Is marriage essential for a happy life?
By rashmisharma
@rashmisharma (11)
India
22 responses
@DrGuruindia (83)
• India
29 Oct 11
There is lot of risk in marriage, you should be careful to marry anyone, slect your right partner, for making generations marriage is important, the family will take care of you duing in your old age or whenever you get problem. It is difficult to be individual upto the end. You are creating your own world here by marriage, you sacifice your freedom for this.
@rashmisharma (11)
• India
29 Oct 11
No doubt one should be very careful while selecting the partner, but the worst part of it is that its only after marriage you come to know as if your selection was right or wrong. Just imagine if it goes wrong.
@karimjessa (66)
• Canada
27 Oct 11
When it comes to marriage in general, and as long as you're between the ages of, say, 20yrs and 50yrs, what the first two respondents have said is exactly my view as well.
Between those ages it's really up to the individual. If you're not inclined to it, it's not necessary for you.
The reason I specify those ages, however, is that after the age of 50yrs, those who had chosen to remain single begin to wish they were married. The reason is quite simple. In your older age you feel the need for a companion. And as you get older, mere friends are not enough. You need a closer companion.
This might not be true in every case. But most of the single people that I've known, who were in their old age, have shown indications of regret at not having married when they had the chance.
This is especially so for those who love children. In their old age they wish they had grandchildren of their own.
So, the choice is up to the individual. But when we're young we tend to not want to think too far ahead. But it helps to look at the older people around us to try and get an idea of what to expect as we grow older.
Karim
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
28 Oct 11
That sounds more like people regretting not having had children moreso than regretting not being married. Because I've known a lot more older people who just don't want to bother with relationships and those who do, well there's nothing stopping them from still dating and even getting married.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I don't think that for a person to be happy, you need to be married. Even a single person can by really happy. I am also married and thankfully very happy. But there are also those that are married yet are suffering and even want a divorce. Well, it all depends on the person or the couple.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 11
All depends, of how to live a marriage. If the marriage in a state of happiness, of course brings joy and makes us feel healthy, and always long-lived. However, if marriage brings suffering, we will find it easy to sick. And maybe, sick it makes us short-lived.
@YoungTay (83)
• United States
27 Nov 11
i think it depends on how you feel about marriage you shouldn't just go get married because of what some studies say i believe you being happier healthier an living longer depends on you. You shouldn't let studies regulate rather you get married. Marriage should be something you feel like an emotion.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
30 Oct 11
Hi, Live longer, it doesn't matter married or not married. Healthier life depend on any body behavior toward other people, himself and his god. any one need to company and chose good friends, obey god instructions for happy life and respect his body and valuable mind. After that and as another factor of happiness , i strongly say that success marriage is essential for happy life, but in the principal of take caring, sharing, trusting and respecting manners. As you stand with your family to grow up in a healthy environments, they will stand beside you in your last moments of you life.
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
6 Nov 11
While humans tend towards pairing, some people are simply content to be single. Our society pressures us towards finding a partner and implies that this is better than being single. We are seldom, if ever, supported in living a single life. Irregardless, I believe the choice to be a personal one and everyone should have the right to make these choices for themselves. Being single is not a pathology. At least, it is not supposed to be.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
Hello.. I think, having someone in your life who makes you happy makes you healthier. I think, I agree with the study you mentioned. As the old saying goes, "laughter is the best medicine", if you have that someone by your side who makes you happy and feels good, I believe, it can help you maintain a good health.
I just hope I can marry someone who won't hurt my feelings day by day.
@sheetal2900 (336)
• India
29 Oct 11
hello my dear friend getting married is not bad thing it is wonderfull feeling till we want and for happy life one should not get married it is not essential i am also married to a guy to whom i love and i am happy even before marriage i was happy it is not like we need to get married only for happiness because there are some people who do not get married in their life even they are happy
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
30 Oct 11
Haii friend.....In my view, marriage is not essential..As a girl, I can live with my parents..I hate married life..I don't think that marriage have any value in a person's life..i will live alone..And i don't want any one to support me in life..I have already started a discussion on this topic "Is marriage essential.."I got about 23 replies..But accidentally i had posted the discussion twice...the other one got 6 replies.And the first one was deleted because the rule violation. So I am warning you to be careful in all activities....
Thank you friend....& All The Best.....
@LaraTecson (726)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
Well, that depends on the couple. If being married is what they want, then go for it. In our culture, many would advice you to get married since it would bring God to your relationship. The tie that would bond you together is stronger since, aside from your love from one another, God is involved.
However, I don't think being married is ESSENTIAL in order to be happy. You would find a lot of married couples that are on the brink of being destroyed. That's why divorce exists. If ever you are no longer in love with each other, then your last resort is to get divorced. That way your marriage will no longer be existent in the eyes of the law.
Happiness is just something in our mind. If you would ask me, I would be okay without marriage. It's okay for me to live with my partner without any ceremonies to undergo. I believe that marriage is just a paper. I would stay with my partner because I love her, not because we are married.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Ideally, marriage should provide one a good home and a good family to be with.
Granted that the marriage is going well, it's healthy. But if it's not a happy marriage, like if there is always conflict and no family member is trying to fix it then that's bad.
It depends on who one is marrying and how they manage their marriage. It's challenging but I hear a many people say it's worth it when they truly love the person.
Of course, marriage is not the only way to be happy. Each person finds his or her own happiness in other ways that are different from the others.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
28 Oct 11
Dear friend,
Now it is an individual freedom as long as government implement a rule as married life is compulsory. There are lots of happy married life and on other side it seen lots divorces are also coming up. I feel it is an individual freedom of choice whether to get married or not. But those who get the right partner it is sure to have a happy life, and this happiness is really blessed one.
I feel marriage is one of the social part, it is socially accepted rule that was made years back where normally one man have relationship with one girl so as to uphold certain social values like relationships in family. To get married to right person in life is most happiest part in life. As a part of social being a normal individual would like someone to love and to give love and care. I feel being single would give a taste being lonely which may or may not be liked by every one. Moreover the happiness in each individual differs....
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Oct 11
I think it depends on your thoughts about marriage and whether is important to you to get married or not. Some people never get married and they still have a happy life, they enjoy their freedom they have the kind of lifestyle that they want. Some people really want to get married, but aren't able to find the right partner and that makes them very unhappy, because they feel that something is missing in their lives. I think that a life without marriage can be both happy and unhappy, and it makes a difference wheather it is lifestyle that you have chosen on purpose or a lifestyle that you have because you haven't been able to fullfill your dream about marriage.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Oct 11
Even married people die young.
I don't think there is a relevance for this thing for a longer life.
One can live longer depending on the lifestyle and healthy way of living.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
28 Oct 11
I don't think one has to be married in order to be happy. If you end up marrying the wrong person, say, you fight with them all the time, I don't see how you can live longer and be happy when you are mad all the time. When you are single, you have less stress and less things to worry. Of course, to each their own. But for those who like their freedom and moving from one relationship to another, is more healthy if we don't get married--EVER.
@Ronny2005 (10)
• Nepal
28 Oct 11
Marriage is a kind of association between two people.How long a person either male or female without a friend?We need someone, after our parent who can laugh with us, share feelings with us, enjoy in both happiness and sadness of us and help to get our future generations.
So, i say marriage is essential for a happy life.
@awasthi (6)
•
28 Oct 11
dear, Marriage is part of life not heart of life. But every part of life must be enjoyed. So if we do marraige after acheiving our goal or after establishing our carrier then i' okk!!