would you like to live with your parents when you are married?

Here in India it is a common practice that a woman has to live in their husband's parent's house until they get a new home or until they have a baby. Generally mother-in-laws are treated as cruel ladies who always cause trouble to the daughter in law and they don't like their son spending too much time with his wife. And i wouldn't live in my parents house if i am married and i can afford to build a house,so that i dont have to see my mother fighting with my wife.

Might you want to explain to your mother in law that you are working and trying to generate income thru online. For me, your situation is a bit okay since your husband is only child and looks like the house is not that crowded with other relatives. It is wise that your family lives there to cut some expenses plus some companion too, to look over the baby when you are doing some house hold. But the way I see it also is that your mother in law has another idea on why you are still up at night doing online. And she maybe thinks that you are doing some immoral thing on the internet that's why she kept on look at you at night. Just explain if she thinks in this way.

I would try and tactfully explain to her that this time is when you are able to work a little and have some free time. Hopefully she will understand and appreciate that. That would be a difficult situation. I wouldn't want to live in the same house with my in laws or parent. We like our privacy and own space. But their are families that do this well and enjoy it.

I wouldn't want to live with my parents when I am married because I want to live life on my own absolutely.Maybe it will be ok for to live with them for months,but after years I would really love to have my own home and experience the feeling of being independent.Being independent does not mean I am forgetting them.Even though I am away I would still visit them as they are my parents.:) About mylotting... You can tell your mom in law that you wan't to go online.Tell her that you are enjoying being here.Tell her that you earn.I bet she will allow you.:)

Sometimes the mother in law love to stay to their house..And help us to do something ...well,for me it depends sometimes there is culture that you can live with once you are married,and other it is okay to live with but not always..

In my country, if your living with your mother, and she owns the house. You listen to your mom. NO doubt about it, but you can always sneak on, "What your mom can't see, won't hurt her"

Wow, wanting you to go to sleep at such an early time. Like she is wanting you to be treated like a child almost. I could see her concern with maybe thinking this would interfere with you being able to take care of your child, but this is a little bit too much especially since you are married. But at the same time you are living under their roof right now, so maybe you need to discuss this situation more with your husband and find a better way to compromise.

There are advantages and disadvantages to live with parents. However, perhaps the advantages are still more than the disadvantages. First, the living cost will be lower. Second, at least you have someone who can do some housework, such as prepare for the meal. Third, today it is common for the couples to go to work, so parents are the best and trustful persons who can take care of the baby. Fourth, your parents will not feel alone since they live with you. I love China

I think that it's a good thing for a newly married couple to live with their parents for a short time when they first become parents, as there is nothing better than being able to have a strong support network when a baby is born so that it can get everything that it needs to grow up healthily without the parents getting so stressed that they can't function anymore. However, couples should move into their own house within a couple of years, otherwise they'd never be able to be independent and function in their own right.

Unless it is a matter of necessity, i believe that newly married couples should start out life on their own. It is too easy to let yourself be ruled by another and you end up living their life instead of your own.

I think you just have to explain to her lovingly why you like to go online still. Maybe you can tell her that it's your chance to go online, while the baby is already sleeping and that you are not sleepy yet. Assure her that you will still be looking after the baby once in a while.

i think, live with parents when you are married is a good thing. they can help us in many things right, if they want you to sleep when your baby sleep, i think that good advice,because your baby need you. you have to limit your inline time for a while. your baby is more important than being online.

Me and my husband moved our of our parents house before we where married. We did live with his grandparents for a few months till we found a place to live in. What really got us on the move was me being pregnant and then driving me crazy about all kind of Jesus this Jesus that stuff and how we where living isn't the correct way before we where married and stuff. So we had an apartment when I was 5 months pregnant with my daughter. We just moved out and now living with my husbands cousin in a new apartment because she wants to get out on her own but she doesn't know how so we are teaching her. I've always taken care of my daughter on my own with no help from other family. I like it that way because I need to do it on my own and live my life the way I need to and not the way other want me to. If I was in your shoes I would just tell my husbands mother hey, I know the baby goes to bed at 8 but I'm not tired at 8 and I'm also not a baby. So when I'm tired I'll go to bed. Right now I want my alone time to relax and do as I want what ever that would be. I love living with you if you love with them say if not say I appreciate you let use three live her but I also need to live my life my way outside of you and your husband and let me take care of me. We can share taking care of the baby and my husband. I pulled ranking on my husbands grandmother. I told her I'm the baby's mom I'll do what I want to do and how I want to do it. Other wise if you don't like it then you don't need to be around me and my husbands baby. If you can respect the way I take care of me and my family then you can see her.

I myself prefer not. since I like quiteness and freedom. But take other elements into consideratin, and comparing the pros and cons. I think it's ok to live together. If you are not a full-time housewife, then your parents to a large extent help most of the houseworks. Especially when you are occupied by a small child.

I would not live with my parents when I'm married because by then,I should have been financially stable.Besides,I don't want them to meddle with my affairs.

Ewww. No way do I want to live with my husband's parents if I ever marry... I don't think I'd like to do it with my own parents either. Sticky business.

To be frank i don't like to live with my in law's,if it is our own parents we can say our likes and dislikes and definitely they will not involve in our life.But here you can say your mother-in-law it is not time for to sleep you want to be online.If she is a good mother-in-law she will actually allow you to be online your baby already slept,.then why she is insisting you to sleep.

Why don't you tell her that it is routine activity and it will take at most 1 or 2 hours. Just renegotiate it. However if I can choose, I will choose to live not with my parents. Except, my parents already to old to do everything by themselves. That is the time we take care for.