your friend should keep her promise and pay money back to you in time. If she has some financial problems, she could tell you frankly. When I was in grade three in high school, once the teacher asked the class to pay some material charges temporarily. The amount was a bit large at that time and I didn't have it. I borrowed money from my deskmate and promised to return money as soon as I had. I returned her money 1 week later and apologized for so long time. Then she said, it was OK, she knew I didn't have money in that period, so didn't ask me. I was so touched at that moment and still remember her till today, though we've lost contact with each other after graduation. Good luck to you.

That's the reason why she needed to borrow money because she lives beyond her means. I think you should definitely ask her about her payment to her loan. First, maybe you can ask her nicely to avoid any bad blood between the two of you. If she still would not pay you, that is the time that I think you may need to be confrontational. Also, you may ask her in time when she receives her salary so she cannot claim that she has no money to pay you. Good luck!

hi junmae you know what it is not only you who have a problem like this i have a friend who borrowed a money for me and she told to pay me after 3 days but she told me next month after the next month it moved to next month until now she didn't pay almost 1 year already i can say that it is really hard to believe in there promises even though they are your friend,it is really hard to deal with a person when it becomes to the money , i can advise you that you txt or talk to the person that you really need the money badly i hope your problem will be resolved.

Hello Junmae, OH yes i have also met lot of people who ask for money and at the time of borrowing they will be very polite and agree to return it whenevr you will ask them but in reality when you will ask for your own money they will simply give excuses but not money. I have lend money to many of my friends and got my money back but never on time.I used to feel shy to ask my money back from them and thats the reason i never got it at the time when they committed to return back. Therefore i suggest you to hang to her and daily ask for your money and one after getting irritated she will return your money back.

There will always b those who take advantage of other pp. I used to hv a colleague always never paid every time I helped her buy lunch. She also like to sponge on other colleagues. Personally, I dared not ask her for payment cos I was new there. Since u know this person as a friend, maybe u cld confront her abt it but try to do it in private. Otherwise, I m pretty sure she'll deny it and it may end up straining ur relationship further.

If ever you lend money to a friend, there are two things to remember: 1. A true friend will not ask you for money. 2. If someone asks you for money, they are not your friend. I have a rule never to borrow money and never to lend it. If my friend needs money I will give it as a gift. If they are genuine and true they will pay me back. When money comes between 2 people, friendship flies out the window. It was a large amount it seems, can you take her to court? Then she will have to pay costs as well. Report her to the police...what she has done is theft. Ask your boss for help to get your money back...explain that the loss of the amount is causing you hardship with your family. Contact her family. Explain who you are, tell them what happened and ask them for your money. You need not be shy to do any of these things because the shame is hers. She is a liar and a thief.

It sounds like she has no intention of paying you back. If she is eating at expensive restaurants and drinking starbucks, then she obviously has money. And her avoidance of you since you started asking about the money makes it pretty clear to me that she doesn't really intend to pay you back. I would be very surprised if you did get paid. I think if you stop asking for it and pretend that it never happened you might be able to save the friendship (if that is something you want to do). Otherwise I think that I would start avoiding her since she obviously doesn't want anything to do with the situation. Maybe a little "reverse psychology" is in order. Good luck with that.

She has no intention to pay. I think you have to embarrass her in order to make her pay. Such person is not worthy of being your friend in the first place.

In my opinion she can definitely pay you, but her intention is certainly not to pay!!! Always remember advise of seniors, never lend money to friends and relatives, if you really want to help, give money, tell her, you need not pay back. Thus you will not lose that friend thnxs for sharing in details..

I think you have every right to personally confront her for the money. However, I do not suggest you mentioning about what you have observed. It may stir up trouble. You will never know the reasons behind, but you can go ahead and tell her that during the time she needed the money, you provided her with the help she needed. Now it is your time to need the money, and it is just right for you to have the money you own in the first place. If she does not pay up on the said time and day, then you can start mentioning those things already. However, you have to make sure that when you do that, there should be someone else who knows that, or you should have your conversation recorded. This is just to make sure that she does not turn the entire situation against you.

if she really consider u as her friend,she will take care of ur thought,and pay u back even appologize to u.if she doesn't consider u as a friend,why should u think about her?just say directly to her,try to ask ur money back,this is my suggestion.Good luck!