What kind of mom are you
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
October 24, 2011 10:37am CST
Are you a working mom, stay at home mom, or a part time working stay at home mom?
I'm a stay at home mom myself, although I like to think I'm also a part time working mom since I do babysit a few days a week. I do like being about to stay home and do things in the house and take care of my daughter during the day till my husband comes home. But right now I think I need to search for another babysitting job I haven't seen the kids I watch in a week and I haven't heard anything from either parents. I think I'm being ignore.
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@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I am a working mom. A teacher so I do get some months to be a stay at home mom. I do feel that the working moms have it a bit easier. I miss the adult interaction the most during the summer months, especially when my husband goes away for a week or so at a time for his summer job.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Oct 11
I am happy for you for having the luxury of time with your family. Yes, for teachers summertime is the best break ever. But for a Social worker like me no breaks at all. Not unless you declare one for yourself.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Oct 11
Well summer isn't that long and teachers do have to work a little bit in the summer to get ready for the next school year. But that is so good that you get time off to be with your kids to take care of them in the summer time as well as school vacations with your kids as well.
I'm a stay at home mom so I get all the time in the world to spend with my daughter till she starts going to school.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Oct 11
I still have to take care of my daughter she isn't old enough for school yet but I don't take care of my husband he can do that himself since he isn't a little kid.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Hahaha! I get up at 6:00 and prepair breakfast for my son, and a diffrent breakfast for my husband because they eat the same,I cook the lunch for my husband too, because my son eats lunch in the school, I don't have to cook lunch for him, iron their clothes sometimes, and then when they leave I come to my lot.So your husband cooks his own food?
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Well I don't make him breakfast in the morning. I make something or eat something that I can eat up quickly for myself. I'll even give my daughter her baby food in the morning. My husband doesn't eat when he first gets up. I'll make him a lunch but its not cooking. I just put a sandwich together and put it in a baggy and he is out and off to work. I get up between 7 and 8 am every day even on the weekend. I might make lunch for me and my husband on the weekend but normally we will make something for ourselves that we want to eat. I'll heat up or cook dinner for me, my husband and his cousin how lives in the same house as us. We tend to trade off nights when it comes to dinner. We normally just take something out of the freezer and heat it up for dinner it can be something that is done in the oven quickly or it'll be a whole meal. I was raise to where if a men has two, harms, two legs and they work he can feed himself.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I am a working mom. I wish I could just stay home and take care of my son but we need money to pay the bills and for other expenses. My work office is not that far from where we live right now so still I have enough time to take care and play with my baby every day.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
26 Oct 11
That is great that you stay home with your daughter. I'm also relying on my family for support in taking care of my son. I am really hesitant to hire a nanny to take care of my baby alone. We are planning to hire a nanny in the future but still with my mother-in-law's supervision. I am really overprotective of my son (I think most parents are if not all) and some news about child abuse really frightens me.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
I don't get family help like that but that is because I don't like my husband family every much and we don't trust any of them with our daughter and the good thing is they don't live town either. I've been babysitting for years so I gain trust easy with parents and the kids always love me.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
That is good I think that is importing for a working mom to be able to have some times to play and be with her child to build that relationship between each other. I get to stay home with my daughter we really can't afford it but make it work with the help of family. We can't afford child care either way at all so this works the best for my family.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
24 May 12
I was a working mom for the most part of 7 years. While I liked that I could get out of the house for a while, there were times I wished I didn't have. Right now, I'm a stay at home mom with my 3 kids. Sometimes I wished I was still working, just to get out, but there are times I like to stay home because then I get to be home with my kids. It's very nice sometimes.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 May 12
I love being a stay at home mom. I'll take my daughter out on walks will play outside and stuff. Yeah its not the same as going to work outside of the house but for me I really enjoy it some days it drives me up the wall because I'm pregnant again with a 15 month old and that get pretty tiring some days. I don't really miss working to much at all.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Ah so you are both a working mom and a stay at home mom. So does that mean you get to work at home or do you need to go to work to do work and then come home for a bit and take care of your child and do some online earning.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Oct 11
Then that means your a stay at home mom. I'm a stay at home mom myself. I spend all day every day taking care of my daughter. I try to spend what ever time I can working online when I'm not taking care of my daughter.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
That's cool. Any time my daughter allows me to, I can get come on to mylot and do some work. I know I'll have more work as soon as my daughter gets older to where she plays more and more by herself and other children her own age.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
27 Oct 11
I'm a stay at home mom and now grandmom. My daughter and grand daughters still live at home and I babysit the youngest one, and hopefully soon another little boy. When my kids were small my husband was an over the road truck driver. He's still a truck driver and works quite a few hours but he's now a local driver and is home most nights and for all of the weekend.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
28 Oct 11
I'm a stay at home mom. My mom is a working mom and grandmother she goes to an office every day of the weekend and then works part time 3 days a week at home depot. One of my brothers and his very lazy wife live with my parents and she is a stay at home mom but she doesn't do anything that a stay at home mom would do. she just lives off of them.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Yes that is good that you can work for home part of the time so you can have time with your children. I'm a full time mommy.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
25 Oct 11
I'm not a mom, but i know my mom.. haha :D SHe's a stay home mom as well, a full time housewife with too much time on her hands, not knowing what to do.. lol :D She can be considered to be lucky, blessed but in fact she's lonely. She used to baby sit to pass time, to earn some cash too. Also into singing sessions and dancing lesson. BUt as she gets older, physical problems starts to surface and thus she's not as active like before
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Stay at home mom and house wife are the same thing they mean the same things as well. I'm planning on working after my daughter gets big enough for school if I don't have any more kids by then.
