Really Fed up with Advices......!!!!!

Hello Dassodils, Parents always give advice to their kids and by doing so i think they do nothing wrong i have understood this only when i became father of 2 sweet kids.They always find your fault and give their advice so that you may not do it wrong in future and every parent want their kids to do things faultless.They don't appreciate you when you get success this is what you think but in reality they might feel proud of you friend for your success.

what can i say.every teenager hate advices me too. we think what we do is the right thing.but it dont seems to be everytime. parenting is needed.otherwise we cant be like this. i dont know about your parents your lifestyle. dont get fed up just cheer up/"SOMETHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON"

Hi Dassodils: I have felt this way before, specially when I was a teenager. Sometimes we feel that our parents are annoying telling us what we exactly need to do and what we are doing wrong but in general they do this because they want to protect us and that we would be better persons so try to understand that they want the best for you. ALVARO

Hi Dassodils! You are very fortunate to have parents who love and care about you. You should be alarmed if parents will no longer give advices and seem indifferent in whatever you are doing for this will only show that they no longer have feelings for you nor love and care for you. Although, it is oftentimes annoying to listen to them telling you not to do this or you should not do that or give a comment if there are things they have observed or you have done which they disapprove but just think that they do this because they want you to have the best. They may not be perfect but they have wisdom because they have experienced a lot in life compared to you. Maybe they don't want you to commit mistakes that they themselves have done when they were still young. Sometimes it feels like they are dictating your life and become overbearing sometimes but you should be grateful that you have parents who are looking after you. Of course, you can decide on your own and they are just there to guide you because they cannot dictate your life. If you don't like what they have been telling you, just listen to them and reflect on their words. And still if you don't agree then go ahead and do what you want. Just be sure that you are absolutely certain that what you are doing is good for you or else you might regret it. You always have to face the consequences of your actions and I hope you will be mature enough to take responsibilities of whatever you want to do in your life.

Hi dassodils, I get fed up too sometimes but we have to understand that it's their way of caring for us. They love us and would hate to see if we go the wrong way. Some parents have a hard time disciplining their children for fear of being hated and disliked. I think that is selfish. Our parents would rather have us get annoyed by them than see us go astray. Whenever I get fed up, I try to not think about it too much. I still love them. I'm very sure that you love your parents as well, and deep down, you know they are doing this because they care. Cheer up! They're just doing their job as parents. I'm sure they're proud to have a daughter like you but they just won't stop giving advice.

hello dassodils, i think your parents are just trying to make sure that you aren't deviated from your path a bit.they always try to analyse you and whenever they see you doing something wrong,they show up to tell you where you are doing wrong. take these things sportingly because they are just trying to show how much they care about you.

Son daughter husband or wife all your life you have to listen to advise. sage gentleman bridegroom or bride on body can forgo advise. all your life you may complain but on one will suffice so one and do your own things genuinely if you are wise..

I am sure your parents are concern about you,but you feel bad about it becoz you want some freedom. Don't think it that way dear. I am sure your parents knows about your success and appreciate about it. Why not talk with them, tell them to listen to you sometime and tell them that you want to tell them something...

You can escape it by basically saying, thanks but no thanks, I'll live my own life. I was there once as well, and, looking back years later, I am so glad I finally grew a spine and followed my own ideas and goals. My parents may have meant well, but if I had continued to follow their advice, I'd still be living a life that wasn't meant for me. Parents are only human; they are prone to mistakes, error, and overall ignorance in making decisions. They've lived longer than you, but that in no way makes them wiser unless they have gone through various experiences, so depending on your set of parents, they may very well be leading you in the wrong direction. Be your own person. Don't let your parents push you in one direction or another, because if you have to be "pushed" in a certain direction, it's not for you. If they continue to find faults and be disappointed, build your own family and deal with them only as necessary. Parents that continually berate their children for their choices (unless these choices are potentially deadly, obviously) don't really deserve to hear about the child's life until they do some growing up themselves. Assuming you aren't exaggerating about your parents pushing aside your successes and the good you display, I'm not sure why you even speak to them unless necessary. They sound like a drain on your life and motivation, and, regardless of blood relation, a negative influence to you.

I think most parents do the same thing to their children. Some even go to the extent that sometimes we may think that they are the one who are running the lives of their children. Well on the other side we can not blame them because they care and only thinks what is best for their children. Maybe they thought being parents they knew what is best for their children. But we knew sometimes it suffocates them and sometimes the results are the opposite. Like in your situation you said you are fed up with their advises and fault finding. Maybe you could talked to them and tell them you are old enough and knew what's best for you and will ask their opinions/advises if necessary.

Dassodils - welcome to mylot. You have started a good discussion. You will get more advices in writing from elders like me. We parents expect our children to shape their future well. So we suggest you to read well, dress well and have healthy habits. Understand their basic expectations and try to fulfil them. Then you may not face more problems from parents. Parents are there to guide you and not nag you --have this impression and then things will be very easy.

Dassodils..you probably know or have heard most of us have felt that way some time or other in our lives?? It’s actually a universal feeling at certain stages of life. I remember feeling that way and I have heard my kids, and my friends kids say the same to their parents.. I agree some parents can be excessive, but for the most part they want what is best for you and are afraid you will make a mistake that will hurt you. Of course the answer to that is always..”let me make my own mistakes and if I am hurt then so be it” I think all of us that thought that at some time... As a parent It's hard to let go and see your child doing something you are pretty sure isn't the best for him or her. Try to be a little patient with them. Give them as much understanding as you can even if you feel they don't understand you. Remeber, they too were once your age. If you have children in all likelihood you too will go through this . Best of luck to you in everything you do

Well parents are like that maybe trying to help but end up getting negative bringing you down. Say that? Something you might try to get dialogue going is bring up a topic suddenly. Don't talk about you, talk about them or someone else. The next door neighbour or something.

Now a days all are disliking advises. To my opinion to some extent advise is good, parents has the right to advise their children to direct them in to the correct way.Don't mistake parents are always following and finding fault. In the modern world we are hearing many bad incident news in newspapers and from TV news, to protect you from this they are advising.

I understand how you feel. I guess we have all felt like that especially when we have moved into our teens and started to feel more independent. But one thing that you need to remember is that they keep advising because they feel for you from the bottom of their heart. That is not true for most of the other people around you. Just keep that at the back of your head. My father still keeps advising me on topics on which probably I am more qualified to take a call. But I continue to humor him as he feels quite good and important about it. Cheers! Ram

Okay I understand they are concern but then if it is hard to explain to them advise is being nothing. I hate it when they are just being fault finder. Being a parents should be responsible and must be good in moralities. In my case my father has his immoral and immature attitude that is why it was like I live and grew up without a father. He is even pervert who talks maliciously. You see when I was just a kid instead of being taught the right way of sensitivities there is always malicious content when being discussed because he delivered it in mess? How can you listen to his advises if that thing conflicts much?

hey there dassodils, maybe they are just so concern about you and just being protective. I felt that when I was younger but I realized now that I am older that it was just because they are so over protective of me because I am their only daughter (I have two brothers - they normally give favors to them). Take it easy ^^