Even been active to Class Reunions?

Going to your reunion is like 'calling old friends to update them on how you're doing and -to update yourself on how they're doing.' If they have bad news, I don't want to dwell on it; so I probably wouldn't even go if something tragic had happened recently. But nothing like that had happened to me, so I went to my high-school class reunion a little while ago--just ... I dunno, to get my bearings, I guess--and it was sorta depressing for me; because I didn't have any "accomplishments" to speak of. I mean, I had straightened out my problem with the government (if that was only quitting them and solidifying my hate of them a little). And I was still alive (not to say I was 'enjoying it' enough to be worth the suffering I've been through to stay alive). But I hadn't 'held to form'---hadn't 'finished college and gotten a job and started a family' like everyone else. I feel like I shoulda gotten that foundation down before I deserved to be at the reunion (and to tell the truth I only went to ONE of the four reunion activities that weekend ... the relatively-FREE one ) So just before you decide whether to go or not, ask yourself, 'What's happened since last time?' If you come up with a lot more bad stuff than -good stuff, it's probably a better idea to sit this one out ... some will miss you, though; and you can count every one that will miss you in the 'good stuff'-column.

Then maybe you do not have insecurities. I think you have a valid reason of not attending since you don'y know most of those who attended. I'm sure even if you participated, you will not enjoy it. As early as now, I don't think I would be excited in attending reunions also. I do not have many friends and I don't think we will be able to keep in touch after we graduate. I am some kind of a loner so being around with a lot of people is not my thing. Also, when there is reunion, there will always be those awkward questions like "What you are not yet married?" or "How much do you make for a living now?"? I am avoiding those pretty personal questions.

I never have been to any of my class reunions. I don't care to go. High school was not the best years of my life and I rather not relive those years! I had some good times but most it was bad times! I felt like misfit and most of the time I didn't fit in! Some of my old high school classmates have tried to be my friends on Facebook. I refuse to let them be my friends. I was used and taken advantage of by alot of them! I even got friend requests from classmates I don't remember! Maybe some of these people have changed but in my heart I feel they haven't! So no reunions for me!

I have no interest in relieving the past. And any people who I wanted anything to do with, I am currently friends with. And that is rather the truth of the matter to say the very least. There are just many times where it is just a waste of time to really go to a reunion. Of course I have not really had been out long enough to qualify for a reunion but I really don't think that it is going to be something that I would rather enjoy. To me, reunions seem to be depressing for two reasons. Number one, people who's lives are pathetic for whatever reason but they don't really realize that their life is pathetic. And then there are those people who have become grossly successful for no logical reason. To me, I'm not sure what is really worse. There are going to be a lot of times where people have changed too much and its like different people. Reunions are a waste to me and I'll never go to one as long as I live.

Just like you i don't go to reunions when it's the whole batch mates that will be going. Why would i go on the first place, if i don't know those batch mates. And besides, i would want the reunion between us , former classmates only. However, when that happens , i am always occupied with something.

Hi enelym001! Me, too, don't want to attend batch/class reunion sort of like that. I don't feel like going since I have that notion of what's happening there. Instead, of making up the past for reuniting, classmates and batchmates tend to brag things what they have achieved and where they are connected. One tend to show he/she's more successful than the other. Maybe that's why some people including me don't want to go to such kind of activity, it's just a waste of time if that's the way it is. Why do they just spend their time to their love one's so as not to waste it? Or spend it some ways to earn money for a living...

Hi enelym: I think it's just a question of laziness. When I was at school I feel so tired about the idea of participating on school reunions when I had the chance to stay home sleep. Now I regret at some point what I do, because I have lost some really nice memories I could have now because I just feel too lazy to share my time on school reunions ALVARO

i rarely attend reunions or parties, i just hate it when seeing my former girlfriend and or boastful classmates, obviously class reunions if not all, are just for displaying your achievements in life, although reunions and parties can be useful as building your connections with others and for reconciliation too.

we feel the same enelym. my high school alma mater also sponsored a reunion some 2 months ago but i did not participate thinking that i might end up alone in the corner and just waiting for things to happen. aside from that, my batchmates were too busy that time and i was also too busy back then. and for the sake of honesty, i don't like to present myself there because I don't want to see myself less successful than others.

I myself like reunion because actually I was fortunately elected as our batch president. I usually planned for it, and in fact last year of December we had our very first time batch reunion however, sadly and unfortunately I was not able to attend the reunion I prepared due to some personal matters in the family. I felt sad and my batch mates as well but then the party still went on and they told me according to the my evaluation that they enjoyed the event. Many of my classmates attended and my batch mates too. I could also say that I am not really attending a lot of reunion even I liked to, because sometimes I could not feel any sense of doing so, mingling a lot of people and talking to them as well,but the question is do they really care about knowing you maybe they are just there to show their grandiosity. Nevertheless, my advice to you is this, if you don't feel like going don't do so, maybe next time you will have some courage and drive to attend to some fruitful reunion.

I also don't go to batch reunions, for almost all of the active members in the batch are from different class and I don't know if I can jive into their discussions if ever I do join any reunion. I have attended a class reunion last year and it was really fun,for I know all of them and we have fun reminiscing the old times. Some people dont go to reunions because of their busy lives, sometimes because they are already married and have to take care of their children. Others are hesitant to go because of some insecurities. But for me, just be your self, if ever you go to any reunion and just be happy meeting your old friends again.