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
25 Oct 11
I'm a working mum, i've worked part time since well before i had my son. I'm also basically still single, as my partner does not live near me. So i do everything for my son, even when i was with his father it was me do everything. I'm also a bit stricter at times, i feel it wont hurt my son to learn a few manners that a lot of kids don't have nowa days.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
A working mom that works hard for her little boy that is good as well. Yes its important to teach our children manners. I'm teaching my daughter from a early age she is 8 months old so she doesn't really understand them just but they are good for her to know.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
at first when i read the title, i thought about it as a question on my traits as a mom.
i am a working mom of two. my children are grown-ups already - 21 and 19. it is a difficult situation as you have to juggle your time earning money and doing house chores during the weekends. when the kids were younger, it was even more difficult because young children demand more attention. i am a survivor, yehey!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Once in school a working mom doesn't have to worry so much about there child. My mom was a working mom and my dad was a working dad so pretty much when school start both my parents worked 8 hour shifts they weren't always in the day time but soon after I start school it was more regular in the day time and they had the weekends off to me and my brothers. My husband has the same thing he works in the day time through the weekend and is off on the the weekends which is when he spends time with our daughter the most. I normally have her through out the week all of the time which works for me since I don't like working but I do love taking care of my daughter. As children get older you have to change things up on how you work and balance them in as well.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
25 Oct 11
I am a stay at home mom who is currently working at writing a novel. So far I haven't had a lot of time to get too far into it, but I am getting somewhere. I too used to watch kids in my spare time but for one reason or another, I stopped watching the children. Now I am trying to concentrate on fixing up my house because I know that next year I will be going back to work. Both of my children will be in school for the full day by then, and since my husband and family are planning a trip, I thought that it would be nice to get some income saved before we go. I also want to work because the thought of sitting in my house all day while the kids are away and my husband is working, is just to quiet and lonely. I would much rather be out there doing something worthwhile.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
That is cool. I'm starting to write a book to but not about being a mom. I love writing creative things I just started one yesterday I'm 6 pages in. I'm working on it between my daughter playing, eating, and sleeping. I get most of it done as soon as my husband is home. I get the joy of both worlds.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I use to work but I just resigned and now working part time only.
I love to work but not with full time job.
I want to earn while attending my kids also so, being a part time worker is better for a mother like me.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
That is good that you found what works for you. Being a part time worker and still being able to be with your kids that is so ever good. Good luck with the work.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
25 Oct 11
Hello,
I think I am a ok mom. My children are now 22 and 19. They still have issues from time to time like now both are want money from me. They always seem to hit at the same time not knowing the other one is asking...
I am doing my best I know college life is not easy for them and both work. So I am thankful for that.
You are very lucky to be stay at home mom. Was not given that at the time.
Wish all best of luck with your children and husband.
Sincerely Unique16
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
We can't afford me being a stay at home mom but we make it work since my husband does have a better job now. We still get help now and then with bills I'm only 23 and my husband is 22 so we both still have money problems but for the most we do it on own like my brothers do. I love being home with my daughter since I can do what I want when I want to as well as see the needs of my daughter.
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I am a single mom that works a full time job 40-50 hours, a 2nd job - 11 hours, and online work. I will do whatever it takes to keep my kids in a house, in a good school, with enough to eat. It's a good thing I am a workaholic!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Its not a good thinking being a workaholic it does kill you in the end. When do you get time to be with your kids isn't that important developing a loving trusting relationship with them as well.
Work is important when alone but its not the only thing in the world when it comes to someone children. Those children still need a parent to be there for them to talk to them, to see them do certain things.
I'm lucky I still have a partner and I get to stay home but I almost make sure that my husband is also here for our daughter. She needs him as much as she needs me. He works only 8 hours and yeah that isn't enough for us 3 but we make it work because we have learned to manage. I could also go back to work but I wouldn't be happy at all I would be miserable.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I'm a part time working stay at home mom, although it's mostly just stay at home coz I can barely spend time now to do anything else. Most of the business ventures that I did when I was still pregnant are not being stopped or put on-hold. Most of my 'job' now is in the internet such as mylot and blogging. I do want to have my own source of income but my baby is my top priority right now -- she is my world -- and I do love spending time with her and she loves spending time with me too!
