Worthless as I've become, what's the point of survival now?

My advice to you is shift the base of your thoughts as soon as possible and when you do that you will get a new lease of life. At the moment your base is the opinion of your mother and your family and that is your mistake. There is a whole world out there. Look for your family from among them. The gap between family and society is narrowing at a galloping rate and soon they will merge. I wish you good luck! Lastly kindly remember that those that we call family may be zeros compared to the great people that are there in this world. You should befriend them.

I have been where you are more than once. Please do not allow your mother or anyone else to dictate what sort of person you are. I feel sorry for them. When i was younger I that that love only came once and was devastated when my 1st serious relationship ended. But, guess what. I did find love more than once since then. Love does not come in 1 person, place or thing. It's all around you. What you have to do is pick yourself up, look in the mirror and realize the loss is hers and to the ones who are deserting you during this dark time in your life. A good friend told me this once when I thought I was never gonna find love again. He said simply, "when you are down, there is no where to go but up". And it is so true. I firmly believe that if your life ended today , that you would find yourself in a much worse place on the other side. So, please get help. Turn to friends that are there and here for you.Best wishes..

It's a shame that you're feeling as though you're worthless at the moment, but you should remember that life is full of challenges that we need to learn how to overcome in order to live life to the maximum that we possibly can do. You should also remember that this is a normal feeling for everybody to have at some point during the course of their lives, and most people do manage to get over it and achieve the things that they had always wanted to achieve in their lives. I do give you my best wishes and hope that you feel better soon.

No, I don't think you should drag onto your so called worthless life that other's have stated and change it into something you can be happy about. Everyone has deserted you but you still have yourself to fight for. "Everything happens for a reason, people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they're right, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can come together."

Sorry for what you are going through. In life, we are usually faced with many challenges and sometimes it takes our courage and determination to move on and realize how much we are worth. People, family, friends may desert you but there is only one person who will never desert you and that is God. Look up God and call him during this time of pain and sincerely you will find peace in Him. Don't think of harming yourself because a woman has left you or the uncouth words from your mum, you are worth and you deserve to live. No matter how painful and hurting a situation may seems to be, it is not usually the end of the channel, and there is usually other side of road that awaits us. You just have to patience and you will reach there. Cheer up.

Also (Sorry hadn't read the mom part), a mother can never mean anything bad for her kids. My mom says things that KILL ME but then she says she didn't mean it. She means well for you. Ultimately, you are a lone wolf and wouldn't care what others would say right? Well that's what I think.

You may have lost your loved one, but I say you are not worthless. You Lost your mother's trust in you because at this point she is disappointed in you; But that does not mean you continue to lose your self to the way of the world. Pain comes to each one of us, very differently though but it happens to us, not a single person is spared from it. Remember though that when you are troubled, it means you are faced with an opportunity - to make your life better. She left you for someone else, she grew tired of waiting, etc but it could only mean that you are not meant to be together and you have to be free of relationship now because you are to find your soulmate. Things need to happen. Remember this verse in the bible, whenever you feel that you are so troubled, and in pain and you think you could no longer go on... “We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to His purpose.” - Romans 8:28 This should remind us that everything happens for a reason, and all things that are happening in our lives has to happen for a good purpose later on. It may be too vague, your eyes are clouded right now.. but soon you will see what good things awaits you. As they say, when you are going through hell, just keep going. You will find the end of it all if you do! My prayers are with you mr_pearl. Just hang in there. Life is not worthless, and so are you! You are precious, you are loved.

Mr.Pearl! There would be two parts to my response [I warn you in advance] I can understand your distress ; you are already down and out and you need a sympathetic ear right now. I am sorry your mother [in all her good intentions] has failed to provide this. It would have been better if she had been sensitive to your suffering and given more comforting words . But, let me tell you if your lady love has rejected you so be it. It is better for you to make peace with your state of affairs. You were torn on two sides. THe result is that one side has given way and left. Let it be; this does not mean you are worthless. Better pull yourself up and get on with your life.This girl is not wasting breath over you and is not losing any sleep over her choice of rejection. SHe is happy. You would be a loser only if you allow her to make you unhappy.This is only a relationship of a very few years in the whole span of your lifetime.You are young; you surely have some talent; let it flourish and kindly look at your career. Are you without a job? THen seek some employment, some productive hobby if you are in family business or something and get on with your life. You ought not to wallow in self pity and once you start showing you are a man of character who has something to achieve and have some real skills people look up to, you will see the difference in yourself and also the way people look at you. DO not get swayed by weak emotions . All the best!

Know this. You are a god person with a great heart. Your mom is sooo wrong! You are a smart , sensitive , strong willed , kind person who has worth. If you lady love has left it isn't about you and more about her.If she couldn't wait , if her love couldn't last then she wasn't the right girl. And all this means is the right woman is still out there waiting for you. If your family thinks you are so worthless then they Should let you go! My dear friend you have worth and you Have to get here to the States. There has to be a way. If the family has given up , then Why halt you from coming here? I will always keep hoping that she will contact you Or you find another good woman.

NO life is worthless, nobody will be left unattended. Both u and your mom are doing the right things. U are trying to live the life u want, while your mom cares about u, like any other mom. U are in the state of depression now, and u have to come out of it. Whatever your mom is telling u, they are just words to wake u up from your current slump with your ex gf. Losing love, is not losing everything. Love lost can be found again, but mom? Once she has totally given up on u, u will feel much worse than now. Pull yourself together, get out of the slump by starting on your hobbies again. There u will find a new lease of life, and be a son, your mom feels proud of.

oh I'm so sorry for what you've been through now, but if things like that happened to you, just pray and help God's help, just tell Him everything you want to say and tell him all your pain and I'm sure in time everything will be fine. goodluck! I hope everything will be fine soon:)

Sorry for what you are going through. Although I haven't faced heartbreak, I have been as extremely depressed as you are now the last year. I just started going out with friends, chatting helps and relieves the pain a lot. Also time is the only thing that can heal you. Learn from your experience and you will come out to be a stronger person than you were ever.