Parents putting pressure for marriage?

hi piya oh my gosh this is an old old thing too as when I was 25 I got the same static so I guess parents never change but the world of theirs has as now days many young women here in the USA are working in t op levels positions and marry later. Much to my parents consternation I met a man and feel dee;y in love and I was 32 and were they pleased Hell no they found all sorts of faults and still I went ahead and married the man I found at last that I really loved.I dealt with the crap by reminding them that I was the person who had to live with the man I married so he had to be somone I really wanted to live my life with.. YOU will find the one who is meant for you and he will be worth your wait too. I am now almost 85 and I had 33 great years of a happy marriages.

Get married when you feel like it sweetie. No use jumping into something that will make you unhappy.

Well, your life is your life. No one else's. Don't let anyone, including your parents pressure you into marriage. That is a big step in anyones life, that is something that you and your guy have to think long and hard about. You cannot just marry to please people. The best way to speak to your parents is, tell them that you're not just yet ready for marriage, tell them that they are affecting you and confusing you. Also, tell them that if a woman is over 30 years old, they are not old maids. Todays world is different then when they were growing up. Lots of people marry in their 30's these days. Do not be in a rush and do not let anyone tell you or pressure you into a major step in your life. I know what I am talking about.

mentally ready or not you must decide now...there are several health risks for a woman if they marry at a later age and get pregnant also at a later age. these risks include difficult labor, possible congenital defects for your child, and worst, possible infertility. i am sure you are aware about this.if you still can't decide it yet, try asking advice from your mature friends.

Hey. This is your life and you should decide when you want to get married and if. I'm after 30 and I don't care about my family comments. I will wed my partner when I want. I decide about my life because I'm adult. I know that such pressure can be difficult. But don't force your self to do something, which you don't want to. We live in 21 century not in middle ages. Times have changed. I wish you all the best!

I don't really know. I haven't really experienced that but all I can say is you have to tell your parents that marriage is not in your mind just yet. Also, try to assure them that you also want to get married in the future but not yet now because you're still not ready.

I can understand ur situation, i am soon going to be 25 and already now my relatives are asking about marriage. Now my mom has also started nagging me, i try avoid marriage stuff whenever it comes. Even mom's friend also keeps on advicing me to settle down soon so now i avoid them also. I have somewhat convinced my mom that i want to get financially secure before thinking about getting married as marriage is one big costly affair especially our indian weddings.

Society and people put pressure on young people to get married. It is almost evil. Get the family together for a long talk. Tell them the only reason anyone should get married is when they find true love. Tell them true love has no timetable. Sometimes it doesn't show up until later in life. Tell them you are wise enough to wait til true love arrives. Ask them. Do you care more of what society thinks than you do for me?? Please stop the pressure. I 'll only marry when I find true love. Marry the wrong one and it always turns into a big mess leaving you to clean it up. Relax piya84. Don't listen to that pressure. You will know when the time is right to get married. No one else can possibly know.

Actually, your society is putting pressure on you and not your parents, they are just concern with you. Here in my country, unmarried at the age of 30 and up is no big deal. Sometimes, people tend to get married at that age because they are stable enough to settle down.

In India the parents wants to do marriage to their children especially to girls as soon as possible. Because they are thinking that girl has to marry in a limited age. But now a days the thinking is changing, girls are doing well in all fields.

I could see your situation very well as myself being from such a culture.As a guy I can tell that guys getting married in our culture in a traditional way seek girls around 21 years and beyond that think that there is problem(mostly love/health).But these kind of issues are slowly getting reduced and most of cousins married above 25 years and my own sister in law was marrid when she was 27 years old.Nowadays girls work and take higher studies and settle down by 25 years only.Try to explain this to your parents.

You should not feel any pressure to get married. You should not live life by what other's want for you, but rather for what you want for yourself. If you do not feel that it is your time to get married, then you should go by your own schedule. If you force yourself to do something when it doesn't feel right, even if it feels right for everyone else, it will only lead to despair and regret. Plus, when it comes to marriage, you have to find the right person and you can't rush that. When God wants that person to come into your life, he will bring him to you! If you feel that you're ready to meet that man, then just set out looking for him...But don't rush into it or pressure yourself to settle for someone who is not the best for you just for the sake of marriage!

piya84...I am so sorry you have to go through this pressure. It is very very difficult coming from your parents because they influence more than anyone else in the world. You are still 25...if 30 is the 'cut off' date..you still have a few years to go. Can you tell them you will try very, very hard to accomplish this in the next 5 years?? Maybe that will take some pressure off of you and who knows..maybe it will happen?? It will also be better than constantly arguing about it...all the best to you.

in the past my female cousin have similar problem with you, their parents keep asking her to get married but she don't want to, after she's 33 years old both her parents had stop asking her to get married. So i think you just have to be patience with your parents, as you grow older your parents will stop bothering you.

Hi Piya, being twenty five years old you should have prepared mentally as well as physically for the marriage by now, something must be worrying now, When you have caring parents and grandma, dont worry for anything and fulfill your parents, relatives and grandmas wishes by marrying a suitable guy.

If your family members started the pressure of marraige in front of you that resembles that you became as beautiful, pretty,and of course mature to your own level....that's just fearing them that you will not select any wrong path beyond donig marriage...you know...it's just become fashion todays to get in living together, having 2-3 boyfriends/girlfriends, and lesbies are also in trend these days(just kidding).... So the main question is still how to get rid with it...One thing that I had exprienced with guardians are giving them the best excuses is only way to avoid their decision like if you don't wanna go to school and your parents love you then just give them an excuse of any kind of headache or stomachache....But in case of marriage you have to quite sure to give them a excuse that have more priority then the marraige that to in front of your parent's eye, that means if they take study or job or making carrier first then you must make this excuses but I guess your case is different like you want to marry but that surely would be a LOVE MARRAIGE....So a/c to me make it simple and say it to your loving parent that you will do love marraige and when you'll find one you'll do it( with it your Indian parent will be shocked and they'll must say that you need a psychiatrist)....... But later on you can say it to them that you found one guy and are ready to marry with him..... I guess they will just leave you for half or one year, and then say them your choice and make them to do what you want....... But I like arranges....