when i am dead - no flowers please

Well, i can understand what you are thinking Jazel. I guess, i would like it to be that way too. No flowers only candles, lighted and mass offered. I always tell my daughter, when we die she should have us cremated. And i have seen just recently on TV , that the ashes could now be placed in those small stone like containers, that could be used as a bracelet or necklace. At least that way, my daughter can always remember us , each time she wears them.

It's very simple if that is your preference, just put "please omit flowers" in your obituary and have it engraved in your tomb stone, no hustle really

I would be tempted to buy flowering plants early in the spring and raise nice flowering plants to put one on each grave. Here we can often get a six pack of starter plants for less than three dollars. I do not know how that compares to your pesos. Bright red geraniums would be pretty and would at lest last longer than a cut flower. I understand the fact that flowers should be a gift for the living.

I have also never understood the tradition of leaving flowers at a grave. We do not only do it on one day a year but many times a year ... not me personally, but members of my family. I know that the person's physical body is buried in that spot, but I do not think that is where their spirit is nor do I think that they appreciate the physical things like flowers the way that the living do, so I don't understand why people do it.

Yes I see your point but flowers do add something nice to what is a very sad and bleak occasion. Words can't ease the pain but flowers can take the edge off of a very harsh occasion. Even at the aged of 61 loosing both parents in the same year was hard but having family friends and flowers around made things a little easier. I know they are expensive and I don't agree with burial as grave maintenance can be expensive as graves look so sad without flowers. Graves are I know a place where you can remember your loved ones but that can really be done anywhere.

We usually put flowers on gravestones to pay tribute and give honor to those who passed away. But I do agree that we should be more practical in choosing the pots or bouquet of flowers. It's the thought of giving that counts. :) God bless!

jazel_juan, While I can understand your prerogatives and arguments here, I just want to point out that the flowers does play another role for the deceased close family members. You are spot on that the deceased may not enjoyed and/or appreciate by the deceased but you should remember flowers are the best medium of expressing one's feelings. The fragrance, freshness and types of flowers make them unique. Although flowers might not last for a very long time, but they play a vital role in strengthening of bonds and compliance with the tradition of culture that brings about some sort of closure. Liken to flowers being the best gift for the special one in your life whilst they are alive, I have to say that they are just as special and relevant when they are not around anymore. Flowers wither but the memories remain etched in the heart of the giver. So, I have to say that it is not really your call especially when one is already deceased to begin with and the choice of the giver.

actually i feel the same about flowers while im alive. i dont like cut flowers, beautiful but they die and leave a dreadful mess. why not buy live flowers to plant or in a pot so they can be watered and enjoyed?