Is It Bad By Thought?

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My friend posed an interesting question to me today. I honestly can't say I know the answer beyond a shadow of a doubt. He had asked me a question about relationship morals. His question was basically as follows: Let's say you're dating somebody, and have a friend who is married. You start to have feelings for your friend. They are married, and you're already in a relationship. You decide to just ignore these feelings, and just stay with your girlfriend, who you also have strong feelings for. You never act out based on the feelings for your married friend, but you still have them, and you can't help but wounder what it would be like if you were with them instead. You never do anything, but you think, even if only just once for a minute, about doing something, breaking up and being with your friend, or trying to. Though you've done no wrong through actions, are you still at fault? Are you bad, if only by thought and not by action? I've thought about it, and I honestly don't know. I mean, I don't think you can really blame somebody for having feelings, even if for somebody who is married, but to actually think about what it would be like to be with that person even though they are married, to think about trying to be with them, even if only by thought and not by action, doesn't that make you bad, at least to some extent? It's not like those kind of thoughts are forced, you have to be willing to allow yourself to think about that sort of thing. The emotions behind your motives for wanting to think like that might be forced, but you can still decide not to think that way. So even if you haven't done anything wrong, does thinking that make you bad? But then again, by not acting on those thoughts, by ignoring them and doing what you think is morally right, doesn't that make you good? So are you good or are you bad? What are your thoughts?