Is it ok to give 100% or your love and care when the other doesn't?

Well, from my experience, that's what I did. And I eventually had a nervous breakdown and had a divorce. But I also now know that marriage isn't just about love.. it's also about 'survival'... so it's either you expect less or do it all the way but it all depends on what you want. Always follow your heart. Even if it ended up sounding bad for me, I don't regret a moment of it because I did what I believed in.. which was keeping on loving him.

We learn from the past and experiences. i did my best and gave my all from the past relationship and still lost him. Now,i am trying to learn not to give it all but sometimes I still can't. I am not sure how far can I again now I love someone.

Giving love is the best feeling anyone can get.In the beginning,it will wont matter even if we don't receive the expected love in return.But as days go by,that expectation will grow and we cannot stand it if we don't deserve the love we expect from them.Its not that,they don't love us.But its just that enough opportunities are not available to express it.We find every chance to express our love top them.If they don't do the same,tell them directly about the things you expect.If they love you truly,they will surely understand you.

i think we have the same feeling..my husband is so busy on his work and when he came home he will just eat and take a rest..I also know that he loves me..but i want his attention..I miss him even his always there after work.But because im her wife i still doing my responsibilities even sometimes his hurting my feelings..

In every situation in reality of our life because God made us in a balance. Sometimes that we thought its unfair but that's the reality of life we think that why we are suffering right but God knows that we can we are stronger enough to face the reality the problems whom we are the one will solve. Its just a matter of open communication so everyone knows why are we felt this way. Sometimes it says that things will change but as long as we can do we must save everything that we had. We are afraid of loosing someone we love so much.

Sometimes, in a husband and wife relationship, it is really hard to maintain that feeling we had when we are only getting to know each other, but try to think of the reasons why you husband is not showing the love and care that he is showing you before?? Try to analyze yourself also, try to think of some things that will get your husbands attention, surprise him, when he go home from work try to make him feel that you miss him a lot from a day that you and your husband is apart. Maybe, on those actions, he will feel that you also want some of his time as his wife.

I guess this is way too common an issue in all relationships. Just look at this in a good way. your husband is working hard for you and for your family. Maybe you can try to understand him a little more and not try to ask questions everytime he would come home. As i read in one book he goes home to you and needs peaceful time unlike when he was at work, etc where all he hears are noise...

Yeah friend its really unfair.. Try to explain your husband about your feelings.. ask him to take a leave and try to go for a holiday trip which may help you to have his love....

It is unfair definitely. But I don't think your husband knows about how you feel about him. Maybe he just feels too comfortable that you are just there and it's normal for you to take care of him and love him. And since he is busy he thought that maybe you would understand him as well. I feel you should go and talk to him about what you're feeling. Who knows he realized his shortcomings and make it up to you ^^

for me, though i'm not yet married.. we must always give our 100% love and care to the person we really love..but we must also love and care ourselves as much as we do to the other person.. for me, it's not right to weigh and compare your love to your partner's love..it will lead to discontentment because we will always feel that what they give in return isn't enough because we believe we love them more..love also is a choice for me..we choose the person we want to love..and since you said yes to your husband, it means you choose to love him no matter what..never measure his love to you..you may end up disappointed to that..just be contented to everything..and if you have some problems with him, try to open it up..couples must talk about their problems..

I understand how you feel. Because, I also feel the same. I have always tried to be a good wife, I do whatever my husband wants. But, it's all no use. Because, my husband does not care, with whatever I do. And more painful, my husband has another woman.

I have been in your shoes so I know how you are feeling. It can be hard. You have to let your husband know how you feel. If he is too busy to sit down and listen to you write an email or a letter as the previous person suggested. You seem like an extremely giving person and I would hate for you to change that because of what you are going through with him. I feel people like us, the ones that give and never asks for anything in return, are put here for a reason. Someone somewhere appreciates you for the person that gives 100%, so don't lose that part of yourself just talk to him.