playing safe friends

If you can't be honest with a friend then it's not a friendship. It's very simple. If you can't handle the trust don't ask the question. I've had many friends say " Tell me the truth, what do you think?". When you give them the answer they don't want to hear they get mad. It takes two very mature people to maintain a healthy functioning friendship. I know when I ask what I look like or what do you think I want to know the TRUTH. Sure it may not be what we want to hear but you asked!!!!!!! If I'm wearing clothes that don't flatter me and I ask tell me. I don't want to go out looking bad. If my hair looks awful tell me. If I'm styling my hair in a way that doesn't look good tell me!!!!! Over all if I ask I trust you will be honest with me. Only ask if you are emotionally stable enough to handle the truth. If you are an insecure person and are asking just to ask.....DON'T!! Don't make troubles for yourself in having a safe friendship. Depending on the person asking I know if I'm going to be honest or if I'm going to give them an answer to appease them. Even in they say tell me the truth. Some people can't handle the truth even when they ask. Truth is you already know they answer before you ask. You just want confirmation of what you already know. Sometimes it's safer to ask a stranger lol Friendships should be treated like diamonds. But if you can't sincerely be genuine then it's not a real friendship. When I ask an opinion of a friend I want the truth. I wouldn't ask if I didn't trust their judgement or value their opinion.

I am wondering why you say they "pretend they truly care" while they are consoling both friends - how do you know that they do not really care about both friends? I have been in a situation where two people that I care about were fighting. I tried to be there for both of them without taking sides or bad-mouthing the other, because I think that is wrong. Of course, if I thought that one (or both) did something wrong, then I would tell him or her, but that does not mean that I did not try to understand the hurt that he or she was feeling at the same time.

I believe that's true. As they say friendship should be through thick and thin, from happiness to sadness, and through ups and downs. You can only find true friends in times of you're weary and when big problems come. They are the ones who lift you up and be there on your side to comfort you. True friends are really hard to find. Like a diamond thrown on a land full of stones.

I believe so too. If you want to say something to your friends, then say it. Don't hold and keep it inside. True friends do not backstab each other but instead they tell it to the face.

I agree with you. I have encountered a lot of people like that even in the office. They are friends as they say, but talks about the other's flaws. It is irritating sometimes and both have been saying negative things towards each other when they're with me. But when they're both talking with each other, they seem to be very close friends.

i agree to that..i'd rather keep a friend who scolds me when i did done thing wrong and would say to me frankly that i don't look good..than to keep a friend who keeps on praising you and keep themselves on the safer side..

Honesty comes with in yourself first. coz if you only show jsut to have a friend then you are full of mask to pretend. Friendship for me should be like a transparent. Me if you consult me definitely you will get a straight answer on how i feel. But still the final decision is in you. I am true to myself so i should be true to my friends.