when "support" becomes "meddling"
By whengcat
@whengcat (1457)
Philippines
October 30, 2011 2:39am CST
My family is facing a hard time at the moment, financially to be more specific. It's so depressing sometimes because we don't have anyone to turn to. To add up to this, it really irritated me when I learned that an in-law is planning what to do with our lives. Hey, wait a minute, I appreciate the "support" but I think it's way overboard. Planning? without consulting me? am I a robot or something? and worst, my husband kind'a agree with the idea and when he feels that I disagree, he'll say that it's my pride I'm showing. But for me, I guess its not. Intruding into other people's affairs or business is meddling. Call it pride but I guess not because when we needed help so badly they're just not even there and instead of helping us, judgement is all we received from them.
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3 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
I can understand your feeling, whengcat. It would be hurting to know suddenly that an in-law has already thought of a plan to solve your present situation, without even consulting first you and your husband. It is an insult indeed.
But don't let your wounded pride hinder the plan. Discuss it with your husband and weigh its pros and cons. If it could really help your situation now, then why not accept it.
Forget what happened before. Maybe they are just trying to make up for what they weren't able to do before to help your family. What is important is to decide what is for the best now.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
30 Oct 11
HI there... such relatives are just useless.. Their schemes to do something for you will end up in nothing, trust me... Because they don't put heart in it... And they fear to spend money too.. So don't take it seriously. Tell the meddler, not to do tht... and Move On!! Good Luck!!
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
30 Oct 11
Personally that can be a problem sometimes when family members are trying to plan our lives making sure that we are going to do many times what we do not enjoy. And promising that we will do something or be somewhere and not checking with us to make sure this will even fit within our schedule.
I would often hope that when they are planning something they would include me in their plans, but often times I am the last to know, and if I cannot be there then everyone wants to complain about me then again.
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