lady of the house should have a day off!!!
By khare_1005
@khare_1005 (1310)
India
November 2, 2011 3:33am CST
what do you think guys? am i wrong to think it that way?i mean most of the working ladies and also the house wives,keep on working 24/7 for their family.do they not have the right to have a day off from their daily routine?
i think they too have the rite to enjoy a leave for a day in a week where other fam,ily members take up the responsibility of the house and she gets some time for herself that she can utilize in the way she wants.
what's your take on this?
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25 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
dear saphy,
Yes sweetheart, we need a day off and a vodka
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
hey sweetie,
i hope things work out and i get to be pampered by the rest of my family at least for a day.
and that day i'll be enjoying every moment of it to be here with my most wonderful people
and sid,
if we are planning for a vacation or a day off,it would be just for ladies of the house while you would be busy cooking for us
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Nov 11
I always have maintaned that for sure. I do assist my wife in cooking, ashing, cleaning and also want her to take that day off.
BUT... (this always creeps in) -
The next day she yells - you emptied that container or this one... or worst still... With that way of your cooking I am unsure how do I maintain the budget
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
dear sids
Oho,so make everything worst instead of helping?
Okay then,I will never ask you to iron my clothes or else I will end up with wearing burnt clothes
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
oh dear,i appreciate that you help your wife but in return you get only scoldings
but at least you try to help her and give her the day off
please don't let this BUT ruined the fun of the day off
@shibham (16977)
• India
2 Nov 11
Hi sis...
Then who will do the household works... a maid... hmmm... to some extend. But i think the good decision is to help each other ( husband and wife) so that they can finish their all house hold cores and carry some free time for rest and endearment. I think its a better option. Have a nice time
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
tell me one thing,if guys get a leave for a day from their office,do they not feel like sleep over entire day and get pampered and do nothing but relax?
same is the feeling with ladies too.if husbands could only lend a helping hand so that she gets sometime for herself,that's more then required.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
the problem is that your BIL has not a single day off and 7 days the week he is away from the house coming back only on lunch time and at night.i have been trying to persuade him to take a day of rest but he hasn't taken a decision on that yet.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
khare dear
Of course,every wife has the right for a day off.
Thanks,I can always have my off whenever I want to.
I am my own boss and manager so I don't need to file for a leave
Every woman/wife needs a day to relax
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
my dear sids,
Oh men...they're always on vacation
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
2 Nov 11
Hi Khare..
Look like you are getting busy these days.. Of course you and all other deserve the break and rest. At my place, sometimes I help my mom by making tea and some other stuff in place of her. I can't help her more as I don't know more cooking stuff, But I always try to help her. She is really doing lots of stuff in a day, And surely she deserves the break and all those rest. That's why I do almost all to help her.. Most of the time.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
3 Nov 11
i am much glad to see that there are still few men like you in this world.my husband also helps me sometimes when am overloaded.helping hands from the other members act much as a relaxation then actual relaxation.i know no women can go on a day of rest without doing any work at all.she has no choice but to do this as this is her responsibility.but if men in the house should also share the activities and help the ladies,its much better.ladies don;t expect more then that.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
6 Nov 11
thank you my dear but as you know my clinic is open on all the 7 days so i can not take a day off from there.well i am trying to keep a day off from the clinic and i sill have to formulate the plan.by the way can you see the first page of my discussion?as am not able to see that.i asked GAA and he said there is no problem and he can see my first page.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
7 Nov 11
i don;t know what's wrong because i am not able to see my first page.i have no problem with any other pages of mylot but this single one i am unable to view.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
19 Nov 11
i think it would be the best gift a partner could give to the lady of the house, I have noticed a lot of young married couples these days are having what they call a "date night" i love this idea, a friend of mine brings his son to her once a week for him and his wife to go out on a date, its so good for grandma and grandpa to have the baby for a night and the young couple go out on a special night out, sound so romantic to me..
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
20 Nov 11
Oh gee I wish you lived near me I would look after your little one oh maybe you could still have a little date night and take the baby I know when I was a kid my parents always went out once in awhile but my mother nver left us with baby sitters so we were taken along, it was just to the movies or the Drive In....
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
20 Nov 11
wow its a nice idea.that way the couple gets to have some nice time together. my case is a bit different as i don't have any relative near by where i can leave my baby for the day while i enjoy my time with my husband.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
29 Nov 11
we do the same. whenever we go out, my little lady is always accompanying us. she is in the age where she can enjoy movies in theatre without much of mess. so we can manage to take her along when we want to have some time for enjoyment.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
10 Nov 11
Hi Khare!
