To Love or Not To Love
By jasonnaez
@jasonnaez (134)
Philippines
October 26, 2011 10:13pm CST
To be single and alone is not fun at all, it's horribly lonely. But, also when one is in love the odds of getting hurt are high enough that most are tempted to remain celibate for an extended period of time hahaha. So, which do you think is downright dumb and outright stupid TO LOVE or NOT TO LOVE? and why?
6 responses
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
Haha yap love makes life spicy. So, how to you solve problem with your lover?
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Oct 11
If you love you love. If you don't love (anyone) you don't love. It's as simple as that.
If you loved someone and he broke your bones by years you are very happy to be alone. There is no hahahaha if it comes to that.
I think it's way better to be alone, be happy with yourself and give yourself a good life. There is nothing wrong with being single and being single also doesn't mean you are lonesome. If so it means you are not able to take care of yourself and afraid to be alone, you feel lost. And I can tell you by now nobody can save you from that, you have to do that yourself.
If you are in a relationship you can feel very lonesome too. I think it's worser to feel lonesome and unhappy if you have a relationship (that should add something positive/energy to your life) as when you are single.
If you are in love (does that mean having a relationship as well?) it's up to you if you have the odds of getting hurt. You can finish that kind of relationship, try not to be hurt that quickly, let things easier and decide just to be happyl.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I think you are right. Being in relationship without being too attached preserves sanity. Also single life has its own healing properties. I stopped looking for happiness from the outside and cultivates love within. Thanks and have a great day.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
You're right, being alone is difficult and scary especially when one nears the exit stage of life hahaha. One thing I don't believe though is making love as as "insurance benefit" for old age.
@madalinuta (91)
• Romania
27 Oct 11
I will go for love only if he will love me back. You can't love for two people. In a good relationship I think we should get at least as much as we give. But unfortunately, it is not the case for me. When I'm single I feel very lonely, but I've realised I feel the same now, even if I am in a relationship. I think that being alone by yourself is better than being alone in a relationship.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
Most people say that "love takes two to tango." They further say that it is a give and take kind of set-up, mutual effort, to make it survive. This is an ideal arrangement and I also agree with it. But the reality most of the time loving someone leads to an imbalance relationship. Someone always ends up loving more and the other loving less. People usually gets hurt when they start feeling neglected and not getting what they deserve in a relationship. This is how I felt before, but I learned to defeat this negative feeling by loving without getting too attached to someone. Furthermore, I learned to stop looking for love and happiness from the outside. Now a days, if my object of affection and love behaves contrary to my expectations, it doesn't bother me any more because my happiness no longer depends on a single person. Not being too attached to a lover is the key to sanity and happiness. Have a great life ahed of you.
@christinewadams (9)
• United States
27 Oct 11
Dumb not to love! Being in love is such a wonderful experience even with the chances of being hurt. The best chance a person has is to be true to themselves and not to settle. Otherwise you are not being fair to yourself.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I agree, loving and being loved is such a "wonderful experience." Love is a natural part of human existence that to live without it is like having a car without gasoline, it wouldn't run.
