I thought they would be together forever!

After staying together that long you'd think unless one of them cheated on each other that they would fight to keep the marriage going.

No. All my friends are either still married or Very single. The biggest shock I had about a marriage breaking up was Al and Tipper Gore! After over 20 years of marriage. I guess when it is over , it is over.

My Best friend from High School got a Divorce from her High School sweetheart about 6 yrs. ago, and is engaged last I knew and planning on getting married again. Personally it was her husband that cheated on her, but this is really a sad thing when they got divorced, but things happen and people move on.

I don'y know hwy people married an then get divorce after.if people are married and having problems,they need to work it out.I don't think these people now a days take their married wows seriously. When my husband ask me to marry him, u said with one condition.Promise me that no matter what happen we will never get divorce. No marriage is perfect, every married have a little glitch here an their.But it is up to couples to work it out. It said to hear an hear ,about people who have been married for a number of years get divorce. In relationship both partners have to be strong,no matter the Challenge that you face in their marriage.it can be work out. it sad .......

Oh yes I a couple of friends that had a beautiful marriage since what I could see, but then she was pregnant of their second baby, they filed for divorced,and before 5 months they were already with different couple,that was shocking for me because it was too fast.

Yes. One of my best friend and her boyfriend was together for a very long time then suddenly separated.they grew apart from each other and mutually end their relationship. It also saddened me because they've been my best friend for a long time and they've witnessed my heartbreaks and a lot more. I also know some couples that been together for a long time and they planned to get married; they had everything planned like they deposited already to their reception venue, they already fitted their gowns an so on but one day they ended ttheir relationship for some reason. I know people are shocked when a long time couples relationship has ended because I think people including me believed that it is always a happy ending unfortunately some don't. Right now, it's better to just be happy for your friend and support her. They know what they are doing and if they are really meant for each other then their paths will lead to each other again. Love at second time around is sweeter according to my mom.

Oh I know a couple back then. they seemed so perfect for each other and it feels like they are to be married with kids, etc. But news came out and they are no longer together, which does not make any sense. makes me sometimes feel weird to see them dating another person, especially if introduced the first time, i would feel like, oh wow.. you still look better with ___ (in my head of course. haha)

Not friends but my older brother actually. I had thought him and his 1st wife were a perfect couple but..... That's how life goes, some can solve issues and others can't, so they seperate. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~

I think it's pretty much always a shock when people get divorced, even if you can sort of see it coming. The biggest shocker for me was my son's Godparents. I met them when I was 16. They were older than me, had already been married for like 10 years. In hindsight I knew there were some problems. He talked about them sometimes, I guess he was really miserable because why else would he have vented to me when I was so young and didn't understand. He even basically told me they were never intimate anymore. He said she talked about wanting kids but didn't "do anything about it". That same night that he said that stuff to me.. he was driving me home from their house. Around 2 in the morning I got a call from her asking if I knew where he was. He'd never gone home after dropping me off. This was shocking. He wasn't the type to go out and not tell her where he was going. He was a decent guy.. the most decent I'd ever known. So then, a few months after that I went to their house and she told me he had moved out. He just woke up one morning and said he was done and he was leaving. He just up and left. Even she was shocked. I don't really know any of the details behind why he was so unhappy, because I was so young. After their divorce he didn't really talk to me much, which upset me. I guess he was afraid of putting me in the middle of it.. but I just wanted him to remain a friend and be there for my son because my son didn't have a father and I thought his Godfather would be a good father figure. Until the divorce we spent so much time with them. So when they divorced it was like he left me and my son also. It was heartbreaking. I went years without hearing from him.. but then awhile ago I found him on Facebook. He's remarried now and he seems really happy. He's got 2 kids, about 8 and 5 or something like that, one boy one girl. He has sent me messages once or twice about how bad he feels over leaving me and my son like that.. and tried to explain his position. Although I was young, I was really mature. I handled it without a problem.. and still the only thing that bothers me is that he left me, and he didn't need to. I would have been fine with being friends with both of them seperately. Actually I did remain friends with her for a few years after their divorce.. but eventually I realized I'd never really been friends with her in the first place. I met the couple at the baseball stadium.. and it was him that I liked. He was a goofball. He knew how to have a good time. She wasn't exactly serious, but she didn't let loose the way he did. She was more of a just sit there and chat sort of person where as he could get loud and funny (but not obnoxious). In time I realized she and I really had nothing in common.. and then her life started going in a very odd direction that I didn't like. First she started seeing a married man, which I thought was absolutely awful. Then, when she was like 40ish she started seeing this 25 year old, and so she started acting like a 25 year old. She was always going out all the time.. and then I'd hear about all the drama between her and her boyfriend. I'm not trying to knock the age difference or anything.. it was more or less the behavior. It just wasn't like her. You know. When I met her she was respectable.. not the type who'd suddenly revert back to being childish. And this was all years after the divorce, so it didn't make sense. I guess maybe she was just that lonely.. but it wasn't just the guy, like I said, it was all of her behavior. She had also started acting weird with my son. It wasn't unusual for her to want to take him places or do things with him.. and I never had any problem with it, until the night when she asked him to a hockey game and he was in tears because he didn't want to go, but I didn't know why. He just said he didn't want to go. Then, I had asked her to help me out with getting him to and from his baseball games because I only had 1 car at the time and hubby was working (my twins were just babies at the time). So she'd call me up after I'd already taken hubby to work so I could have the car, and offer to take my son to his game. When I informed her I already had the car and was going to the game either way, she would back out and say nevermind.. instead of going along with me. Almost as if she'd only go if I didn't. It just seemed really weird. Part of me sort of felt like she was trying to be his mom whenever I wasn't around.. not that I have any proof, it's just the vibe I got, you know. (Shortly there after she did, completely out of the blue, decide to adopt a little girl from China). So my relationship with her had been steadily going downhill and we'd been in contact less and less. So then I discovered I was pregnant with my 4th child. I e-mailed her to let her know, and her response was "Ouch, how are you going to afford that?". I replied with some nasty remarks and never spoke to her again.

