Are you okay to be a "yes man"?
By aquacan
@aquacan (216)
China
October 21, 2011 11:16am CST
In our life, we can see one type people called "yes man". Most of the time, they just play the role of a listener and don't give any comment on what others are talking about. If you ask them to, they would always give some kind and positive comments even if they don't think it that way in their hearts. And it seems that those people always get warm comment from others too. But there's another type of people. They would like to announce their real thoughts to the whole world even if it's not friendly or not easily accepted by others. And in most cases, they are in the center of rumors. Which typre of person would you like to be?
5 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Oct 11
I've seen the movie and can't imagine what Jim Carey had gone through to happen to me. LOL Having to say "yes" all the time poses a lot of consequences. You can injure yourself, or even kill yourself in the process. I'd rather have the "no" option too just in case the decision includes my life being ended. LOL
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
Yep. Although I'm not saying that answering "no" all the time would give you the right decision either. To put it simply, you should say whatever you think is right, or in other words, you should speak your mind.
@aquacan (216)
• China
23 Oct 11
Good day frontvisions^_^ I totally agree with you that saying "yes" all the time can cause seirous consequences. If we do so, people tend to think that we don't have our own ideas. That would cause misunderstanding because we are not telling people our real thoughts. And saying "yes" means that we don't know how to make refusals. Maybe we would be forced to do something we wouldn't like to do. So I think it's quite important that people learn how to say "no" and make the right choice.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
22 Oct 11
I m neither and so I don't like to b either one. I don't like to b a 'yes man' becos to me, it's hypocritical and it's tiring. I m a rather diplomatic person and so I don't like to b e second type of person either. I juz like to be me - being myself.
@aquacan (216)
• China
23 Oct 11
Good day. I'm glad to see that you have your own style and just be yourself. Each person in this world is unique of course. And personalities, values.etc vary among people. So there must be a huge difference in people's way of doing things. Sometimes it's really hard to say if you are a "yes" man. But I believe sometimes people do fall into this kind of pattern that they say okay to everything for some reasons. And in that case, I think people should be brave and frank to express their real thoughts.
@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
21 Oct 11
I would like to be the honest one, but with courtesy. Like, if someone had bad bo or something, I wouldn't tell them they stank so bad I had to vomit, but I would have to find a polite way of letting them know.
I keep thinking of Simon Cowell on XFactor/American Idol. He is brutally honest, to a fault. But, almost refreshingly honest. There has to be a happy medium with brutal honesty and constructive criticism without telling people just what they want to hear.
@aquacan (216)
• China
22 Oct 11
A pleasant day^_^ yes, indeed, honesty is a very important aspect when we get along with others. That's why I think a "yes" man would probably be misunderstood sometimes. But being honest can also cause some problems. So I agree with you that we have to choose an appropriate way in conveying our point of views to others. And it's better to find a balance between the two.
But it's really hard to achieve that goal. And we always say that one's personality can't be changed during one night. It requires a long time to change the way we are used to and find the balance between brutal honesty and constructive criticism. That bothers me a lot.
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
21 Oct 11
hi buddy, i would like to be a good listener and of good speaker too. i will be in balanced state to act accordingly. I will be rising to the occasions and be a goodd mannered gentleman by helping others.
@aquacan (216)
• China
22 Oct 11
Good day^_^ It's perfect if we could be both and achieve a balance between the two. On one hand, being a good listener helps you know more about your friends' values and show that you are a reliable person to rely on. On the other hand, being a good speaker could make your inner voice heard and that encourages communication between friends. But for some people, that is quite a distant goal to arrive at. And I think I still have a long way to go, too.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
22 Oct 11
I actually play the role as the quiet listener. In my group of friends, my friends tend to be pretty loud and tend to be very talkative. So when they blabber on about something, I simply play the role as the listener and simply sit back and enjoy the show 
I also add a few comments of my own but I just listen to them talk, I don't talk that much either. I'm the type of person who you can share secrets with but will never tell. I'm not the type who simply blurts out everything I hear like my friends do, that's why my friends are pretty much gossipers. So I'm quite trustworthy and I'm very careful with my words, I don't want to say something that may offend the other person. I love to listen, even if I'm not interested, I simply "look" interested 
I also add a few comments of my own but I just listen to them talk, I don't talk that much either. I'm the type of person who you can share secrets with but will never tell. I'm not the type who simply blurts out everything I hear like my friends do, that's why my friends are pretty much gossipers. So I'm quite trustworthy and I'm very careful with my words, I don't want to say something that may offend the other person. I love to listen, even if I'm not interested, I simply "look" interested @aquacan (216)
• China
22 Oct 11
Good day. I used to play the role of a listener. I am willing to listen to what my friends are talking about and that helps me understand their points of views and values. Sometimes I do hear some comments that I don't agree with. Usually I would not point it out or have a debate because that would probably cause conflicts, which I don't like to see. But I think maybe it's time to make a change. If I say "yes" to everything, people would think that I don't have my own ideas and it's not good for the communication. So I think we should also express our ideas and judgement to others from time to time.
