Why I want to know you

I tend to avoid any instance wherein I had to deal or meet or work with someone I was just about to know or barely know. Avoidance is usually what I employ to keep myself from that stress. Believe me, it's beginning to look like social phobia. But once I have warmed up, things become better. I really just need to know how to deal with first time meetings. It seems like other people get alone well almost in an instant and I feel envious about that.

I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm a very shy person, but I am a somewhat shy person. I don't really want to get to know every person that I encounter really well, but there are people that I am drawn to and in those situations, those are people that I see something in and that is the reason that I want to make the effort to get to know those people. I am one of those poeple that doesn't have a lot of casual friends, but I have a select few very close friends.

I am little bit on the reserve side but it doesn't mean that I am shy but only that I couldn't make myself take the first move to break the ice. The first approach can be daunting but once I am comfortable talking to a person than it will be easier to move on to the next chapter. I can say I am a good conversationalist and usually once someone get to know me in person they will enjoy being in my company as I make them feel that I am no stranger to them like a long lost friend.

Hi savypat, I feel that I could learn a great deal from you. We do think a lot alike but I was nearly 70 when I started thinking this way and there is so much to learn. I agree that there are no mistakes in life but I know that I haven't been socializing enough and it would be good to meet new people. Living in a small town means that there isn't much that I find interesting so the Internet has become my inspiration. Like you I feel that every person we meet comes baring a gift. Blessings.

I can relate to the feelings of shyness. As a child I was very shy and would not talk to anyone unless I knew them well. My mother was a little concerned about me but things got better as I grew. I still feel self-conscious occasionally but I found that when I relax and enjoy whoever I am talking to I have a fine experience, depending on who the person is! Some folks are easy for me to feel comfortable with and others are a no go. I think it a matter of chemistry between people, some are compatible and some are not! I think it is important to remember that relationships cannot be forced.

I have no problem meeting people, however, there are those few people that I get the feeling that I should stay away from. So, would I want to meet everyone who comes into my life? No, not at all. I am also a shy person, but I am very calculated as well.

I'm very shy too. And I like this discussion. I agree to what you said.

I am not that eager to meet people either. It's easy to write or write a lot but talking to people is something different too. It mostly tires me out and I love the silence. I have less interest in meeting people I met via internet in life. I did it a few times but they always turned out to be completely different. Not by appearance btw but by behaviour. Seems many people are not great in painting a honest picture of themselves. To discover this time after time is not really a gift anymore.

i was shy boy, but after entering college, my shyness dissappeared. i knew, shyness come when we dont have self confident. so build up your self esteem, get more friends, have more skill, be nice an sociable