Hi Jillhill. I am sorry to hear about your friends getting a divorce. I have a neighbor that I thought he and his wife were so happy and would be together forever too. Well they made it until the kids got grown, educated, married and left the house. Come to find out that the woman was the one wearing the pants in the house and the man just got tired of it. You know all we can do is pray for them (our friends and family), because we never know what is going on behind closed doors.

The divorce just proved that there is nothing really permanent in this world. We see couples who are very sweet to each other, then suddenly the next thing you'll know is that they have parted ways. I sometimes worry about the children of husbands and wives who are undergoing divorce process. They are very innocent and yet suffer emotional stress due to their parent's incompatibility.

Love and relationships can seem so easy and yet so complicated too. We can't take people or situations for granted. So much changes in our lives and that goes for our feelings too. Forever in love is a wonderful concvept but it is one that needs to be nurtured or it can never be.

I know some couple whom i considered their marriage perfect. But suddenly heard a news that they were no longer together. Worst, they are now busy starting with their lives separately. New chapter, if i may say. ;-)... Building their new family, separately. Well I guess that's life. We are now in a new generation and that we don't have any choice but to accept this kind of reality. We can never tell what will happen next, only God knows what, when or where. WE cannot judge them, because we are not in their place, we don't know the real situation, we don't know what's behind the scene that strongly supports their decision and lead them to where they are now. But definitely, each of us is responsible for our own action.

I don`t have too many friends but yes i was surprised too to find out how many things have changed in their lives. It`s nothing we can do we should warn them if we think they are doing something bad,or support them if we think they are doing something good and then we should let them live their lives we have no right to interfere no matter how much they mean to us.It hurts especially if your best friend is doing something you think it may hurt him/her but it`s the right thing to do and we should always do the right thing.

That's ashame but these things happen. It's sad to invest so many years in a marriage only to find out one of the spouses has been cheating but it happens so often. I have two friends who I thought would be together with their spouses forever. They seemed so in love. Later I found out some dirty secrets about one of the friends and now know why her husband divorced her. The other couple had a different story and the wife simply was tired of her husband drinking all the time to the point he couldn't work.

Hi Jill! That really sounds so sad. I have a friend who is separated with his husband but that didn't come as a surprise to me because the guy was a playboy. But they've been together since we were in high school and ever since, we've told the guy to take care of our friend or he's going to get it. Well, I think the saying that you will only really know someone when you get to live with him/her under one roof. When you're living together you discover every little thing about your partner. Some might be lovable things and some might be annoying things. I guess it depends on how a person will handle those things and it will also depend on the level of their love for each other.

It is sad but people who get together young just grow up and grow apart. It is not unusual. Heartbreaking though. I just hope that the wife is not sowing a few middle aged oats and regrets it a little way down the line.

Nothing lasts forever. Change is the rule, rather than the exception. If love does not last between two individuals, divorce would be the sensible solution. Yes, the kids would be affected and a friend of mine is not leaving her husband "for the sake of the children." They still live together, but they're living separate lives. In my opinion, letting the children know the truth and see what's real would be better than exposing them to this kind of farce.

I've seen both unexpected divorce and unexpected 30 years so far! It's never predictable. We have friends who got married as soon as her mother signed that it was ok. She was 13 when they met. I've seen rock solid grand parents get a divorce when their grand kids were in college and some had had families of their own! There is just no predicting it!

Really life is for change so peoples always interested in changing their lives often. No one is depending upon another for couples they are both are earning so they need just one minute to end up their relationship. I never mind upon couples getting married and get divorced when they are not satisfied their needs with the other.