What would you do if

I'm kinda like in this situation. But in my case, we have been together for more than 4 years. For me, I'm thinking that its worth fighting for. But he is acting really different now. Like he's a whole different person. So, I'm more confused than ever.

To me the only solution would be to break up with him. Then if he truly cares, he says so and that he will change his ways, then I would tell him I don't want to be in a relationship where we don't hang out together.. "those who hang out together stay together" And I absolutely refuse to share him, if that be what's going on.. if he doesn't like those terms, I for one would know I was better off without him and stop wasting my time and years of my life in a relationship I'm not happy in. Men like me, so there would be no reason why I wouldn't find a very nice relationship with someone else, and even if I didn't, I'm not a needy person who hAs to be in a relationship (thus I always had more opportunities for relationships; been married 30 years) even if I never did fall in love again, I'd still be happier independently on my own than in a demeaning sort of relationship. [Never repeat yourself in a relationship, say something once, that's my motto, it's not worth it if I have to be cast into the role of (according to 'him') b!tchin' or wh!nin'; he don't hear me, I'm outta there!]

It sounds like perhaps he's now settled into the relationship with you and feels he can be more like himself, which doesn't sound as if it's a very caring thing to be....or, maybe he has something on his mind that's making him stressed and irritable and without meaning to, he's taking it out on you....or, could it be that he's trying to cool things off yet can't bring himself to tell you outright? If the first of those things is what's really the problem, then I'd be worried for you if you stayed with him as his attitude could get worse if you perhaps married or lived together, but if it's either of the other things (or maybe something different altogether), maybe it can be dealt with by perhaps sitting down and calmly, lovingly discussing the problem? Good luck!

Hi Hazel, I would end the relationship. His abuse and disrespect are showing you the opposite of love. Upstanding men take responsibility for their problems, rather than being selfish and looking for someone else to blame. You deserve to be treated so much better than this. Don't settle for such unacceptable behavior. There is a wonderful guy out there who will treat you with love, respect and dignity. Just have patience. Be true to yourself. Never change who you are thinking that you are keeping another person happy.

Hi, you know what it's hard to let go of someone you really love, sometimes we hold on to it just because we are afraid to start all over again and loose the person we love but if you are saying that he is not treating you with respect anymore, what's good there is to hold on to a relationship where there is no foundation of respect? how can you possibly love someone you do not have an inch of respect? Love should be based on this, so i think it's better to let go of this while you still have respect left for him and for yourself.

Hazel, I'm assuming that's your name. You should just get out of that relationship asap. He's treating you like dirt. Move on and find somebody better. probably best to be sort of friends with the guy for a little before dating so you know what he's really like otherwise you'll fall into the same situation. You have to realize that bad guys aren't good for you, esp for long term relationships, move on and get a guy who treats you right...

If it happens to me, i will stay out of his life, rather than putting him out of my life. Both are different. At least i'm still loving him, be glad to see him happy, doing what he wants. If he's able to move on and find a better girl than me, than it's his luck. But if he wishes to come back to me, i will not accept him again. HWo knows he might be more demanding for the second time? Love is not about being together physically ^^

Depends on age and experience. I don't tolerate being abused any more in relationships regardless of type though, so I'd probably give him a warning and then kick him to the curb. Any woman who doesn't is telling the rude boyfriend AND THE ENTIRE WORLD that she is not worth much. Based on his actions, he doesn't really want to be with you or continue the relationship, and he's trying to get YOU to break it off so HE doesn't have to look like the bad guy. Too many women I know will give the same excuses - we've been together a long time, that's just how he is, I will just live with it, but you know what, that's a slap in the face to yourself and your own value as a person, and it's very unhealthy.

first off, no one has the ability to take away your self-esteem unless you let them. You need to be stronger, you are your own person, you were not born with this guy attached to you, he doesn't make you a better person, he has no power over you unless you give it to him. I can honestly say that if a guy was treating me the way that you are describing right now, I would leave him in a second. A relationship is when two people CARE and LOVE one another and want to spend their lives together. This relationship that you are talking about isn't any of those things. I have been with my husband for 13 years and he has never made me feel like that, not even when we were young and immature in highschool. Why? Because he knows that if he ever treated me that way I would tell him to bugger off and be done with him. I hope that you do the same. The relationship that you are discribing isn't healthy and you need to do some serious thinking and decide if that is the way that you want the rest of your life to be. I hope that you make the right decision.