I completely agree with you that the lady of the house should at least get a day's off.
Afterall she is also a human being and she needs rest to rejuvenate and recharge herself.
I understand that you are required to work 24x7 due to your professional, parental and house hold commitments.
As such there is no 'off' day for you in comparison to those people who are in service/employed.
I think you should ask your hubby to allow you to take atleast a days's rest in a week so that you could relax on that day.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
21 Nov 11
Hi Khare!
I am one of them who care for their wives. I agree that a wife needs support and little bit appreciation that she is running the show successfully. Also, she should be allowed to take some rest from the errands.
It is nice to hear that your hubby is very supportive and even gives you a helping hand in kitchen chores.
I also try my best to discharge as many errands as possible during weekends.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
20 Nov 11
i am much pleased to hear that at least a few men think about their wife the way they should. believe me a women needs nothing more then the consideration that hse keeps on working all the time and does need some rest.
my hubby is too very supportive and he often helps me in kitchen.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Nov 11
I agree completely!! They do deserve to be spoiled on occasion. I think that more ladies should consider themselves at least one day. Often times women put their own wants and needs on the backburner so that everyone and everything can be tended to. We forget that we are important too. Great suggestion!!!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
20 Nov 11
I'm doing ok and my daughter seems to be doing well too. Thanks for asking. She left four days ago I am hanging in there though and hoping for the best. I am thinking about this day off that you have mentioned...I might have to take a day for myself....maybe get my hair done..go shopping a little.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
29 Nov 11
sure jenin you should take a day off for yourself. your kid is grown and is now trying to explore out the new world all by herself. i am sure you two are in contact with each other and maintaining a friendly relationship
that is the only way to deal with a grown up kid as i think. my baby is still too young and i have to learn through the experience of my friends to know how to deal with her at all her ages.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
20 Nov 11
hey jenintn,
sorry for responding late. how are you and your daughter? did she moved or is she staying with you?
es you are right women do think that way and the only thing that sets them back into the bed is some bad health.
they forget that they are also a human and they also deserve to take some rest at least once in a while.
@nishant5n (1067)
• India
5 Nov 11
Of course yes, Ms. Khare.
They work for 24X7X365...that is every day, every noon, every evening, every night, and every morning...
In the morning they have to prepare breakfast for children, husbands and other who are going to their job or work.
Whole day they work, whole week they work, whole month they work, whole year they work....
they get off whenever they are sick or ill...that is not good
They are human and needs at least a week off...but they understand that they cannot take a weekoff so they still work....
If we (men) have to pay them for their work...we will be in debt!
No one can pay a housewife for her household chores.
I don't know the feasibility of your question, but yes I am in full agreement
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@nishant5n (1067)
• India
25 Nov 11
Exactly, for a housewife (ideally Indian), her whole world is her family. She lives for them, for their well-being, for their betterment...
If in return, even if husbands offers her some help (and not even helps her actually), it is more than enough to make her happy and satisfied with her "world."
I always feel in debt for this very reason and salute women for their unnoticed jobs they do so that other family members can live comfortably and achieve their goals...
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
29 Nov 11
yes nishant even a few kind words can serve the purpose and you need not really go in for helping her around.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
5 Nov 11
i know it would certainly not be possible if i have to take up a leave for an entire day from all my responsibilities especially when i have a little kid in the house.a mother can never even imagine to take a leave from her 2/7 jobs.i don;t need much but only a consideration that we do a lot of efforts to take good care of the family and the house and while doing all these sort,if we miss on a thing or two,we shouldn't be excused for not doing that.and if the members of the family,or at least the hubby,lends a helping hand to share the responsibilities,its more then enough for me.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
2 Nov 11
You are absolutely right sweet profile women full time work for their family members but some time for her it is necessary. But some MIL and husband not understand the feelings of women. We are also tired and we are also human being not animal every time busy in working.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
2 Nov 11
yes my dear,we also need sometime to be ourselves.i hope husbands get more generous and helping so that wives also get to have some time to relax at least one single day in a week.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
3 Nov 11
dupremo i was speaking about ladies of the house and not the wife only.all the ladies in the house work without resting a bit.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
4 Nov 11
Yes I agree the lady of the house does have the right of a free day off esp. if she has kids. Fact is with kids you never have a free day off. And if you have some hours you are planning and organizing for day how to do it if you are gone.
