4 y/o...how to discipline

Best way to Disciplined a child, is to take stuff that he/are she likes.My son was like that,and an all i do was to take away his toys and stop from using the computer.And play him in a corner an tell not to move till he can apologizes,and behave him self. My son is 5 he is still rough around the edge,but he is getting better an better every day. But if he give me attitude i just take away something he like,when I know he is behaving i will return it back to him.

The way I have always handled this type of child was to tell the right off,that if they wanted to act like a baby,then I would treat them as one. I would then put them back into a diaper and make them go to bed for about a 1/2 hour,if they got up,it added another 15 minutes until they were allowed to get dressed again,and go back to playing. If this does not change his attitude,I would also take away his karate classes. Do not back down and stay consistent. I hope this helps.

Here are some ideas. I work as a therapeutic staff support so I help parents in some of the same situation as you are in so here are some of the things that I do. Find something that would work. What is something that he loves and would affect him to take away even if it is computer, television toys whatever, and make dad do it sometimes too. Set ground rules for him and post them somewhere in the house so he knows the consequences for his behavior. Don't send him to his room. What better place for a kid to go when in trouble is his room where he can lay on his bed or play with any toys in there. make a specific spot for time out, some parents us the stairs, i've used a chair. My Mom used to make my brother sit on the couch holding my hand. Someone suggested ignoring, which is something else you can do. If he shouts out to you ignore him. If he keeps getting out of his timeout place keep putting him back without saying anything.

The way I have always handled this type of child was to tell the right off,that if they wanted to act like a baby,then I would treat them as one. I would then put them back into a diaper and make them go to bed for about a 1/2 hour,if they got up,it added another 15 minutes until they were allowed to get dressed again,and go back to playing. If this does not change his attitude,I would also take away his karate classes. Do not back down and stay consistent. I hope this helps.

You cant spank because he'll hit you back? I think maybe the previous poster had it right. Take away EVERYTHING. If he can be a terrorist than so can you. Just need to remember that you are bigger than he is and you will win. Children really can see even the tiniest bit of softness or weakness and will do their best to exploit it. Even when they might not conciously know what they are doing. Your only line of defence is consistancy.

i am a primary school teacher and i have proble as you. in order to make my students be discipline, i make rules in my class, what they may do and may not do. we also discuss the punishment when they break the rule we made together

This is hard to deal with for you I am sure.He gets extra attention by his out of control behaviors. Instead of sending him to his room, give him a place that he must sit where you can see him and he will not have any of his stuff to do. Really only about four or five minutes is all he will be capable of handling. Be sure to give him lots of attention when he is doing what you like, and as much as possible do not give attention for bad behavior. He will grow past it. You do not say what triggers these fits in particular, but I am sure it is hard for you.

Don't play with him. Don't talk to him unless it is necessary (such as when you tell him to do something or it's dinner time). Give him the cold shoulder. No hugs, no kisses, no smiles, no tickling etc. This is what I do when my son throws a tantrum or doesn't listen to me. After we've had a disagreement, he usually comes to me and says "I love you mummy" but I don't reply. Instead I tell him mummy wasn't happy with his attitude and explain things to him. However this is my last recourse. We would have gone through everything from scolding, spanking, shouting and even taking his toys away. This means mummy is really angry and hurt by his attitude. I feel sad when i have to do this as it means showing him that for a little bit of time I don't love him as much. Because no matter how naughty they are we still love them.