Are you proud of your life
By curmont
@curmont (343)
United States
November 3, 2011 3:19pm CST
Recently I was reading some message that my husband sent to people from his past that he reconnected with through facebook. As I was reading I noticed that alot of the things he claimed to have done or be doing were flat out lies. This got me to thinking about why he would be embarrassed to tell people the truth about his life. He may not have a flashy car or a huge mansion but he is a good man and takes good care of his family I do not see the need to lie to impress people from the past who to me should be irrelevant. So I was wondering are you proud of the life you have lived and the person you have become? When you hear from people from your childhood either through facebook or maybe a high school reunion do you tell the whole truth or do you embellish on what your life has been like?
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I think I'm proud of my life but sometimes it's hard to say. I can understand your husband "lying" because some people may make ignorant comments if the reality is told and sometimes it's not really worth the time to dwell on. But I guess it depends on the lie.. how obvious it is.. and all..
@curmont (343)
• United States
4 Nov 11
He lies about what he does for a living and says things like just came back from vacation overseas or things like that I just dont understand why these peoples opinion matter to him and besides I do not judge his worth as a man by these things and anyone who does is ignorant. He is a good husband and father I don't understand why this is not enough for him it almost makes me feel as though he is ashamed of us or the life we have built
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Nov 11
It is difficult to say if I am proud of my life. I am proud on me that is for sure. I am proud and happy I choose for myself at a very young age, I lost a lot, had to start over 14 times all over again but I made it. I made my own life, I have no debts, I don't have anyone to say thanks to and I try to be as free as possible in my situation. This is more as enough to be proud of. I made it alone and I can live alone, I don't feel lonesome or miserable or bored. I don't need to impress anybody or prove myself since I am a great strong individual. What more does one need.
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@curmont (343)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I think that is great that you do not feel the need to impress people, I too am proud of what I have accomplished in life and I know if not for the bad times the good times would not be possible. I think to deny where we come from or the things we go through is to deny who we truly are. Congrats on being a strong and independent person my hat is off to you
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
3 Nov 11
the only friends that matter to me are the ones I have now and the ones I met in the university. I wouldn't embellish anything to them, as they never judge me
the ones in high school and lower were mostly full of themselves
although life might have taught them good lessons, but then again I never connect to them and I'm not bothered
FB friends I only know most of them from games or similar interest in spirituality
I don't talk much to them other than what's going on in the world
the few I know from forums like this, I wouldn't embellish anything to them either
probably the people your hubby reconnects with are like those I met in high school
well he can always unfriend and block them
there is no need to impress them as he makes his own life without their help
in fact there is no need to reconnect in the first place either unless he wants to show off something
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
3 Nov 11
I'm certainly happy and proud with the life that I have. Sure, there are some things that I wish were better or a little different, but I'm still happy and proud of the life that I have all the same. I can't really complain about much, at the moment. What I may complain about are really minor things.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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3 Nov 11
I think that it would probably depend upon which person I happened to be talking to, and how close we'd been during our time at school. If we were never close, I'd probably just skirt around the truth and tell them the main (positive) things that have been happening in my life. However, if we'd been close and we'd been out of touch accidentally, then I would probably spend a little more time telling them about other things that had happened in my life as well, maybe including all of the negative things that have happened as well as the positive things.
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
4 Nov 11
Overall,my life is great with many possibilities.I have great friends and we do crazy things together.Most importantly,i have my parents support me and i have a warm family.These are enough.Doing meaningful things to make my life full of surprises and full.Life is short so i have a energetic soul in my heart.
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
even with the many predicaments that i have now, i think i am proud because i have children that tried their best to excel. i am proud because even with the many challenges, we were able to send them to school, provide for them, and we have shelter. i am proud because of the love that we have for each other. our family may not be perfect but it is filled mostly with love and laughter.
i am proud because i was able to raise myself from poverty. i was even able to graduate from college because of a scholarship. who would not be proud of it? do not get me wrong, i am not rich but i feel i am because i was able to improve myself.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Nov 11
Sometimes, sometimes not. There times that I am contented of what i have right now and feel proud of it but there also moments that i envy those people who are living comfortably,earning,traveling and etc. I also want those things they have right now but I just told my self that they may have all those but deep inside they are not happy because they haven't found their true happiness and found the one that will make them happy for life. Why am i saying this because most of my batch mates are flashing their things and projecting that they are successful but i can see in their eyes that they are still in search of something.
In reunions i don't often attend cause i know they will only make people feel low and most of them are pretending.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
When I reunite with my college or high school friends and they would ask what's going on with my life right now, i really tell the truth that I am working for this company under this position and I already had a child, that right now I still don't have my own house or car. I cannot see any reason to pretend something that I never had. There are really people who cannot accept what they became with or what they had with their lives. But we cannot blame them, instead we should try to understand them.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
if I'm proud of my life and yes and no.
This does not only depend on us depends on our family.
I think it all be proud of itself is a combination of these qualities.
Now to tell you why I'm proud of my life first, because I have two children, twins found I hope it is my love and I hope it is true.
way which is that my husband are some wonderful relationships.
but I'm not proud of the achievements because there's always more where ever possible as I want to be financially independent to get a job and be able to pamper their children even more.
Very interesting discussion.
Have a nice day!
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@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I am proud of my life and my family, I think that I have acomplish most of the things I dreamt,I don't say lies because my life is good and is going to get, better because I don't feel that I got to the end of my blesses, I will continue hoping waiting and working on increase my quality of life.
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@flowerfest08 (1677)
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4 Nov 11
hi:)
well I can say that I'm kinda proud of my life, I don't have many things and I am not successful either but I don't lie about it... well for your husband maybe he is shy that his friends have more than him but maybe if you told him about how great he is even without those, then maybe he will stop lying about it. i think it's more because of pride and insecurities on his part.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
I admit I haven't done things I should be proud of yet because I am still very young.I haven't finished my studies and haven't gotten a job so I am not proud of what I am yet.
But if I were your husband I wouldn't do the same.As you have said,he is a good father to your children,and I know he is also a good husband to you so there is no need to lie.He does not need to lie about having a nice car because I think just having a nice family is something he should be really proud of.Not all people are able to have a peaceful family.
But I think it would have been better if he really had those cars and nice house because it is really good to have those.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 11
sometime, i do not proud of my life.
because of my life is so bad.
feeling so hollow.
but now.
i can find my self and my existance.
i dont have to fear lose my life.
i live mt life with my own way, whether it is good or not for the other, i will not care.
the most important thing, i can enjoy mynlife as myself and proud of this.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 11
yes in spite of being evicted and h omeless and my son jovless, we survived we both have a p lace to live for now and we survived my son being laid off,our ev iction, and now are starting to rcover so no I am not a shamed at all. I am honest and kind and good to people. I am elderly and happy as I am not on t he street.We survived in spite of all the mean stuff thrown our way ane we will recoop very soon.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I am sure he only wants to save his ego and pride as a husband and man.
Well, we can never judge any person for doing so esp when seeing that their friends are successful and having a better life.
I never tell lies to my friends and will never tell a lie either.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
4 Nov 11
OMG curmont...Its amazing what some people will do to attempt
to make themselves to be larger than life...I only have one
thing about my life I regret and that is I didn 't attend college right
afer graduation..I have attended some years later..I have 2 grown children
born down south..live in New york now..never married.. lived long enough to see my 2 grand children reach 12 and 18 years old..a 6 year cancer survivor..
62 years old...and I love God....I have nothing to be ashame of..What u see
is what it is.....