Single and Taken

I've been single for 2 years now. :D and up until now, I am still not ready to commit.

there are times that i also want to be single for no reason..i just feel that i want to be single..hmm..maybe because i don't want any pressure from a relationship right now..

Well, all of the relationships that I have had in my life have been relationships that would have been considered to have been long term relationships. I was with my first boyfriend for 18 months. Then I was with my next boyfriend, after having been single for a little bit over a year for about 10 months. Finally, then I met the man that I'm married to and we've been together for 10 years in January and we've been married for seven years. I think that a lot of it has to do with our own mentality. I wanted to be married and I wanted to be married to someone that I have a lot in common with and I think that is the reason that my relationships have lasted.

men with great thoughts is not alone, that helps to achieve their goals, after getting a good position in the society, we go for a relation. That is the ultimate way of living.

I'm single and I love it because no pressure in the relationship. .And I can do what I want and go where I want to be. .i've been in a relationship before but It did not work because the guy is very jealous guy. .I cant go out with my friends and everynow and then he will check me, so pressured so i choose being single that in a relationship. . God bless. .

I think people are too fast to jump into relationships without knowing the important things about each other. It seems taboo to people to ask questions about marriage and children and financial responsibilities while dating but the truth is these are things we need to know about each other if a relationship if it is going to last long term. Please do not get me wrong I am in no way suggesting you bring these things up on a first date or anything like that but do not wait until you have gotten married to figure out what exactly that means to the person you are marrying. We all to often expect that people see these things in the same light we do and that often is not the case. As for the being single situation, I think its great that you are not trying to rush into anything, to many people are afraid to be alone and end up in relationships that are nothing more then rebounds at best so enjoy being single for a while it can be a lot of fun.

i am not aware of the statistics about relationships if it is true that at present, a lot of them do not last. nevertheless, i say that the population is growing so fast, and people are getting more and more diverse, with beliefs and influences affecting mindsets, offering many options for people and giving us a hard time to stay focused. relationships must be founded in friendship and love, that i believe. if it started from nothing but pure lust with uncertain unresolved relationship issues, then it could not last.

Yes, try it, it's really good for you and you put things togehter, we can pay more attention to ourselves and there are people that do that after getting married, we must know ourselves before that. Great day MyLotter!

Wow,you scared me, mrscallands22. Is marriage really as terrible as you described? I am not sure whether i should worry about my bachelor identity now. You reminds me of a Franch saying-marriage is like a siege, in which people wanna get out, while people outside the siege wanna get into it. I am probaly just like the young man who wanna taste marriage just as a suger. Maybe the passion would pass away soon i get married.

It's really very sad to hear many people divorcing nowadays. How i wish we were back in the past where most relationship can last eternally. Nowadays, the incidence of divorce are on the rise. Similarily, i hope to have someone to call my own too. I agree with what your grandmother say. that the money today get the ring but not the man. Sometimes i ask myself, what good is there to be rich, but without the person whom we really love. Education and all are good thing to move ourselves up the social ladder. Yet at the same time, we lose lots. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years but things seems to be changing for me. it seems like we are starting to be unable to communicate with each other and have many times talk about breaking up. however, it's seems really hard to break away from someone after being together for so long. how did u manage?

Wow I have never really thought about this but now that I thinkk about it that quote holds a lot of truth. I think this might be beause now there everything is fast moving where as back then everything was more easy going and less stressful

Being single is always good and we can learn many more new things in life, like handling our task carefully and with more care.

oh....I think i'm now afraid to engage in a relationship...i have never been engage to relationships...But I can see today that most relationships don't last...it is hurting maybe...I'm afraid.

im taken

I actually wanted to be single for some time ^^ sometimes pressures in relationship is just really hard to iron out. I also think that relationships nowadays seem not to last, it's either the wife or the husband gets fed up and leave. Maybe because there was long courtship and genuine love and attraction before... well I'm not really sure about it though... I feel for you and hope you'll find someone to call your own in the right time