Just thinking about some of the discussions here.
By kris182_2000
@kris182_2000 (5469)
Canada
October 28, 2011 7:53pm CST
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, I know that full well.
There are folks here who spill secrets, details that should be private, but they feel that they need to get these out in public.
I feel that there's nothing wrong with this. It's called freedom of speech and freedom of expression.
As a person who has posted several things where I've vented in the past, I understand where people are coming from when they post their frustrations.
One poster had this issue tonight and posted something that was asked not to be revealed, but sometimes, these things must be said.
I commend her on posting what she did, and standing up for what she believed in. To not share what you feel is important, especially to people who follow your discussions wouldn't be right, in some cases.
Everyone here has a right to read or not read discussions. There are several that I pass over on a daily basis because I'm just not interested in what's being said.
But on the other hand, I will respond to the discussions that catch my eye and I feel that I can contribute to their discussion.
If you feel that a person shouldn't be saying what they're saying, you are entitled to your opinion, but don't respond if you don't want to. It's as simple as that.
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10 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Oct 11
In any open forum we cannot expect for all to agree with what is posted. I can certainly also understand and accept that some may not agree and or have an opinion of their own.
I have not always had positive responses and have also received way out of context type responses and in all honesty it is their opinion and I am not about to try and force my opinion onto anyone so I simply try to re-read and see if there is something that perhaps I am misunderstanding and or if it just a matter of differences. I have furthered my discussions to see if I too can see it from their angle, but does not mean that I will change how I feel, unless of course I misunderstood.
I am all for anyone voicing their opinion and or what they feel is the advice for the me and or a member. But if they are going to be upset by what is posted, I guess that is entirely their choice to respond or not. Personally if I felt that I just did not like something and did not want to frustrate myself over what is posted then I would actually just skip and or ignore. I come here to enjoy my time and if it means I am going to intentionally frustrate me then I rather not. It is not to say that I am not apt to learning something new, as I actually do on a daily basis here.
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@kris182_2000 (5469)
• Canada
29 Oct 11
I'm all for people having their opinions and voicing them, but not if they're going to publicly humiliate someone for saying something. It's just not right at all.
I mean, you don't like what someone says, why humiliate them in front of everyone else? Why not just keep it to yourself or simply offer constructive criticism , not outright humiliation and calling them out on what they said.
If the person they're talking about doesn't like that they didn't listen to them, then they should be discussing it with the person who said it.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Oct 11
Oh no public humiliation should not e done, there are somethings that really should not be said out in the open and it would be best to pm the member and or add them so they then can be pm and discuss.
I am not perfect and or special in any way but I personally would not do something like that. I come here to enjoy my time and with all the offline issues I can't see how it would be possible for me to also create issues for myself online.
I have asked for clarification if I feel I am misunderstanding and or think that maybe it was intentional, but if it becomes a back and forth targeting to humiliate me, I would have to just let it go.
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@willnfaithsmom (12)
• United States
29 Oct 11
I couldn't agree with you more. I think it's great that people can have other people to turn to here on MyLot. Sometimes you just have to get things off your chest. If people don't like what you have to say then I agree, just don't reply to their discussion.
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@kris182_2000 (5469)
• Canada
29 Oct 11
I think we consider each other to be sounding boards so to speak, and often times, that's what we all need.
So it helps to be able to speak our minds to people who will not lamb baste and rake you over the coals for it, as will happen on some other sites and in real life.
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
29 Oct 11
Kris, you have said this much better than I could have, and I agree with you. So I guess there is not much more that I can say. I have people who respond to my discussions on occasion, who have no idea about what I am posting, and that is okay as well, they respond because they want to support me. I love the freedom we have on Mylot for all of these many discussions.
@kris182_2000 (5469)
• Canada
29 Oct 11
I agree.
And I find that we all have our followers who most often are the regulars who respond to our discussions.
Those are the people we can usually count on not to pass judgment on us and to be respectful of what we say.
Those are the people that I like, and I appreciate them being here.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
29 Oct 11
Hmmmmmmm friend here we can share secret also because no one can see to each other and never meet to each other but all friends gives the best solution for our personal problem also. I always ready to welcome all discussions of my friend not matter this is personal, funny, danger etc.
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@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
The simple is do not response to the discussion that you do not like it..That is what i am doing ,if the topics is interesting,or something that will affects me or hurts me i should response it back nicely...
We are free here,and we have the choices in our mind to do and not do..
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
29 Oct 11
fanta habit is also same like you if title is interested then read topic and respond difficult English no join topic because fanta has no more time and fanta feel friendy you topic is simple and small so respond on it.
@airkulet (2700)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
As long as our identity here are private no one knows about it. Unless someone will make a details about their private life and information. But if we all talk about it in general I think we can kept our life private and who knows who might it be but we can still discuss it here.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Oct 11
hi kris yes we are free to discuss most anythiong as long as we do not insult other mylotters. I have no problem with anyone expressing themselves very openly pr not ,as if I do not want to respond I just move on. but when I see open attacks on some mylotter I have a hard time not reporting as we should not attack or humiliate or insult other mylotters. that the admins does not smile upon.I have shared my fight with my diabetes to others and at time even feed
some new findings about diabetes so other fellow diabetic m ylotters can know about them too.I know of whom you speak and like her very
much, she is open and warm hearted and a friend on mylist.
@littlemissy (200)
• Canada
6 Nov 11
I am not quite sure what you are saying but with reading some of your other responses I think I get it. My point on this is that no one here knows who I am outside of the internet world. I don't have my real name on anything here except where admin can see it. So I can say whatever I want here because no one knows who I really am.
I am a very nice and polite person, don't get me wrong, but if I want to make my life seem more exciting and/or dramatic I can and no one would know the better. I can be who ever I want to be when I am logged in mylot. I can say whatever I want to anyone I want. I like that about this site. I can state my opinion whether negative or positive because no one will be hunting me down if it is negative.
I can respond to whatever I want to and no one can tell me differently. I love this site and I love all the members I have come into path with but I am sure there will be a day that I come across someone that won't be so nice and that is when I can vent on them, which I would never dare to do in real life, no matter what. Too chicken.
littlemissy here signing off for now,
talk to you later my new friend
@Mashnn (4501)
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29 Oct 11
That is true. This is not a classroom that one answers or advices has to be on the mark. It is called a discussion forum and whether someone agree or disagree with whatever one writes. I think that is the fun of any discussion. Simply, let the administration do they work.
