using me: too much for a friend

Hello luntian, I think you are being too intent and emotional with friends. While it may be right to be good with friends, too much of expectation placed can make people that you are too overbearing. And you may also try to do things as a matter of fact and not being overzealous. But if you think that's your natural instinct then do not place too hard counter expectations. The world is full of different types of people and you have to wait to get friends that match your likes & dislikes.

If your friends are like that, then they are not your real friends. A friend is someone who can be with you through thick and thin.

I fortunately don't have friends who use me. It's been along while since I've experienced something like this. It is very sad when we are there for others and are true friends but they aren't their when you need them. That can be really frustrating. Keep looking for true friends and you will find them. They are few and far in between but there are genuine individuals who make great friends.

I had also experienced this. And indeed it made me realized a lot of things. When I was absent for 2 weeks at school, there are only few who do care much for me. And I never expect that that person is definitely a true friend. I am actually a person who seemed to be independent but in times of getting sick or having problems, I am also longing that there are at least few of my friends that wound care to ask what is my situation is or on what condition I am. I don't know if this is too demanding to ask. It's just that I am not getting the reciprocal of my efforts on my friends. Well then, it is really true that there are only few people in this world, few for those who truly cares for you, and fewer for those who are true. Keep that thought luntian_grace.. :)

Fortunately I don't have friends that use me and leave me in my burdens. I am sorry about what you have been carrying now and wishes that you will find or have friends that you can lean on, something like give and take method. Even things changed and I am away, a simple text message or a short time visit is enough for to feel that they still cares and they are trying to catch up with me... Please try to be relax and think twice before making your friends become close friends.. Time comes with challenges and that is to measure someones relationship..so be careful next time.

around me,there are some friend, part of them we connect usually,but not every one of this part are all real friends. other part of them we connect not so much, but when i get trouble ,they all give me a hand and raise up my sprite, they are real friends. Thanks them! hope you will find some real friend tomorrow! good luck1

If you have those kind of friends, it's best that you just treat them the way they treat you. You can't always expect them to treat you the same way that you treat them. If you are expecting them to be like that in which doing so is your motivation in expecting them to give you the same kind of treatment, I guess you just have to wait for them to do such things on their own. You can't instantly expect them to do what you can do for them after all. Later on, you would realize that these friends might be more than a liability than assets in your life. When you realize that, you just have to lose them in your circle. I guess that can be cruel, but it's for your own good. You try to keep their company and you know yourself that you are happy about it, then you are just hurting yourself. Remember, a few good friends is better than having a lot that are not true friends at all.

well first do not always feel you have to have a friend support you as maybe they also think you are going to use them. calm down and help only if you wish to. I have had so called friends who are users so I just turn them off when they ask too much. I have one dear best friend who is always helping me and we are always helping her but we are careful to be good to e ach other always.

I do experience having fake friends and thanks God I have come to know their real colors before worst thing happens. I always trust friends and that's one reason why I do not suspect any of betraying. We learned from those experiences and must be careful then.

Oh dear I had friends for years like that. Abusing me in every way. In the end as it was too much for me I found out that I was the only one who was always giving, being there and there was never anything in return. So I changed my attitude. Why? Because that is what makes you attract these kind of people. Now I only invest in people who do the same for me. So I wait and see and I treat people the way they treat me. No longer always being friendly, helpful, there no matter what. Btw I also found out that the friends I had were never that kind of friends I would have picked out/choose myself at the first place. They showed up at a certain time, stayed, sticked and I did want to give everyone a fair change no matter of religion, educations, social status etc. I know now this was wrong. You have to have the same idea about how a friend should be, what you expect from a friend. It can't be just one way.