What will you do if your boyfriend/girlfriend is ignoring your texts/messages?

If speaking to him has not changed things I am not sure what else you can do. I am with the above member and say not to text and or call him, maybe that will prompt him to call you to see why you haven't. I would say it is not a game but more like why you are the only one reaching out. Sometimes a partner gets use to knowing that we will always be there so maybe a little space might get him to remember that you probably won't be forever. Good luck and hope it turns around, sad when it happens but what else can you do if he can't take a few minutes from time to time? I do see you are new to myLot, welcome aboard!

My love is also far from me. Having a long distant relationship is not easy and that I know and proven right now. I thought I can simply understand everything..but, since he is ignoring me and I feel I am not important...love slowly fade and dying. I also try to ignore him now...maybe one day...I will not miss him anymore.

Hi I am with you. He should have found some time to reply to your text messages. He has not done so it means he is insensitive and less caring and indifferent. Tell him sternly that you are his wife and he needs to find time to communicate with you. I am not ready to believe that anyone could be too busy to communicate with his/her partner.

I am just guessing: He might be going through a difficult period right now? Be it family, or studies? How about stop messaging/text-ing him for a short period? This can do a few things, 1. might really give him some peace to whatever he might be rushing at the moment, 2. might give him time to miss you, which might eventually lead him to communicate with you more? 3. might let you realise whether he is really busy or ignoring you if this is really going on for a very long time. Another suggestion is, if you have the time, and you are really worried, you can always give him a surprise visit, where one, you can really let him you know you miss him face to face, or two, find out what he is really busy about. Whatever you do, do keep your mind open on the possibility of what may the result of his busy-ness be.

The question is: is he really ignoring you or does he have other things on his mind? My man and I live in other parts of the world. We speak eachother less too unless I just left there. I am used to it (again) and understand he has a hard time to make a living and what he earns goes from "hand to mouth". Communications is important if you are not able to live together or see eachother frequently but it should be real communication. Quality time. There are times I find it annoying if he just calls me and asks 5 times after each other how I a am doing. And if I say I am sick his answer is: so you are fine. If phonecosts are high it might be a problem to text too. No money to buy credit to call can also mean no way to text. But that doesn't mean he is ignoring you. I think you better find out what exactly is going on and if you can live with that. If not end the relationship and find someone new. I don't know about your partner but if he doesn't have the money there is no way you can convince him.

The truth is if he wants he can always spare some time to text or call. What about lunch time as he takes his lunch, before he sleep. He is just giving you excuses. The fact of the matter is that I think he have found something else importance to do than texting you. Be bold enough to face the ugly reality. If I were you, I wouldn't bother him anymore.

Do you have hope or a plan of being together or seeing eachother again? Relationships lose their excitement when they are long distance with no hope of ever being together. I would focus on finding the right time for both of you to be able to talk to eachother - either get Skype or arrange so one of you stays up slightly later or gets up slightly earlier to talk.

I guess you really have to talk to him, asked him whats the problem. .If he says that texting and calling everyday is very costly then atleast he has an effort to text or call you once a week or twice. .If he truly loves you he will really give time to response on your text messages. .he will make an effort on it maybe after work or before he will go to work. .

if you already talked to him..i cant give you advice about it because as i see, talking with your partner is the best thing to do in your situation..Communication in relationship is very important..try to make your partner realize it..

If it is a real relation, Far will not be a problem....Your partner should realize that....For whom he is earning money????For you and your family...Then why he think about the cost of contacting you????There is something wrong with your partner... First you just keep quiet..And wait for his response...He will surely contact you.. All the Bast dear friend... bb-gabs....

This is just one of the reasons why most of long distance relationship fails. I myself is in a long distance relationship (well, if you consider 3hours of bus ride long. But the point is I don't see my girlfriend all the time) and fortunately its working for me since my girlfriend and I vows to see each other at least once a month. Communicating through phone is not enough to establish a concrete hard relationship. Physical presence also counts you know, so if I were you, schedule a meeting with your boyfriend. Or better yet, surprise him at his work. :)

Me and my partner are not far away from each other. He lives 10 minutes away from my house (by car). He thinks that we have a good relationship and that it cannot survive without communication. But at the same time he never finds time for us. I have no proof that he cheated on me and that I don't have to trust him. There are many times when I'm sending him a text message, asking him if he wants to go out somewhere with me, he doesn't text me back with a yes or a no, no matter if he has other plans or not

When you meet him, I think you must confront him if what is the true status of your relationship. You might not be sure if he really is just so busy to his work. But, is he just really want, there is always a way to communicate with you.

Communication is really important. I have been through that kind of stuff before. What we did was he made an effort to send me emails through their school email accounts, he gave me his schedule every semester, so i know when to send him messages. It is really costly to call and he made me understand that he have no time/money to reply. I think u need to talk together what's really his schedule and work on that. Continue to trust him more do not lose that trust yet, not until u find something bad. If he still communicates less, then better ask him how are you in his heart, maybe you will get the answer.

I can relate to that, because right now. I am working in the City while he was in our province. And i am the one who is busy. I make sure that even though i am far from him. Our communication is always there. That makes our relationship stronger. I made sure that i will send him a message before office hours and after my duty. I don't think that your partner don't have time to communicate. You have to talk to him. Maybe he had a problem that you don't know. And he need time to think first. That is why he barely communicate to you. If you given a chance to meet him in person. That is the time you have to heart to heart talk.

Hi bb_gabs,What ever you said is true that we need to trust our partner and we need to keep in touch by sharing our feelings with each other.For any relationship to be healthy we need to understand and respect each other.Whenever our partner is fedup with his/her work then we need to refresh him/her but not irritate him/her.So,in your case he might be busy with his office works,so wait until he responds to you...dont be harsh to him when he returns to you because its really very danger.Lastly express all your feelings with your partner when he is in happy,because it makes your relationship more stronger than ever.

it is not a good situation. it is understandable for him not to be able to call but not to reply to the text messages is irritating. i think it is best that you need to seriously talk with your boyfriend. from the looks of it, something is going on and you have to find it out.

As a guy, I understand what you've been through but I think your partner is already with someone or just make himself busy pretending that you never existed. Long distance relationship only works with constant communication. Without it, it's useless.

If he is really loving u more then he have to communicate u by facing all his obstacles. Better boys wont worry about anything if they are in love. But if he really had some problem to avoid u then u can wait and dont argue with him more to communicate with u.

long distance relationship is such high risk relation. trust is important, but sometimes it doesn guarante your relationship in the future. wanna somehting better?? just get married