How To Control Your Temper?!

Oh my gosh, I got the same problem! I always get angry, frustrated, and upset easily! And that always ends me up crying. I hated that feeling and I hate that I do that even I don't know how not to do it. I searched for free anger management programs online but still found nothing. I think it's best if we consult to a counselor, or a psychologist. I feel like it's a big deal for me. I want to change this attitude but I don't know how to start or where to turn to. :(

I do cry sometimes but in most cases, when I have reached that maximum point, I like walking out of a situation. I really get worse if I continue seeing someone that I mad off. Out of site works better for me.

When I encounter difficult situation, first I try to relax and think to myself that this is something that I can handle. I try my best to understand the root cause of such issue and I try to manage my emotion by thinking that if I let get the best of me, I would not be able to think clearly and I will lose the battle. I need my wits with during battle or during a difficult situation. I take deep breaths and remove myself in the situation by thinking that I am a different person trying to look at a situation happening just in front of me. After weighing all the do's and don'ts, the advantages and disadvantages, and/or what are the possible solutions to the problem, I get into action and practice it. If it went wrong, I will try again... and again... and again... until I am able to resolve the issue without getting mad. Lastly, I pray.

I've tried various ways to control my temper, ('Cause believe me, do I have a temper!), and I've found the only real solution for me, is time. I need time to relax, time to heal, time to recollect and review. I need space from everyone in order to first calm down, and then think about what just happened. Once I'm calm and in a more stable mindset, I can look over what just happened and what I should do in order to fix the situation without it getting out of hand. If people are around me, bugging me while I'm in that angry mind-state, I'll only get more frustrated and then blow up...Which is why alone time is crucial for me.

What i do in times like this is so much childlike,When i was a kid i was thought to count one to ten slowly and quietly,almost whispering to myself the numbers, to mellow my emotion... and up to now i'm still doing it..it works for me all the time...

Good afternoon, there are three things that I usually did when I almost lost my temper: 1. Take deep breath 2. Silence (which is very difficult) 3. Take a break (if possible) When all the thing still cannot decrease it, then it is the time for the ultimate: EAT... yes it is not healthy but it helps a lot. But like you said before, it depends on the nature of the person.

I use a type of Indonesian self defense mechanism called Sinar Putih. This self defense mechanism integrates movements, respiratory and concentration to form different levels of motions that creates and enhances natural power. This natural power can often be interpreted as your emotions. So by doing the motions from this self defense art, I can create a relaxing emotion and other types of emotion based on what I want.

I wish I could cry like you, but can you do it in front of others? I used to be like this but I was crying in public, and I changed and changed, there's no trace of that girl anymore and I wish I could cry more to release, although I also don't feel much pressure of my temper in years. Well what I do is actually something that you cry if you feel, I prefer being angry, because the anger becomes energy and I use it in concentration. I know it's crazy, no one does that but when I'm angry I actually can speak other languages better, I concentrate better, I foccus like no other feeling can give me. I think it's called chanelling, to channel a emotion and use it right. Like we can do something that freaks us out when we are mad, so when mad we should seek to do those things that normally we can't instead of drinking to gain courage for example. So to finish up I focus when I'm about to loose my temper.

i think that everyone can lose their temper and until they can not control it,most of the characteristic of a person are hot temper because they can easily get angry,i could say that its really hard to deal with my temper especially when i am the correct one.

I would recommend that when you feel you are about to erupt you should take a timeout and count to 10. This will help you reconsider the situation and find the best logical solution. Do not react promptly when haste is not needed. Think carefully about what you'd like to say before taking action. If you're about to say something offensive, again stop and think. This allows you time to come up with a better alternative. When talking, stick to the issue and refrain from being too emotional. Physical exercise helps remove any negative energy building up inside of you. It serves as a sort of an outlet. Aggressive sports like boxing, hockey or extreme skiing are most helpful. If you feel that things at work or at home irritate you, it may be a sign that you need to have a workout. Better still, exercise on a continuous basis. Regular physical activity will allow you to take a better control of yourself at all times. You may use "I" statements instead of blaming or offending others will help you control your anger. For example if a child comes home late, say, "I am unhappy when you come home late," instead of, "You should come home earlier." This will ease the tension and will be more effective in making your child come home earlier (or at least will not lead to unnecessary conflict). Use humor often helps ease the tension in a conversation. When you feel that pressure is building up, try to lighten up the conversation with a joke.

Really everyone should know how to control our temper. I always cry alone because i dont want to make others sad by my temper. I too get temper and angry when my father told me something relevant to my interest. But i cant oppose him sometimes so really i had tempered when i fight with him. Then i wont feel but i think alone that he is not only my father but also my godfather. So better think positively that everything wil gone after sometimes.

Normally I would write it down. When I feel I have no one to share what I'm feeling I would write it down on a blog or on my laptop, keep it there. Sometimes I would talk to a friend or chat with a friend and releases my negative emotion. It helps sometimes. And then I cry while telling such things or after telling it to someone, it really helps releases whatever ill feelings we have.

In fact, when I unhappy , I find a person I trust, and tell her what happen. When I in a bad mood , I will cry for it . However, the best way to release negative emotion is let it go, time is the best medicine to cure pain.

When I have ill emotions, I do release it through texting the person I have an ill feeling then save it in my cellphone's draft folder. Or chat to a friend in the internet and pray heart fully to God (just like I am telling a story to my best friend). After that I feel released with what I am feeling and feel a lot more happier.

i walk away. that i is what i do. i would rather walk away that say something hurtful. my wife knows that already. that i would stand up and walk away and when i come back that means i am ready to talk again. it is not easy to talk when you are both fired up. its easy to talk when you are both at ease already. so i step out for a few minutes, sometimes i ride my bike or sometimes i take a walk... and most of the time i bring food when i go home, food that can make us happy... like pizza for example or cake then we eat it while talking.

having a stress ball that I can squeeze helps a lot in dealing with stressful situations. if I do not have one handy, I would just take a step back and count to 10. Breathing in and out properly will help.

Tempers are difficult to control, specially if it's already inevitable. But the way you lose your temper is just confusing. Others may interpret it as you are just disappointed or lonely. But actually, one could really cry when she's too angry. It's really one way of releasing your pent up emotions. So maybe when you feel that you are getting angrier, you can run to the comfort room where you can cry to have the anger released. Me, when i am so angry, i have to find a friend that i can talk it with. That way, i get to express what i feel and am advised on what better thing to do about it.

For me it is a bit hard to control my temper when I was mad at somebody or something. And I think it will be better to release the negative feelings than depress them. So now I would like to find some ways to release, like runing, riding bicycle etc. Climbing mountain is also a nice choice.

Deep breathing is such an easy way to control temper. Proper breathing clears my mind and relaxes my muscles so I feel better and since it clears my mind i'm thinking more properly instead of just reacting base on my emotions.

I can control my temper for a very long time, I just let it build up and then by accident, not being able to stop myself a little things sets me off and I absolutely lay into the person to tick me off. It is generally one of my family members too, so then I feel guilty every time I see them for a while after.