Love is patient...Love is kind what is your definition
By schatzli1218
@schatzli1218 (28)
United Arab Emirates
October 30, 2011 3:51am CST
For me, the best definition of love is how it was described in the holy book 1 cor:13 that...
Love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast. it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices for the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres...
now my question is, when a person says he or she loves you but blames you for almost everything, easy to get angry and frustrated because of the things you do, and remembers all your mistakes and shortcomings in the past. what would you call it? and can you honestly say that you have given the kind of love that was defined?
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I agree with what the HOLY BOOK says, I never had any doubt about it.
When I love someone,I never care about the past or who he is.
I always give my best and try my best to work everything fine.
When I love there is no condition, no question, no why.
But love is a two way road,and takes two to tango.
It will never survive with only one taking all the strides.
If one never cooperates,then love is already missing...
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Oct 11
Thank you for sharing your views jaiho but isnt loving unconditionally is just giving and not expecting anything in return?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Oct 11
what you expect in return is to be loved just the way yo u are, wrinkles, overweight,it does not matter. you and your loved one loved the person inside not the perfect body , looking for perfection in love is silly as there is no one who is perfect. we are humans and human beings are not perfect.to love unconditionally you need to be loved back unconditionally. if either of you have to have a hollywood perfect mate you aint ever going to find him or her.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
But I believe and I've known that you had that unconditional love Miss Hatley,right?
@anusha2128 (886)
• India
30 Oct 11
In my point of view love is just understanding your loved one and doing whatever your love feels happy. I am honestly saying the same with my love i.e with my husband and he loves me a lot in the same way...
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@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Oct 11
thanks anusha. oh yeah i guess real love is just making the other person happy the whole time. all the best... =)
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Yes i am agree with all your definitions that is all true. Now if one of that is missing meaning they don't really love. The greatest love is coming from the Lord who gave us life. It is the very perfect. Now you asked about our own definition about love coming from our own heart. I can share with you according to my own experienced.
For me it is full of happiness but reverse it is also full of sufferings. On the first place after we are involve to one person and both of you happy for me if he is not you perfect partner for sure sufferings and crying would be next. But it is defend on how relationship goes on. We all know that we try our best to make relationship lasts for last. Save it as possible we can. And goodluck to everyone. 
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
Thats a good outlook mods. we should really strive to give happiness to our partner more than us. i guess when we suffer, we can also decide not to suffer. you are saying that sometimes these suffering are brought about when you are not compatible. yes we all want our relationships to last and flourish. thank you so much
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Hi cuz!
I believe in what the holy book tells us,it's what I call an unconditional love and I'm happy to say that I found that kind of love from my hubby now. He accepted me for who and what I am.
In my own opinion,the love you are telling is a selfish love. It's the opposite of what the holy book says. I may have some shortcomings but hubby accepts it as he doesn't want anythng from me but to love him. When we have misunderstandings,I don't know why I easily get irritated and angry but hubby serves as water to melt down my anger. He's always saying I'm fire and he's the water,haha!
I believe in what the holy book tells us,it's what I call an unconditional love and I'm happy to say that I found that kind of love from my hubby now. He accepted me for who and what I am.
In my own opinion,the love you are telling is a selfish love. It's the opposite of what the holy book says. I may have some shortcomings but hubby accepts it as he doesn't want anythng from me but to love him. When we have misunderstandings,I don't know why I easily get irritated and angry but hubby serves as water to melt down my anger. He's always saying I'm fire and he's the water,haha!@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
maybe the other person is just going through some battles also..I agree that sometimes a person tends to be in his/her dark side when he/she is in trouble. But if it stays like that for a long time cuz,I guess that's already selfish and unfair to the partner.
And I'm also proud of Arnold cuz for being such a wonderful and loving husband and a father to my kids. I never regretted the day that I said yes to him.
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
hi cuz thanks for your reply. yes i believe that there should be a balance between a couple and people are so blessed if they are able to find the love like yours and mine also. i would like to think that the love that was discussed here is self seeking but i to think about the other person probably some buttons needs to be pushed for his or her understanding. maybe the other person is just going through some battles also. more blessings to you! i am so proud of my cuz because of how he treats you. ;)
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@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
oh yes cuz and if we really love the person we should be more understanding and help them identify their battles. i guess when one is weak then the other one should help the other become stronger again.. =D
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Oct 11
Love is the most complex feeling there is. It can give you wings for no reason and break you down till there is nothing left over from you.
Life is way easier and with less sorrows/problems if there is not that hunt for love, hang for love, lack of love, ideas about how real love should be.
If we could just accept we are.
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
by the way wakeupkitty, yes love can give you a certain high and intoxication but i guess that love is just inside us. we are born out of love and because of love... =)
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
31 Oct 11
It is a person's fortune to be in love with one who is with serene insight of love.Then there isn't blaming or fault finding instead great patience prevails which give peace and joy to the loved.If both have that divine quality of love not only them but also all related them experience peace and joy.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
5 Nov 11
I am afraid of love. A lot of pains are hidden in love. So I am avoiding love at the possible maximum. Love with a distance is sufficient to live!
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
oh definitely when one is giving you have peace of mind and when you do most definitely you are happy. are you fortunate to find real love also? =)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Oct 11
nono no loving unconditionally is not selfish and is the only real love as you cannot remake a person to satisfy you, marrying w th that goal is always headed straight to the divorce courts. I had 33 years of loving unconditionally and being loved unconditionally and it was great even with the problems of life, love thats real does not demand it gives.The bibical definition is the real one, the one I always trusted.
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
I share the same view with you hatley. i also trust that definition because for me it is the best definition of how love should be-and to trust that there is a love as such we just probably have to emerge it in each one of us. that if the other person fault find give some more understanding. as the saying goes you catch more flies with honey than vinegar...isn't it? thanks!
@JL_Beldua (102)
•
25 Nov 11
For me, the definition of love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Love is like a wind, you will not see them but you feel the word of love around forever. Love is any Language straight from the heart, pulls us all together never apart, and once we learn to speak it, all the world will hear, love in any Language, fluency spoken here. we teach the young the differences, yet look how we're the same, we love to laugh and dream our dreams, we know the sting and pain. You should be jealous and angry someone who destroyed to your love, and that's the meaning of love, if there is no jealous you don't love him. You should be jealous and angry if there's a grab of your love.
@badlittleMiss (118)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
mm .. quite interesting !
Love in the holy book is basically pertaining to GOD'S love ( FOR ME ).
And the love for us humans is so mysterious . I guess nobody can define . Because God give it to us as divine .
@schatzli1218 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Oct 11
oh yes. God's love for us is the true epitome of Unconditional love. I have learned or read that when God sees us He only sees the goodness in us. but i was just thinking we are children of God so we are also capable of this love. don't you think its also possible?
