Incomplete this Christmas and New Year

Just like your dad, I only celebrated Christmas twice in the Philippines for the last 8 years. You dad has been working hard for your future. Though we are away from our family during holiday season, but still the thought is always there. hoping that we could be all together but the time just won't allow because certain things to be considered.

Hi there enelym001! Thank you now that we became friends. It's great I have my new and number one friend in mylot. And I would say I am beginning to have my family here, hope it will grow more soon. HEnce, as with your Christmas season to celebrate about, I am sorry that you won't be spending with the whole family together. Yeah, it's a good feeling that during Christmas season, we as a family are there. Me, too, I could say that there is the possibility that my family is incomplete this coming Christmas. My husband is looking for a job somewhere. It's quite sad since our son of more than two years is so close to his Dad. How we wish we spend the season together... If I could only wish we have some sources for a living so we could always be together. But, what can we do, it's the truth that we have to face. We need to be patient and hopeful, anyway it's for the good of the family as a whole.

My family is getting the same way! Both my brothers are married and had kids. My sister is married and has 2 grown boys and 3 grandchildren. One nephew is in the Navy and on a ship off Japan currently. I have not seen him since last Christmas and we might not see him this Christmas! His older brother is in prison( long story why) and I have not seen him since Christmas 2003! I didn't see their sister on Christmas because she spent it with her boyfriend! Both are 20! Sometimes I don't see the other nephews on the hoidays because they are spending time with their inlaws! I know it will contine to change because nothing stays the same! I don't see my family as much as I like because we are scattered all over the state and one is near Japan! Holidays are importmant to me even if I can't see all of my family!

hello enelym, I understand your feelings. This is life,there's a lot of changes as we grow up. I am used to have a happy childhood days too. Family always together and having fun. But as we grow up and we started to have our own family, a big change occur. Now,I lived far from my siblings and eventhu I spend New year with them,our mom is living in UK and spent her vacation with us during summer only. This is life dear...be ready for all the changes

Sad to know that the family is not being together in some important festivals ,feel sorry for your brother as he wil not be with the family.Feel happy that your father will after a long gap wil celebrate festival with u and you may enjoy the christmas and new year as much as u wished it.

Yes it is sad when the years go by that we cannot have it the way we did once before when everyone was together. My children are no longer at home and we do try to spend holidays together. Two years ago we did not spend New Years day as we always did all their lives. I was very sad and cried as I missed them and although I know they have their lives and responsibilities, I still missed them terribly. Last year we did not get to spend Thanksgiving together as I had to go away for a month in a half, so what we did was did a very early Thanksgiving dinner and spend it together early but still we were grateful. I hope he does well and that you all get to communicate by other means. I am also happy to hear that your father will finally be home.

Oh, The things we must prioritize. It gets lonelier as time goes by when they already have left and can't be with us on special occassions. but I would say, that you must indeed try to contact them as often as you can, call or send emails so they would not feel so alone as well. remember that they would be feeling twice the loneliness too because they are alone with no friends or family to spend time with.

One hundred per cent correct. As children grow up they have to be away from parents. it so happened in our case also -- my son had to go to Pilani hostel at 16 years and thereafter to usa for studies. Very rarely all the members of family can be together excepting on occasions like marriages. In a few families even for marriages all the people cannot be together. I wish you celebrate christmas and new year very well. I wish your brother get a good job and he has a good career.

Just like your Dad, he works far away for you're future, you know them very difficult things to do that, because he's the important occasions for your family, as well it's hard for me to far in our family, because i'm not important occasions in our family 1 year i am her in Davao, but i never returned to the family, lack of the money for the fare but i'm sending them money, they miss the crib hard for me to do, i'm there with them but i can understand why they also did away with my family, to also be done with them thought i do them every Christmas and new year.

you can still celebrate christmas and new year together..you can have video chat with your brother on those special occasions..as if he's just on the other room of your house..just an alternative way for your family not to feel sad because of the absence of a member, physically.. but i agree to you..it's really hard to have a complete family on special occasions when the kids in the family are growing..we are complete in my family here, but we hardly feel the completeness..