happy no more???

I agree with you on this. Nowadays, marriages are there for the kids and not because of the thought of having to spend your rest of your life with that someone special or your so-called soulmate. All I can say is that there are many reasons who failed marriages are becoming so popular these days. The lack of communication is simply one of the huge factors that make a marriage fail. During this age and time, a lot of parents are opting to work both and have their own careers due to the economy, but little do they know that the time and energy that they can spend as a couple is slowly being drained out of their marriage. Unless a couple does something special every now and then and work really hard to work out their differences, a failed marriage becomes inevitable.

Well, for starters, it is that piece of paper they call a marriage license. Then there is the fact of the everyday grind and everything become mundane. They each fall into their comfort zone and just exist. Also, as the kids come, it adds stress and worry to both of them. They cannot handle the major change that happened with children. They still think everything will be like it was before. The game changed and their life has changed, it now is no longer about them, it is all about their children. A bitterness sets in. Then in some cases, one of them either wind up cheating or just ignoring the other. and thats when the beginning of the end starts. Things begin to crumble, and the sad fact id that the children suffer more then the adults. The best remedy for this is not to get married and not to have children. Live together, it is much much better.

I think the stress of life tends to be a big factor. My husband and I having a rough time. We have three kids so it really doesn't pay for me to work because all my money would go to daycare anyway. So he has to work a lot of hours to keep us going and even with what he works we aren't making it. So that stresses him out and he takes it out on me. I think also, with all the technology available, it is really easier then ever to go outside your marriage to meet people. Sometimes I think it's unrealistic to believe you'll be with someone forever.

hi, sometimes people just actually grow apart...they become uncompatible and the children are really a bonus...a lot of people seem to just not take their vows as seriously as couples use to....in society today people it is so easy to file for a divorce and think life goes on but the issue is not the grown ups who no longer love each other but the issue then becomes the children who really needs stability and love in their life.

most of the time it be money or lack of trust. seem like everybody is cheating o these days. time for people to grow up and be a man or woman

I'm sorry your friends are having this issue. One of the main issues I believe that result in a failed marriage/relationship is money. This causes a tremendous amount of stress on a couple or family. It is an issue I have dealt with in a past marriage. Also trust. That is a BIG one. Have a nice day, thank you for sharing. Val

I think there could be a lot of factors affecting this. Most of the time it would be as simple as the woman not being submissive and the man not being able to provide well for the family and it would then branch out to horrifying details that could and would blow the marriage out of proportion. I believe that when people do give up on relationships that is the end of it. not when the issues come to surface because both can still and should try to work it out, even if it gets painful... even if it gets really tough for both parties but they still try to fix things.. that is admirable.

I believe that in a happy marriage there is superb conversation and if this isn't present it can strain the couple's relationship. The two people might not get on well if they don't have shared interests. The couple might be going in two different directions but want to stay together for the sake of their kids. One might like to stay in and the other could be out partying. Lots of arguments can be miserable in a marriage and so this happening would make the couple dislike each other. I used to live next door to a lawyer. He said he loved Christmas and New Year because it was the time of many divorce proceeding. If the wife or the husband has an affair it is likely the couple will split up. If a couple feel incompatible then they might need a vacation to relax and find a new sparkle in their marriage. Then it will be a marriage on the rocks saved.

I know nothing about them only from what you say and they are struggling to make it work. I think it's normal that the longer you are together a relationship chances. Same if you are pregnant, if there are kids, you are not number one anymore. You have to make quality time for eachother and do things together and talk about other things as money problems, kid problems. I think most marriages are not great it always been that way already for ages. Only reason people did not divorce was because of money (women had no place to go). Now we also have other reasons to get married. We think we only marry out of love and have our own picture about how a marriag out of love should be. But reality is different and if you are marrying with that idea you are far from realistic and it can be very hard to find out you did not count on marriage being that tough. You thought love would survive everything your partner will always be lovely (no bad mood) understanding and forgiving. If you are more realistic about marriage, don't forget about your own life/wishes and friends and count with the fact problems are normal but will pass by and this has nothing to do with to love or not to love the other one it's way easier to have a good, succesful marriage.