I don't think it's easy to relax at home even not if others take it over. Kids and husband will come and keep disturbing you and asking you everything whole time.
This year it was the first time in 27 years I went out alone, without kids.
As I told them my youngest daughter did not like it, start crying etc. My son probl. did not like the idea either but he will never say I should not do it. At the moment I left they did not ask for me at all, they even did not miss for a second. So all the fuzz was about nothing and I will surely do this again.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
you were lucky that you managed a vacation all on your own.since my baby is still young,i can not leave her to somebody and go out to enjoy.i just wish that if i get a day off,i'll rest out sleeping cozily in my bed without anybody bothering me for anything at all.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
3 Nov 11
Yes , of course we should have one day a week off , its so tyred and bored being cleaning and cooking everyday. I have been doing the house work and taking care of my two kids since three years and I am really tyred my body and mind are screaming for a break, in my country before i had help so I could go out everytime I want to. My husband works in another country and comes home only for vacation , so , he watches tv. play computer , goes out with frieds and brothers , and I remain in the house , for me there is no vacation , We went to the beach the other all four of us but , still is tyring preparing everything and being with the kids , my husband left already and I am still keep doing the same in here. I have the wish to go somewhere by myself of one weekend and have fun .
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
i have my household to look after,i have a baby and i have a job.i don't say my husband doesn't help me but he gets to be at home very little to help out.i have to keep running around the clock to get my house tidy and meeting all the needs of my family.
but yes this hectic schedule has taken out my own interest and my own life and fun away from me.even i wish that i have a day where i can do things the way i want to without bothering about anything at all and without any complaints of the family members.
@amybcraft77 (314)
•
5 Nov 11
I absolutely agree, a woman should have the day off. To take care of some of here needs,cares,and or wants too. So that she many have this done and then can resume her routine once more. If one does not care for themselves they will not be much good use to anybody else. Now that is just the facts, so a day off should almost be a mandatory here really.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
5 Nov 11
i completely agree to you my dear.we must care about ourself or else we won't be able to takecare of our family and can not fulfill our other responsibilities.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Nov 11
You are right. The wife is not a slave. And the family contains a husband and wife. So it is not fair that the woman has to do all the housework without breaks. And some women also have their careers, and it is not fair for them to take care of their families alone. The husband should help to do some housework.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
yes you are right.family works out only when both the important members hold hand in hand and share the load equally.one hand can not clap.it needs two to clap.
@Keola12 (820)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I totally agree with you. The lady of the house does deserve a day off from housework and take a personal day for herself. Personally,I believe that family members should work together as a team when it comes to doing housework, instead of leaving it up to the lady of the house to do all of the work. Everyone in the family should pitch in with the household chores.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
if a family cold have been that considerate then there was no need for such discussion,question or argument.my family is too small to expect from anybody but my husband and he too is involved in his own business all 7 days of the week.so the household activity and my job is all left to me.how i wish he could take a day off from his routine and we do things together at home.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
2 Nov 11
Hello Khare,
They have every right to have day off unlike we men who have weekly offs when we are in offline job.
My wife also complains every time for it but i am helpless for it as i don't know cooking and if she takes weekly off too then also she indeed has to prepare lunch and dinner though on Sundays i don't bother her to make breakfast in the morning and tea in evening.
Also i compensate her weekly offs by taking her some of the responsibilities daily.Though i don't do the house hold works as perfectly as her but i have a satisfaction at least that contribute.
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
sj,if you think about it and try to help her in her works,that more then a wife really needs.i am lucky to have a helping husband but its very less often that he gets time to help me.most of the time he is over tired with his routine.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
well if we protest,most of the men will say that take your day off any day you wish to but practically they won;t even give a single thought about it.they think that we are just sitting in the house and re;axing.give him a day to do household cores including baby sitting,then they will understand.
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Well for my own opinion, yes they need a day off
But not to say they will go outside and enjoy alone.
Let me say, they go outside with the entire family.
On that way they have their bonding ofcourse
no cooking, just order from the restaurant
and let the kids or husband do the chores on that day
Let her feel that shes a princess on that day.
How would you think???
Have a great day!
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@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
i wish that could be possible.even if i get such a single day in a month,i will be feeling like blessed one.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
4 Nov 11
yes i miss those days too.marriage shouldn't feel like a rat trap.it should have a bonding and sharing both of feelings as well as work load.its not just a lady's responsibility to take care of the entire family.