Would you take back your husband after he abandoned you?

having a married life and 3 children is a very big responsibility..but in the way he act..he is not a responsible father and husband..so i think your cousin must not take him back..but i think if he will really change for the better maybe she can forgive him..

No this is something I personally could not accept and once that trust is broken I could not forget. I could eventually forgive to make peace in my mind but forgetting would be difficult for me to do. I am a very loyal person and expect my partner to be the same. If he disrespected me this way, sadly it would be completely over and there would no longer be an us. I have raised two children both physically and financially alone, so being cheated on is something I could not tolerate.

No way! He left and now he must stay away. The only thing I would set up is a way for him to pay his back child support. and once he is up to date, then we cold set up supoervised visits for the children but come back to be with me. No way!

Putting myself in the place of your cousin -- "My husband has cheated me. he has been having extra relationship hiding them from me. I am independent. I can earn money and take care of my children. I will not accept him hereafter and I am conifdent of managing single myself.".

I would not taking him back, because I am not a second table plate,if he decided that she is more beautiful,more smart, and a better woman for him, I am not going to ruin his life sentencing him to be with be. I don't believe in a person that today is in love of me and them tomorrow in love of another person, I would never taking back.

Even tho they say all men are dogs...I truly believe they are just human being..I don't think anyone should feel that their mates are always trustworthy...When they get especially in another country..some men fell the need or greed to cheat on their mate..but if a man leaves his family and dosen't conyacy them in over a year knowing that he left children behind...its terrible...cheating on your mate is so different from neglecting your children...

She has grounds for divorce. Would that be best for all concerned? Whether it would be best for the unfaithful husband is of little concern. Who is taking care of the children while the mother is abroad? Is husband working now. Is he helping to support the children? Even if the answer is yes to both questions, I'd probably not trust him as far as I could throw an anvil.

I have always said that if my husband cheated on me then I would kick him out of my life.. I think every woman needs to do whats best for them but cheating is the one thing that not only I cant tolerate but I will never be able to forgive..

Wow, sounds like my story (really) I thought I am reading my life story here. Well, coincidentally, I have almost same story like your cousin. I kick him out of my life and now planning for a sweet revenge. Yes, I will let him know and the mistress how evil I am too I am taking my steps with definite moves.

For me, is such is the case, i wouldn't ever take him back anymore. The fact that he didn't even remember sending you any message in addition to not sending any support to your children is a blatant admission that he doesn't love me anymore. So why would i take him back?

I would not take him back. That's a huge form of betrayal...Especially since he didn't even come clean to her about it before she found the evidence. If someone doesn't feel any guilt after doing something like that, then how can you forgive them? They're lacking enough conscience to do it all over again. He's married to her...He's committed to her...I would be extremely upset.

I do not want to sound defensive, but there are a lot of times that men who work abroad end up playing with other women, but still remains loving the wife and the kids. I think it would be so difficult since men have needs and urges. This is the reason why I do not like couples separating just for work. Many times, these relationships are just for release, and nothing personal.

Do you really need to ask that question?? Of course I wouldn't put up with my husband or boyfriend for that matter, cheating on me. Once a cheat, always a cheat. My mom and dad were married and my dad cheated on my mom over and over again. We kids knew it even though they thought we didn't know anything about it. My mom took him back every time. I bet my dad cheated on my mom at least 10 times before she finally had enough. The last straw for my mom was that the last woman my dad cheated with was his uncles wife. His own aunty by marriage. They were both drunk and my mom walked in on them with me in tow, I was 8 years old. I am now 28 years old and I love my dad and my mom but I still have a hard time understanding why my mom put up with it for so long. When I ask her she tells me because he always said he was sorry and that it would never happen again and she believed him...over and over again...because she loved him. I would never put up with a man like my dad as he is now 52 years old and he still continues to fool around on his new wife. I see it all the time because he doesn't even try to hide it from me, he has even introduced me once to one of his mistresses. I don't feel sorry for his new wife either, because she is one of the women my dad fooled around with when he was married to my mom, that was 20 years ago and they are still living together. Once a cheat, always a cheat. littlemissy here signing off for now, talk to you later my friend

NO WAY for me! Once done, it's all enough to turn your back and never give a chance. If I am your cousin I'm sure i will not be happy and peaceful if she takes him back. I will always feel uneasy when the husband is not around. Trust is not there anymore and the love will be less. My mom had taken my dad back after everything that he did to her, but until now my mom still discuss with me that she never gained back the trust and respect to my dad after that (28 years already). She got my dad back just for us, their children,but i can see that she was never that happy. I have asked my mom why did she did it for us, it's because she has nowhere to run and something to grab on to. It's good that your cousin had sort things out and is out of the country she's experiencing better things there for sure. Hope she's done with her husband and will never look back. Guys like that never deserve second chances.

if he happy with that girl then there is no use to take him back i know the kids are need them more than i do, but if he can leave his kids just for another woman, i don't think he deserve to get my kid's love

Hi enelym001, putting myself into the shoes of your cousin, I would have enough reasons not to make up with the ex under any circumstances. The reasoning is this: the guy had drifted away completely and wanted to remain incommunicado. If he were just involved in a clean & mature friendship, then as a responsible husband & father, he should have been transparent and caring. That he had done everything with the sole purpose of not being reached is reason enough to conclude that he had got deeply involved with another woman and was guilty. If he gets kicked either by his new found passion or by cruel fate, he better pay for his misdemeanor. He can't have the cake & eat it too. It is not ON. Your cousin has done the most ideal thing under the circumstances. Having been betrayed and treated shabbily, she has demonstrated courage & conviction and has moved on. Which is great for the children. No looking back. Move ahead. Let the guilty offer penance before God & suffer.

Hi,enelym! I am sure I would not take him back because he was not responsible for his family,you said he didn't afford his three children's tuition,I think he is just a coward not only without responsibility but also without single-minded!I really hate a person with this chacter,he have betrayed his family and not cared about his children!I think he will not correct his mistakes if her wife excuses him! Have a good time!

no,if i were in her place i wouldn't accept the guy.it is not done at all.he wasn't there when i needed him the most.he cheated me and flew away with someone else.he wasn't concern about us(me and his family. when the time needed to show his responsibility,he turned his faced and was enjoying with some one else.why should i accept him now?give me one single reason.

Oh common, I don't need such a useless person in my life. I would rather live without any man if those were the only type of men left.

Cheating is something I will never do and never accept. If someone wants to sleep with many girls, he can just be single and do that without hurting someone's feelings. I will never take him back. He's an adult, he is responsible for his actions and he will know from the beginning that if he cheats on me our marriage is over.