Please DON'T BELIEVE ANYONE......

Dassodils I am sorry you are hurt and feel this way...It's easy to become bitter but it's a tough way to live. I always give someone the benefit of the doubt and trust them until they prove me wrong..what happens after that depends on how serious the betrayal... I wish you the best of everything ..plwease don't turn off on all people just because of an incident..I know it's hard, but there are still people in the world who are good and will be good with you.

Dassodil, U are only 19 now. You have a lot of life left to see and experience. Love can really hurt at times, but the truth is that once you get hold of that person, he will not cheat you. Better is to shrug it off and look ahead. A big big life is waiting for you. Enjoy it with a cute smile like the one in your snap.

I know when things get tough, especially when we get hurt by the people we love we get down and start to feel the way you do. But don't let thoughts cross your mind, you shouldn't feel that way. Trust me, I have been in your situation, with my own family, people that I thought knew me completely are the ones that hurt me the most. I resented them and even though I say I have forgiven them deep down I know I probably never will, but you do have other people that love you and care for you, not everyone is the same way. Yeah, there are those people that are selfish and only think of themselves, but there are others that do care for others. I hope that you overcome this anger, god knows it took me a while and haven't full recovered from it.

hi dassodils so we are different about that. 2 years ago, i same with you. no one i can believe. but my friend, give him trust to me. why? i don't know. he said, if he can't trust anyone, how can people put them trust to him? that make me think, i can't trust anyone, but my friend, give him trust to me, to work with him. how stupid i am.

You are young. Your expectations are from a particular angle. Similarly expectation of people interacting with you in real world also will be like that. World consists of good people and bad people also moderate people. Go by tested experience. Do not form fixed impressions. However you will be cautious hereafter. Expectations bring disappointments. Check your expectations . are you right in having such expectations? If the answer u get NO--you may not get such an answer because of your idea. good day.

My biggest suggestion for you is to not have that view on people, if you see everyone as seflish how could you trust any ones opinions even mine? From what I'm gathering your boyfriend/fiance/husband cheated on you? It all depends on the situation when it comes to that, if it was an accidental drunk one-time happening thing then I would say yes but still be wary of him. If it wasn't a situation like that I would say it would be time to move on and away from him, he may just hurt you again if you don't. In times like this I would suggest being with your friends who you can trust, to help you heal from this time. I'm sure your friends aren't nice for selfish reasons, after all what could they gain by being nice to you? Surround yourself with your friends and things you like to do, not dwelling on the problem will help you heal and look at things with a clearer head.

hi there... You seem to have gone through a lot of trouble... You don't need any suggestions now, not right now. Please take some rest, you need that. Once, you're up and fresh; you will find solutions... Do not obertax yourself... It is harful to judge all, basd on one... There're good people and bad people.... Select your friends carefully... Take care...

I have been cheated for a long time by a loved one too, it's not nice at all. I can totally relate to you because I now find it hard to trust people also, so many people were helping her get away with it and covering it up while pretending to be my friends. However, we must come to a point where we realize that not all people are bad and maybe people wanted to say something but didn't want to hurt you. There are much more trustworthy people out there than that, true friends and loved ones will stick with you though the thick and the thin. You just need to find those people.

My friend, I don't blame your views about people. But for me I think it's not true. Yes we may say that there are some who really take advantages on the weakness of others for their own benefits. But there are also many who are like you who are true to themselves and who don't want to hurt other people. I know you are hurt but it's not the end my friend. It happened because there is someone more better destined for you.

Hello Dassodils, Firstly i would say that if someone has cheated you that does not mean that all the people in the world are cheaters. You are too young i would suggest you too to see and judge people before you start trusting on them as experienced people always judge from the behaviour of the person in first meeting but in your case i think you need time to understand people. People are selfish in our sarroundings and its our skill how we escape from the selfish people and be friend with the good ones.

