people don't deserve anything

if she came to me telling me that she needs a place to stay or things like that you realise the fact that I couldn't tell her that I can't help her...I'm stupid let's face it...when i care for someone I would do anything if that person needs me. but it looks like she doesn't feel the same and it really hurts

I told her where I think she is wrong...now if she decides to listen to me it's totally up to her. but I'm sad because she doesn't realise she's losing all her friends with mistakes like that. I'm not the only one she had a fight with

Yes friend I wouldn't tell you don't receive her in your house, but please tell her all your thoughts, and her errors in this friendly relationship.

yes you're definitely right actions do speak louder than words and trough this I realised how much I mean to her. I was really hurt but maybe it's better like this. she told me she needed me to be there for her...the problem is that the feeling is mutual and she wasn't there for me when I needed her. I told her "hey even if I told you I had a brain tumour you would tell me that you can't talk because you need to go out...". maybe I'm stupid because I get to care too much

Sometimes we care more than the other person and we get hurt. You can't change being a good person anymore than she can't change doing what suits her. One thing I have learned is have no expectations from others. That way you less the chances you get hurt. Do the best you can do for you. Put yourself first. Sometimes it's taking a stand that makes a friend realize you are not a door mat for them. There is an old saying that says "You teach people how to treat you". You need to teach her not to use you when it benefits her. You have feelings too and your feelings matter. Expect more of yourself then others will. Caring to much hurts most of the time. The sad part is it's only you that's hurting. I hope the advice you've been given today has helped some. If she doesn't understand your hurt or care is she truly a friend? That only you can answer. I hope you find some peace with this and resolve it. Hugs

yes you're right you need to put yourself first...but I;m stupid and naif...when i care for someone I would do anything for that person to be happy. and as you said I put myself second...I know this is wrong but I can't change

the problem is that she sustains that she considers me the same. but since he moved she started changeing. I tried to open her eyes but she wouldn't understand. and she said that she needed me to tell her what she is doing wrong. I told her I can't do that forever and if she doesn't realise on her own than it's her problem. she thinks that apologising she could solve anything. I was really hurt with what she did and things aren't that simple

I understand. It's not that simple. But for a guy like me who has gone through this many times it's very simple!! I suggest you not to give her free advice. Guide her only when she needs your guidance. She is grown up to decide few things herself. Just don't hurt yourself by caring so much for her. I don't know how right I am but that's how i feel.

I'm tired of giving her advices...she is acting like a baby. she is going to change the day she realises she is doing wrong...I did my part and I told her what I tought she was doing wrong. but if she feels ok like this than is her business

jesus christ...I"m not in love with her. she is my best friend. and yes we had a special relationship because she was like the sister I never had. but maybe things changed without us realising...she changed alot. she became the kind of person who only cares about herself and who isn't capable to do something for others

she isn't in love with him..she is just having fun...this is why I got angry

I'm tired of trying to understand her. she has been doing things like this for quite a long period of time and to tell you the truth I got enough. she started changing and I don't like the person she turned into. I;m not trying to change her back...I told her where I tought she was doing wrong...if she decides to follow my adivce than it's up to her. but I can't be there to do that for her forever. she said she needed me...well I was there for her. but the problem is that when i needed her she had more important things to do

I'm not jelous...it's different things we're talking about. I wouldn't mind if she was really in love with this guy...but she is with two guys at the same time. and you pretend to tell me that you wouldn't get angry if your best friend wasn't capable to come to see you in 3 years and she would come to meet a randoom guy she knew two months ago?