I know the situation when you get use to that someone. It is hard to move on because it is harder to start anew. I do understand that situation. However, we should move on for the sake of ourselves. I used to be in the same situation. My ex changed when he had found someone new but he didn't want to let me go. It is hard for me to let go, because I never thought that he would never did what he did to me. Honestly, at the very end, I felt like a toy for him. It was sad and hurt, but I told myself to move on. It is hard, but I did it. I suggest you to take time for yourself, think about it. Consider every part of your life. But please, put YOU on priority because no one will put you on priority list, instead of you.

If such a situation happen, I would suggest that your should let him go, from all his actions show that he no longer love you, so there is no point to continue the relationship, it is better to end it the earlier the better, because, the longer you hold the relationship, it will be harder for your to let him go. Why love someone that no longer love you anymore?

Hi! I think there is something wrong with this guy especially his attitude. If you think it hurt you a lot and you are not happy anymore, you better break up with him.You are a lot more worthy to have a better man than to have a guy like this.If he is not giving you due importance than there is no essence in your relationship ,do not be afraid to break up with this king of guy.

hi:) every relationship has ups and downs, try to ask him if there's any problem between you two, or try to rewind a few days and stop where you see your relationship may have taken a sour turn. then if it's your fault, try to apologize in a sweet way without the arguments. but if he continuous being cold after you'd done that, then maybe it's time to end the relationship and move on. Goodluck!:)

Relationship is for both is not just for the man or the women. The ideas, decision everything need to both agree about that. This is my opinion. I believe if you don't have a health relation and you fighting each other all the time so why still together? I think decision like this just the involved is allowed to decide!!!

If I am in your shoes,first I will explain things to him (if he runs away,try more to make him listen).I would make him understand about how I feel.Then even after that,he behaves the same,he is not worth my love and will dump him.Fist explaining is the most important thing that many couples to do.If the partner really understand,he will be good to you and more love will be in the air.On the other side, you will know if he does love you truly which will help you to move on and seek a worthy person.

i think you must end it..girls must not treated that way..

If I were in a relationship like this I will not tolerate it. If that guy really loves you then he'll put you in his plans first. He will set time for you and will always have time for you, if there's an argument he'll ask you to both sit down and talk about it. I mean this is a clear sign of just having you when he wants you only and when no longer needed just"dump" you at the side. Maybe, the best thing a girl can do is talk to the guy why they're treating us that way. Set parameters, tell what you feel, what you want, and if still nothing happens, thats the time to finally say "enough is enough, it's over!" We deserve someone better than this kind of man, right? Let's not waste our time with this kind of person, they're not worth it.

In my situation Ive.We've been my boyfriend for a year and 3 mos. We've been encounter been like that we are in a long distance relationship.I end up with him because he had another affair in there. I am too much fool if i can continue our relationship i will be the who hurt that much.So then i decided even if i love him but i must move on thats the best decision ive made instead.

I think its not worth tolerating this kind of relationship, as they say, it takes two to tango, and any relationship will not work if only one person is trying to work it out. It is hard for you have many things that you have shared, but don't wait until the love that you feel to that person will change to hate...It is better to end it now, until you have respect for that person.

If the love has faded away already because of how he treats you, better let go, its easy to let go because the love is not there anymore. Tell him that you are done with him, Im sure u will feel better afterwards. You don't deserve him. But if u still love him, then try to have more fighting attitude on correcting his acts. Just an idea, what if u threat him too, let's see if he really loves u.