Is it true? It's hard for people to know themselves well.
By aquacan
@aquacan (216)
China
October 31, 2011 2:38am CST
We all have friends and we know clearly what kind of persons they are. But sometimes, do you find it harder to know yourselves well than to know people around you? We can easily notice others' merits and shortcomings but we have no idea what our own shortcomings are. I often feel confused what kind of person I am. And I find myself so different in different people's eyes. It's really important for me to know myself and make the right choices.
Do you agree that it's hard for people to know themselves? What suggestions do you have for those who can't tell what kind of persons they are?
11 responses
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
for me, i don't agree to that..because no one know myself better but me..but it takes time to know yourself..you must know who you really are..observe yourself..know what you want..know what you are..know your limitations, your strengths and weaknesses..and find it..through that, you won't be confused of what kind of person you are..
@aquacan (216)
• China
1 Nov 11
Thanks for your response. I think people have different personalities and their experience will be different. Good for you that you already know yourself well. But not all people would be lucky enough as you. Just as you mentioned, knowing ourselves requires time and patience. It will be quite long before we know ourselves well, and in that process, I think most people would be confused just like I am now.
@aceabrea (184)
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1 Nov 11
change is a constant process in life. each day we change but we don't notice it.. we tend to adapt to the environment we live in and make choices and decisions. no one can tell who we are for even ourselves cannot tell who we are. each day we are mold into another person... and that's part of a change!!!
@aquacan (216)
• China
1 Nov 11
Good day, friend. Here I would like to say that people sometimes can't tell their own shortcomings so easily. Knowing others and knowing ourselves are totally different. Knowing others is a process of communication while knowing ourselves is reflection. That's my point.
It's true that we are changing everyday. Maybe I didn't get your piont but here I think it has little to do with what I want to say. (_
@br3ndy (468)
• Indonesia
1 Nov 11
Yes i agree with you. It is easier for us see other people and to know their personalities, but we almost cant see ourselves and especially our personality very clearly. Maybe because we are like third peson who view at somebody else like watching movie but there is no view of ourselves. Thats why its hard to know ourselves.
@aquacan (216)
• China
1 Nov 11
Good day, friend. That's exactly what I want to say. Sometimes we can't tell what kind of people we are as easily as we judge others. So I think everyone needs a mirror to have a clear image of himself. That mirror could be our friends, families, or even enemies. Through them, we can have a comparion of ourselves and see clearly what we are like.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
I have similar problems. I think it helps if we reflect on the things we have done to know ourselves more.
@aquacan (216)
• China
1 Nov 11
Good point friend. We can hardly know how well we have done if we don't reflect the things we did. I think there are mainly two ways to know ourselves better. One is to learn from people around us and find our own advantages and disadvantages. The other, which is equally important, is to always look back on things we have done and find out what can be done to improve the result. In that way we are able to make progress and know ourselves better.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
1 Nov 11
A lot of people tend to really spend a lot of time figuring out themselves. There are a lot of things that they think and a lot of things that they really hear people saying about them. It is rather something where people do doubt who they really are and they really don't know themselves. There are more than a few periods of self discovery throughout life. People trying to figure out everything. I know I have gone through it and many others have as well.
In fact there are some people that a lot of people who know others a bit better than themselves. For some, they think they know others better. There are all kinds of self doubts. As they look in the mirror in the morning, they are going to really wonder who in fact they are really are in life. There are going to really just times where we wonder. Where we really do not know all of what is going to happen in life. Such is in fact life.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
31 Oct 11
It is not a hard work, it is a simple thing to know about ourselves. Because in this world, our heart is only our best friend. Daily just few minutes we have to spend with us only, in that time we have to talk with our heart. Just try and see the excellent result.
@lyokangirl (27)
• United States
31 Oct 11
I agree that it's hard for people to know themselves but I also agree that it's hard for people to know their friends. Knowing your friends might be easier but it's still pretty hard.
@aquacan (216)
• China
31 Oct 11
Good day. It's really hard to say which is harder. But in most cases we could point out others' shortcomings in a few minutes. When it comes to ourselves, that could be difficult. Because I think we spend more time observing others than knowing ourselves. But it's really important for us to know what kind of persons we are. We are supposed to know our own disadvantages. Then we are able to make adjustments and improvements. You know, others can't necessarily always point out our mistakes and give proper suggestions.
@vishalconvergys (157)
• India
31 Oct 11
True to an extent. It is easy to preach twenty peoples but it is very difficult to apply the same cause we overlook our shortcomings. It is very easy to criticize others and when we make same mistake, it is bad day for us.
@aquacan (216)
• China
1 Nov 11
Exactly. People can see others' shortcomings and merits clearly and it's not hard for them to judge others. But when it comes to ourselves, things seem to be totally different. People often go to two extremes. Some think highly of themselves and never admit their shortcomings. When they see or hear something bad in themselves, they would feel that's a bad day. Some underestimate their petential thus feel shame of themselves. Neither of them are knowing themselves in a correct way.
Since we cannot have a clear image of ourselves, I think it's not a bad way that we see ourselves from others. In that way, we can always find our disadvantages and advantages, which will help us better know ourselves.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
31 Oct 11
I think people know themselves very well. No doubt about that.
It's not the fact we don't know who we are (what we dislike or like) but that we want to be like others are to get accepted.
It's hard for most people to do what is right for (only) them. It's hard to be not one out of the cattle but to stand alone.
You need a lot of courage for that plus self esteem and a strong will.
And if it comes to the shortcomings... there are none.. these are just existing in the eye of the person who talks about it.
Knowing what you like you can tell by knowing what you don't like.
The rest is easy: be yourself no matter what others say, think about you.