Friend what i wanna tell you is everybody is not similar in this world. I agree with you there are many people who are really selfish but you can't say this to everyone. You are not alone, your parents are always there for you. Now coming to your important question, "Can i believe him again"..? So my answer to this question will be it depends on you. How much you know him, how much trust him, if you forgive him will he be changed or not, will he realize his fault, it's only you who knows the answers to all these question. If the answers to these questions is NO then i would suggest you to forget him. It's a big world, who knows someone better than him is waiting for you. N what i think is "LOVE" this thing doesn't exist in today's time. Everyone is taking it as a trend, nothing more than that. So be with your friends and enjoy your life. Being single is the bestest life ever, that's what i think.

You are wrong not all people are selfish and will lie to you. I don't believe my husband lies to me because I know he doesn't. He has never cheated and never will. Some people are out there in the world to make themselves look good but dont' believe that people are always lying to you or you'll never be able to love someone again. Your giving someone the power of the rest of your life because they cheated on you. That is there bad not yours and there are many other good men out there that will never cheat on you its about finding the one and moving on. Your punishing yourself for someone else actions in life he choice to cheat you didn't choice him to cheat on you.

By this theory you are selfish and a cheat...is that true? Yes the world is filled with a lot of people who can and will harm you and your feelings but that doesn't mean that all people are like that, I'm sure you are the perfect example of a person who is nothing like that. I too have been wronged and cheated by those which I have given my heart to but when I feel discouraged I try and look at it like this, had I never experienced those things I would not be the person I am now, the person my now wonderful and faithful husband fell in love with, the person who my son looks at as his hero, the person I get up everyday and look at in the mirror and can say I am proud of...so in a way I owe those people a thank you because had they never wronged me I would have never learned the lessons I have and never would have become the person I am so happy to call me.

ya you are right.dont believe any one ,all are selfish.but i am not alone in this world, they will say sweet words.."i believe you" for their achievements...?but they cheated me.. i want to expect but i trusted and failed. but i thought...if i do good ,everyone will do good towards me.. good friends are few......... and...everyone cant have these ones.

If you ever understood what the cheat was for ? In my opinion, there was not use of cheating in our life. You will just add preferences trouble in your life by cheating to someone. People never learn. They always cheat that sometime their cheating turned it to be a big chaotic problem. From then on, we find our best to do thing in the future. I ever felt how hurt no to be trusted by someone, but I try to convince that I was not as they presumed.

Hi Dassodils, sad to hear that your closet person had hurted you. It is difficult while our close ones hurts. What ever the problem may be you had with your friend, first try to analyze why he or she had hurted you. Then if you think, what you did is correct and your friend had made a mistake. Once you forgive him, but fully don't believe him hereafter. If you can try solving the problem and continue your relationship or if you hate him, leave his relationship and forget him. There may many other persons who can understand you well better than that girl or boy who hurted you. Take this as a lesson how to treat others.

This is a negative approach and you should refrain from thinking like this. In my opinion people are inherently good but circumstances are not. Try to evaluate the other reaction by thinking what you might have done if you faced the same scenario. And let other do what they want to do and you carry on doing what you are supposed to do.

I think many people are selfish and greedy.They will smile to you when you are facing them,but they destroy you when you are not around.Many people just befriend others just for so many wrong reasons like money,gadgets,materials thing,etc. But I think there are still some who are true and willing to stay by your side even during the hardest times.Don't think that all people are bad because it will just make your life miserable.Just be careful with making friends.Someday you will find the true lover or friend who will stay with you even if you are falling.:)

Hi dassodils, don't generalize people just because one of the people you love cheated on you. I have been hurt badly by some people whom I thought were real friends but I've never stopped wanting to have additional friends. It's up to you if you will believe in him again. Women's intuition is usually strong and if you think that guy is just fooling you - then for goodness sake leave him and never trust him again. But don't ever lose the confidence that you will never found someone genuine again. Wish you well

The most important advice I can give you is stop thinking that all people are like the people that hurt you in your life.