Calling all single and taken people! I have a question.
@melindasaysrawr (36)
United States
October 21, 2011 9:01pm CST
Relationships are hard. Trusting another person with one of you most personal possessions, your heart, is such a tremendous thing. It's definitely something I struggle with, thanks to bad experiences in the past. My question to you is, what is the biggest trust issue in your current or past relationship? What did you and your partner argue about most? How did you go about settling it?
6 responses
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
22 Oct 11
Trusting a person completely with your heart is a very tough thing to do. It's something that takes a lot of time, yet can only take a short amount of time for the trust to go away. My boyfriend is completely trustworthy..he's had an ex tell him she still loves him and even tried to kiss him. Luckily, he's extremely loyal to me and won't do anything to break my trust. However, he always seems to have girls after him or trying to talk to him. I don't get jealous because when it comes down to it I'm the one he's with and no one can change that. But it does put me a little on edge just because I don't trust the other girls. Sometimes my boyfriend doesn't really notice girls are being flirty or trying to get him, I guess because he has me and doesn't want anyone else. So I kind of feel like I have to look out for him in a way. But I guess I shouldn't really have to worry about it because he is so loyal and won't do anything with other girls. I think it's just human nature to feel that way
@melindasaysrawr (36)
• United States
22 Oct 11
I know exactly what you mean! My boyfriend, while has messed up, has never done anything to break my trust. But girls are always after him, especially his ex, and it drives me crazy sometimes. While I trust him completely, it's the girls I'm worried about! Sometimes they will stop at nothing. It's silly when I think about it, but I can't help it. You're completely right, it's just human nature.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
22 Oct 11
I'm the exact same way. Even though he doesn't do anything bad I feel like I have to be on the lookout for someone who could try and come between us, because some girls just don't care if a guy already has a girlfriend. My boyfriend tells me over and over that it's me and only me forever and that he's not interested in someone else. But I guess we just feel the need to protect the things we love most in life. Glad to know I'm not the only one out there that does this!
@lilblondiemjd (857)
• United States
22 Oct 11
I have horrible trust issues. It all goes back to how you see yourself and how you value yourself as a person. Unfortunately, the only people who get insanely jealous are those who are insecure. I'm totally including myself in that mess. We all have some flaws when it comes to how we are in relationships, and jealousy is one of the most common...So at least we know we're not alone. I wish I had a magic answer as to how to make it go away, or how to at least not blow things out of proportion so much, but I haven't found a solution yet. I think when someone's extremely jealous or has a lot of trust issues, they should start by building up their own self esteem, because that's where it always stems from. There's a lot of self esteem development books out there that have helped a lot of people. I know therapy works for a lot of people too. The problem is almost always how you feel about yourself though.
@melindasaysrawr (36)
• United States
22 Oct 11
I agree completely. I know full well that most of my trust issues in this relationship is because of how I was treated in past relationships, thus making my self esteem, well, for a lack of better word, sucky. I try not to judge my current boyfriend by my past boyfriends mistakes, but sometimes I just can't help it. It's amazing what things can do to you, and how long you can hold on to them without even realizing it.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
22 Oct 11
Trust comes only through belief kept on our loved ones. Never give up your loved ones on any cost.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
17 Nov 11
I have always believed I cannot find a girl and I am ugly or something. But I have slowly come to realize that the fault is not in me, I am single by choice. I am taking all the time in the world to find that special someone and not just hooking up with anyone.
That has made me sort of arrogant in its own way, I don't even BOTHER TO LOOK at girls I think I do not care about. But on the other hand I miss out on the opportunities of knowing a good girl who maybe just passed by.
For some reason I know I will find a special one. I have a hypothetical image of a girl who is perfectly defined, who has all the qualities that I will like. I will look for her long and hard till I find her.
What was your question again?
LOL
@kazumi04286 (38)
• Philippines
22 Oct 11
Most people really have a hard time giving their trust because of bad experiences. So giving your full trust to someone is extremely difficult.
@sacredcow (40)
• United States
22 Oct 11
The one time I was in a relationship, we had major communication issues, although it was mostly me. (I'm not much of a talker.) We only went out for a few weeks and we hardly ever talked to eachother. we just kind of sat together at lunch and it was really awkward. We never were able to solve it, although we didn't try very hard. We broke up pretty quickly.
