If someone tells you they are going for therapy do you
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
October 23, 2011 2:04pm CST
If someone would tell you they were going for therapy..psychological therapy; would you automatically think that they are suffering something you need to back away from? Do you think that society tends to look on therapy as something dreadful and those who get it should keep it hushed ..please explain your answers.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 Oct 11
Hi,
if someone whom i know or dont know ,i first try to know what really they are suffering from and then try to give an advice.
I dont feel if someone goes for it then they are sick and i have to go away from them,if anyone does that way then indirectly they are making the person more ill.
It is not good.
Should do our best for the person who is in troublem however i can say those who are going in such a situation will not like anyones advice or love because they feel that they are seen as courtesy ,or i am not able to get the right word for that.May be in the nest response i may get that word.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 Oct 11
Some times we can not even advice them u know because they feel or if i myself in such a situation i dont like any ones advice or suggestions becasue my age doesnt need it.I feel that they are showing some "sympathy" .Got it,that was the word i was not able to tell in the before response.
No one likes this sympathy u know.No body likes it.If your tellign them good also they wil not listen at that situation,becasue they already know their problems and dont knwo the solutions.
The people who are in such a sitaution do nt need any consulting they need friends to share and feel their problem.Real friends.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
24 Oct 11
All your comments are greatly appreciated. I am majoring in psycholgoy but also am someone who has sought out therapy. I know that there is a stigma that people attach to the idea of getting therapy or people who see a therapist.
Therapists, psychologists, counselors are just as necessary as your medical doctor. They treat wounds that many don't see.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
24 Oct 11
When a person suffering from some psychological way,that person would never like to go to the doctor ,He does not want the feeling that he is mentally or psychologically ill.No one on this earth are so.It is some situations or some problems which make them get in to such type of acting.
A doctor should not be a doctor to them,he or she should be a care taker with much more responsibility.
They should get friends around so that they can forget the problems they are been or get such friends who can take them away from such problems.
A human is a human ,though he is a therapist,psychologist,counsellor .They are humans not something else.They also do have feelings which a normal person has.
May be according to their degree holding as a doctor they know w few more tips to tell the person who is suffering.
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@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I think society tends to think that those people who go to therapy are crazy,
But I don't agree with that, because we can go to therapy to receive advises like it happend to me I went to therapy but I wasn't crazy I was just confused about the relationship that I had with my husband. A boy was going to therapy to stop sucking his thumb, but it doesn't means that he had psicological problems.
So I would help that person if that person allow me giving advises or supporting him/her.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Rosa all of us folks get confused and sometimes overwhelmed by life's pressures..right now am seeing a therapist for what happened during my last employment.. things have to looked over and healed.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
27 Oct 11
Yes Rosa, it is always darkest right before the dawn.and never get a rainbow
without first having some rain. Good thoughts.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
23 Oct 11
No I don't think I would back away, in fact I have known a number f people over the years that have gone to some sort of therapy and have never backed away.
I guess depending on what the problem was I may back away from someone that I just met, although it's not in my nature. If they weren't violent or something or if the problem was for something to do with harming others that would make me think twice about continuing to get to know them.
I think though that many people in society do tend to think less of someone that goes to therapy on a regular basis.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
24 Oct 11
Its sad isn't it that society thinks less of people who seek out THerapy.
Do you think that many who should get help, don't because they don't want
to be looked down upon? What do you think society can do as a whole to make
it more acceptable.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
25 Oct 11
I think that because of the label many that need and would benefit the most don't get it, yes. It is a very sad thing indeed.
I do think that we have come along way in the past 25 years. Still more understanding is needed.
I think that people should realize how awesome they are that they realize that they have a problem and want to do something about it.
They only thing that I can think of to change things is showing the positive sides of therapy. It's very healthy to talk about problems and not keep them bottled up inside. So even if you just have a good friend to talk to that can be therapy in itself. Someone who doesn't judge but listens. A lot of times a person will hear what they are saying and have a light bulb go off.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
25 Oct 11
Hi little franciscan: When I was like 10 years old I had to go to therapy because I was bullied in school and I have some emotional things to fix. In case I know someone is going to therapy I would see this as something possitive because, it means that maybe he/she has something in the past that makes him/her suffer, something that he/she needs to fix in his/her life but he/she is trying to do this which is great. I would support this person in case he/she would be my friend and would offer my help and support.
ALVARO
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Sorry to hear that you suffered such trauma as a child. I agree.. therapy does help immensely; just knowing someone cares enough to listen. The therapist helps you understand why you allow yourself to become a victim to bullies or abusers and then offers tools how to approach the situation should it happen again.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Oct 11
I would not back away from someone I knew if they were in therapy. Therapy is not for the insane it is also for those who need some support. My son is a Mental Health Specialist and does wonders with the people who he works with.
I think that years ago and maybe some still to date look at therapy as if it were something taboo and or dreadful. It isn't as sometimes people need professional support and I would admire anyone who seeks for the support, there is nothing wrong with it. Many businesses here in this day and age offer this to their employees and it is a confidential service.
If I knew someone who had issues and perhaps my own help would not be enough I would recommend them to go for therapy and assure them there is nothing to be ashamed of.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
24 Oct 11
Good for you. .I think many are open minded and non-judgemental; but there
are also those who feel it a sign of weakness if someone seeks help. I think
the opposite.
For many years, I thought of seeking some counseling but many things held me
back. Thoughts of being stigmatized, judged and labeled were many of the reasons
I did not.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16762)
• China
24 Oct 11
I can think what there is to be surprised at.Who can bet that he never suffer from any ill? There is no need for people who fall ill not to utter a single word about it.It makes no difference whether you say it or not,Let others say what they will and do what is right in your own sight.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
24 Oct 11
very good insight. I agree ..doing what is right for oneself is rhe best.
Today's society, however, is forever telling you to keep up and even do
better.. what do you say to that?
@changjiangzhibin89 (16762)
• China
30 Oct 11
I think most people are kindhearted and reasonable.Today's society is like a boat sailing against the current must forge ahead or it will bedriven back.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
9 Nov 11
If someone decides to go for a psychological therapy. He is probably suffering from somthing. If he is my friend, I will support him and try to give him help.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
23 Oct 11
Yes I do think society will think if you go for therapy you suffer for something. Because this is how people think and a healthy person, with enough self esteem, doesn't need help from someone.
Personally I would not think that that person is suffering from someone. I know there are many reasons why you can go for therapy. For me it's no reason to back away from that person or those persons. To be honest I think way to many people are going for therapy who are in my eyes completely normal.
Being different as the cattle doesn't mean you need therapy but nowadays it looks like that way.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
24 Oct 11
I disagree with you assessment that too many go to therapy. I think the opposite is quite true; that not enough seek help for their issues and thus we have all the craziness and hurting going on in our world. People opening fire on innocent bystanders etc.