Why do people lie to impress people?
By krishawinner
@krishawinner (41)
India
November 4, 2011 9:42am CST
I have observed in my life that many of my own friends tell lies so frequently to impress their loved ones. why don't people understand that "IF WINTER COMES SPRING CANNOT BE FAR BEHIND". the lies that they tell will not last longer. the moment people realize that they were being misguided by the disguised cobwebs the whole respect, affection, turns into anger, remorse, hatred. All i wanted to stress is that there are other ways that people impress others, like with their good character.
Friends suggest some methods for impressing your loved ones.. let this discussion be a guide to those people who intend to impress.
8 responses
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
4 Nov 11
To make it short, though, people lie for a number of different reasons:
- to save their own skin
- to make something sound impressive, to distort facts
- to avoid hurting others
- to protect others, to protect their own feelings
- to cover up their past or their mistakes
- to make themselves or someone else feel better
The list goes on, but lies aren't exactly always a bad thing. It's more like a tool, but most people tend to use them for their own ends, which is why we label lies as an immoral thing for someone to do.
@krishawinner (41)
• India
6 Nov 11
well expounded..
one impressive thing about lies that i have observed is that people lie when they feel inferior. when this inferiority complex comes then comes the worst part of it. inferiority of all kinds like status, wealth, popularity, and anything and everything.
@rashima (72)
• India
8 Nov 11
When you impress someone with a false appreciation, that impression will not last longer.
There can be some extent of lie when you try to gain love of the loved ones. But such lie is NOT considered dangerous as long as it doesn't cause harm or detrimental effect.
There is an element of subtlety in impressing someone with a lie, and can come naturally to some people who do it very casually.
I've a friend who always tries to impress others by exaggerations which I initially took offensively, but after much routine interaction with him I find him doing it for the fun which is his nature.
And when you know who're your loved ones, you'll ignore such lies because your love forgives their lies and that's where your maturity blossoms not considering their lies as a crime and culpable.
And when you realize that people are different and unique in their own traits as there are roses and also thorns as their siblings, you will accept them as naturally as they're created and enjoy the nature's variations.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
there are just people who have an interest that they would do anything, even lie about it just so they can get what they want. i believe people who does lie on small things such as this would be lying on bigger things and are even capable of such acts just sso they can impress others.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
5 Nov 11
I think fear is the answer. They fear to be themselves. They wear a mask all day long that if they take it out, it will expose them to wounds and hurt. So they rather lie a lie.
Some ways the fear show itself:
1. Fear of losing face
2. Fear of losing job
3. Fear of losing love ones
4. Fear of this, fear of that.
5. You fill in the list as long as you want.
Frankly, the only thing to fear is God. Don't we know we have to stand in judgment for the lies that has been uttered?
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
5 Nov 11
I totally know someone who lies to impress but unfortunately, it's doing the opposite. It's hard to impress family because they know you an they know you are lying. But people tend to lie to impress friends or other people outside the family. There is this one girl in my year at school who lies a lot. She lies to her friends and she lies on Facebook. The thing is, she lies about the most unimpressive things like sleeping with her her friends' ex boy boyfriends, drinking and smoking. She also lied that she had some boyfriend in another state who was coming to her house to stay. Her lies are so absurd, everyone simply just laughs at her and kinda teases her. She's not producing a better reputation by saying all those lies. It just makes her reputation even worse. I don't lie to impress because I would feel really low if I did. It's better to impress truthfully.
@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
People lie to impress people because they have insecurities within themselves. They have not come to accept the way they are, hence, they want to create within themselves illusions for other people to see and believe. They want to escape realities within them that make them who they are-- with abilities, strengths and weaknesses.
Being as such, it is only by knowing and accepting who we are and what we are made of that we learn to be truthful and honest with ourselves and to others as well.