Should friends always get together?
By aquacan
@aquacan (216)
China
October 20, 2011 4:50am CST
It has been months since I entered university. And recently I have found some problems between my friend and I. She just broke up with her boyfriend and she's heartbroken. I spent nights and nights comforting her. But recently, whatever she's gonna do, she always asks me to go with her. Since she hasn't recovered from the relationship, I didn't refuse her. But it's really a torture to go with her every day. I also have my own things to do. In my mind, friends could maintain their friendship in many ways. They don't have to stay with each other all the time. But I am afraid of hurting my friend if I tell her what I really think. What should I do?
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9 responses
@clearwater18 (695)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
I can see that your friend is really having a hard time in moving on. Maybe you can tell her about how you feel. I think she will just understand you since she's your friend. Try to think of how you will tell it to her. You have to be careful with your words because at this time, she may be very sensitive.
@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Oct 11
Good day, clearwater. You are right. My friend is experiecing a special time. She is extremely sensitive right now. I can still remember how sad and hopeless when she broke up with her boyfriend. Though she is getting better now, I should still be very cautious in choosing the right way to tell her my real thoughts^_^
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
21 Oct 11
Welcome to mylot
I agree we have our own life, this is a very sensitive and personal matter, take care, see that she doesnot feel hurted or neglected too.
Take a careful decision.
Thanks for sharing
Best of luck.
Professor
Professor
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
20 Oct 11
Hello Aqua,
It seams your friend is having a hard time as its really painful when someone breaks with her boyfriend or vice versa but your friend too should understand it that life has not ended for her and she will have to face up the reality and should think about you too that you are not going to remain with her for all the time.
May be she thought it but she needs time to become normal you should talk to her in this regard in polite way keeping in mind that it may effect your friendship if she takes it the other way.
So be careful when you talk to her in this regard but should talk if you want to enjoy your life.
May be she thought it but she needs time to become normal you should talk to her in this regard in polite way keeping in mind that it may effect your friendship if she takes it the other way.
So be careful when you talk to her in this regard but should talk if you want to enjoy your life.@aquacan (216)
• China
21 Oct 11
A pleasant day, sjvg1976. I treasure every friend of mine. That's why I am so cautious in choosing whether or not to tell her what I am really thinking. That may hurt her feelings and affect our friendship. But you are right. If I want to enjoy my life, it's better to be frank. I believe sooner or later she would recover from the last relationship and understand me.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Oct 11
No. Friends are close because the time and life (incl. problems) they spent together. They know eachother and don't need to be the same for that. They respect eachother and if one of them is in need or shows up they will help out and be happy.
Seeing eachother is not necessary. You can also be friends if you are miles away.
@aquacan (216)
• China
20 Oct 11
Yes, indeed. I think that's the true meaning of friends. The friendship between real friends would be firm however far away they are from each other. And I believe my friend will learn about it. She is just too sad to realize it right now. Thank you so much^-^
@vasumathi (436)
• India
20 Oct 11
Try to make her understand about your commitments. Try deviate her mind from that relationship and ask her to concentarte on other activities like listening to music and reading books.
@kazumi04286 (38)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
You see just be patient. A lot of girls would seek for a companion during the times of heartache. But if you have some errands to do then you can refuse her and tell her that you have something to do. I'm sure she will understand you. Just be honest with her.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
You have your own life to live and you've proven to your friend that you're indeed a friend to her in those times. Saying it honestly and with sincerity would not do any harm. Friends always understand, and if she is a friend indeed, she will understand you!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
Have a heart to heart talk with your friend. Tell her that much as you would like to commiserate with her, you just cannot, always. Explain to her that you have to attend to your concerns also. Maybe you can just visit her every other day or whenever you can. She will understand.
Tell her to move on and be strong. Encourage her to socialize and be with other friends.
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
20 Oct 11
Hai friend..
This was very sensitive matter..So be careful.She may get hurt if say in hard words..
My suggestion is to Take her to a lonely and talk to her.Explain everything about your problem and leave choice to her about what you have to do now..This may help you overcome your problem...All the best friend but be careful.