I know that her laugh and happiness are the only rewards or so-called "payments" that I get from being a 99.9% full time mom but for me it's worth more than money. It's priceless!
Don't worry, I'm sure that you're not being ignored by the kids' parents that you babysat before. Perhaps they're just busy with other things. Sometimes we do miss the kids that we babysat and spent time with coz it feels like they're also our own children. Just like our maid. We just had her just 5 days ago and she said she misses the baby that she babysat before so much that she cries every now and then when she remembers her. It's actually the daughter of her cousin's niece. Well at least she gets to visit her every now and then because they're just our neighbors. But she still misses her and even cries when she sees her. Let alone the baby calls her "mama" and treats her like her own mother.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
I pretty sure I am being ignored by them since its been almost two weeks. They don't have any child care at all and both work different work hours and even on the days that one is home to take care of there children they also contact me to let me know they don't need me that day or this day or anything like that. Well these kids don't call my mama only my daughter does. I've only had them for over a month that is it. I only see them in the after noon for a few hours and that is it so we have no real connection outside of the fact that they like me as there babysitter and playing with my daughter.
I know what you by payment of laughter or smiles even little hugs and them saying your name. It makes ever day better even when its bad and they drive you nuts.
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@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I am a full time office worker and a part time online writer but I do take care of my one and only child when I am at home. I see to it that we get to be together every free time that I have. She is a 10 year old girl so she needs supervision but aside from that she is a very independent child. I allow her friends to play at our house rather than roam the streets to play it is safer this way. Sometimes I do wonder how I can manage to juggle the roles that I play in life since at the same time I do once a week supervision for Sunday School teachers. It's a matter of proper time management and setting each task by arranging them by levels of importance and if it needs to be done ASAP.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Yep managing your life and what needs to be done is important to raising a child and work as well.
I get to stay at home and take care of my daughter since my husband has a full time job. But he spends any time he has with her and he spends all weekend long with our daughter as well.
@sreekutty (1051)
• India
25 Oct 11
I used to work before my marriage but now I am a stay at home mom and also have to look after my family and our farm. Nice topic indeed.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
Thanks. I worked after I got married for a little bit up till I got pregnant then I stopped working and became a stay at home mom. We can't afford it but we make it work some how with me and my husband and it helps that he has a better job these days.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
25 Oct 11
and mother and I think we all should have the necessary time to datsata whether its working or not.
also I think the other is that all children feel when they are loved and cared for by their mothers and then just when they are repulsed by the mother to allow it to rest.
as you say there are mothers caring for children but also those who ignore them.
Yet a mother can not permanently registered office at home but can not pay attention to their children.
I am currently unemployed I have an interview tomorrow, but my children go to child and up to 5 hours there.
but after taking them I play with them and do what they want.
I think mothers should be at any moment.
Have a nice day!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
I never said there was mother that ignore there children. There is a difference between a working mom and stay at home mom both are good parents no one or other is better for a family. There are mothers like my husband that work 8 hours days and then come home and take care of there child dos a child no the difference no all they know is that they are loved since someone comes home to them all of the time and loves them and cares for them. I'm just the parent that is here all of the time for my daughter but that doesn't mean she needs me all of the time. There are parents that just work and work and never have time for there child at all those are probably ignore there children but do they mean to no because we don't know there lives they might be a single parent doing it on there own.
What I think is it doesn't matter at all as long as that mom has a little bit of time to give herself to her child even a father as well then all is good. Staying home with a child isn't allow a good thing its not for ever parents out there the same with working.
@naomi321 (48)
• China
25 Oct 11
i am a stay at home mom too. my baby is just one year old,she needs to be taken care by someone. her grandmother is busy and have no time to take care of her,so i have to stay at home and doing nothing except looking after her.in my opinion, it is tried of looking after a naughty baby. how do you feel about your baby?
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Oct 11
I love being a stay at home mom, my daughter is a joy to have. All kids will do stuff we don't like that is why the word No exists and little kids don't understand it when said in the right tone it does work. My daughter is 8 months old and when told no she normally will stop look at me and crying and other times she'll keep going on about it but its a process of learning that is why we are parents. I wouldn't want to work all day and be away from her one I don't enjoy working unless its with kids and when working with kids I don't get the same feeling as I do when taking care of my of my own baby. I also like the freedom to do as I want when I want when I'm home with my daughter. Yes some times she drives me nuts but I still love my little girl and can never understand why a parent would say that there child is naughty or bad. My sister-in-law says that about my nephew its just that she doesn't understand how his little brain works and never teaches him she just expects him to know not to do something.